Hello, I am Dr.Gould. I am a psychiatrist.

I have created MyVirtualShrink to help you listen to yourself. It is based on my book: Transformations: Growth and Change in Adult Life.

In this program there are no therapists but there are over 350 available therapeutic "sessions" to guide you through any of the problems in living that are bothering you right now. The sessions cover the full range from the insecurities and self criticism you impose on yourself to relationship friction, to work, to loneliness, to caring for others, and much more.

During each online interactive session you will be guided to think clearly, which means thinking broadly with perspective, listening to what your feelings are telling you, and analyzing in what ways your feelings might be leading you in the wrong direction as well as the right direction. This is the kind of conversation I have with my patients and now you can have this same conversation with yourself at any time.

1. What's bothering me? 2. What can I do about it? 3. Why don't I do it?

The emphasis will be on what you can do right now to reduce your stress by taking a thoughtful and safe next step on the path to resolution. The solution will come from you. We will draw it out and help you put it into common sense action language so you can do it, or at least think about why you are not doing it.

Thinking about an emotionally charged problem is hard for everyone to do alone, but it is something you must do if you want to keep your life moving forward with the minimum of distress and the maximum amount of satisfaction.

This is a place where you safely think and you won't get lost. Here is where you can get access to the most intelligent part of your own mind. You may start feeling stuck and confused. You will end with clarity.

Get started now!

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to work on my cravings        I want to solve my guilt problem        I want to change my anger at another person

	MORE FROM DR. GOULD (close) If you're feeling anxious, stressed, down or just unhappy it's probably because you are stuck in the midst of some important life transition. It may be because you have a new role in life and have gone from single to married or from married to parent, or full to empty nest. It may be a new challenge in your life at work or in your relationship. It may just be time for you to make some important changes or make a move that you have been putting off or are in the midst of. There are always lifecycle transitions or smaller daily challenges that require some change or adaptation on your part. As long as you meet these challenges, you will be okay no matter what they are. If you get stuck mid-way, you will suffer until you break through. If you stay stuck for too long and feel defeated, you are vulnerable to a vicious cycle of inaction and despondency. I've been practicing and teaching psychotherapy for four decades and have written a book and published research on the subject of transitions and stages of adult life. While some other psychiatrists see the symptom complexes of anxiety and depression as indicators of brain psychopathology that requires medication, I see these signs of distress and unhappiness as indicators of being stuck in some life challenge. My solution is a positive mental health approach where working out problems and making changes is the right medicine. In saying this, I do not mean that there is no mental psychopathology or in any way state that medication is not sometimes indicated and necessary. It's been my experience though that most of the problems in daily living that generate these symptoms can be addressed by the method that I am now offering you. Published research has been done on this method to support these statements. This program has been in development, in use and refined over three decades with tens of thousands of inpatient and outpatients in the United States and around the world. It is based on, and similar to, what most psychotherapists actually do in their talk therapy sessions. There is great and immediate benefit that comes from simply facing and working on the challenges that are causing you distress or unhappiness. You won't be able to solve all of your problems in just a few days or a few weeks but you can get some immediate relief just by working on them and looking at and considering your options with an open clear mind.

	HOW THIS WORKS (close) For those without a Guest Code, if this is your first time here, you may use one Virtual Session™ for free. After that you must register, log in, and pay $1 for a license to use a Virtual Session™ as many times as you wish. Registered user's data is retained and will be displayed when logged in. It's very simple, so click the green button above, select a topic, follow the instructions and see what happens.

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	ABOUT US (close) Roger Gould, MD is one of the world's leading authorities on adult development. A board-certified psychiatrist, psychoanalyst, author and former head of Community Psychiatry and Outpatient Psychiatry at UCLA, Dr. Gould has pioneered the use of online therapy sessions focusing on weight loss and stress management in an effort to make the benefits of therapy accessible and affordable to anyone who needs it. He was acknowledged by the Smithsonian institute as a pioneer in the field. His work has been featured on national television (ABC, CBS and FOX) and covered in Time Magazine, The New York Times, Bariatric Times, Prevention, Psychology Today, Good Housekeeping, MedHelp and MSN Health. He is the author of two books Transformations and Shrink Yourself. Dr. Gould on the Internet: FaceBook WikipediA MedHelp The Huffington Post Truthdig Linked In YouTube Google books ezine@rticles Amazon Psychology Today   The Company Interactive Health Systems, dBA IHS-Online, Inc. IHS-Online has been a driving force behind bringing the power of therapeutic principles to the internet. Partnering with dozens of hospitals and government agencies, IHS-Online, has revolutionized the delivery vehicle of therapy and has created a scalable approach to computer-assisted therapy. The methods behind the company's approach have been well studied for over 20 years and have been the subject of seven separate scientific studies, including a recent study by UCLA and Kaiser Permanente. Psychology Today states that "Dr. Gould's programs are based on proven research results" and the Smithsonian Institute has acknowledged him as a pioneer in the innovative use of computers in psychiatry. Our public websites are: IHS-Online.com ShrinkYourself.com MyVirtualShrink.com DrRogerGould.com The IHS-Online team:   Dr. Roger Gould Virtual Sessions™ architect. It's his brain we've put in the computer box     Michael Vogt Software engineer, programmer.   Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD Virtual Sessions™ quality assurance editor     Rogger Trujillo Quality assurance testing, customer support New Research Suggests: What Role Will Therapists Play in the Future? The computer revolution is coming to psychotherapy: A UCLA study found that patients experiencing depression, stress or a variety of other symptoms were treated effectively using a computer software program supplemented by very brief visits with a therapist. Patients who used software called the Therapeutic Learning Program (TLP)—developed by psychiatrist Roger Gould to help people confront their underlying problems—showed significant improvement and reported a high level of satisfaction with the treatment. "The software program is very sophisticated, theoretically sound and user-friend," said UCLA psychologist Marion Jacobs, one of the researchers on the project. "It looks very promising for patients with mild to moderate psychological problems." The study involved 90 patients—most with mild to moderate psychological problems—who were randomly divided into two groups. In one group, each patient saw a psychotherapist for about 50 minutes each week for 10 weeks. In the other group, each patient used the TLP software program for ten "sessions," supplemented by brief visits with a therapist lasting for 10-15 minutes weekly. Patient evaluations were conducted at the end of treatment, and again six months later to see whether the effects were lasting. Subjects in both groups showed a significant decrease in depression, anxiety and perceived stress at the end of treatment, Jacobs said. "The frequency and severity of symptoms reported by subjects in both groups significantly declined at the end of the program," Jacobs said. "At the six-month follow-up, most patients in both groups reported that the treatment had been effective and that they were satisfied with the treatment they received. Patients generally preferred the more intensive interaction with a therapist, but they found the computer-aided treatment equally effective, Jacobs said. In a self-reported scale from one to five (five represents "very satisfied," four: "satisfied," three: "neutral," two: "dissatisfied," and one: "very dissatisfied"), patients who were treated by a therapist reported a satisfaction score of 4.5, compared with a score of 4.0 from patients who used the TLP software program. On a one-to-five effectiveness scale (five: "very effective," four: "effective," etc.), patients treated by a therapist reported a 4.5, compared with a 4.2 by patients who used the software program—a difference that is not statistically meaningful, Jacobs said. The computer software helps patients to see patterns in their behavior and helps patients identify what bothers them, what obstacles prevent them from changing their behavior and how they can find alternatives, Jacobs said. What are the implications of this technology for the future of mental health? Andrew Christensen, a UCLA professor of psychology who worked on the study, said the role of therapists is likely to change as the therapist's tools become more widely available. "I very much welcome psychology that is both effective and inexpensive," Christensen said. "The need for mental health services cannot conceivably be met by professional therapists; there are simply far too many people who need help, but cannot afford professional therapy. The fact that alternative treatments are, or soon will be, available that are both cost-effective and successful is an extremely important and encouraging finding—especially given the need for cost constraints in health care. "The tools of psychology will soon be much more widely available, and I applaud that. The role of therapists is likely to move away from providing one-on-one psychotherapy and toward developing, evaluating and supervising more broad-based treatments such as computer-aided interventions and support groups. "Some therapists may feel threatened by these changes, but I believe the changes are inevitable and positive developments that therapists can embrace. Therapists will still be needed to, among other things, advise when alternative treatments are appropriate for patients, and to work with patients for whom such treatments are not appropriate. Although these preliminary results for computer-assisted therapy look promising, we do not yet know how effective software programs will be over the long-term or with people whose psychological difficulties are more severe." Christensen said the public will demand the "democratization of psychology." He noted that millions of Americans already belong to self-help groups and read the estimated 2,000 self-help books that are published annually. What will therapy look like in 20 years as technology speeds up the trend toward self-help? Jacobs laughed at the question, and answered, "Try five years. The people who read self-help books and join self-help support groups will want self-help software. Computer-assisted therapy is not the answer for everyone, but it will play an increasingly large role in mental health care." This study has been published in Professional Psychology: Research and Practice 2001, Vol. 32, No.1, 92-96.

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time with my children My grandmother is pressuring me to get a job My grandmother is pressuring me to make more money My grandmother is pressuring me to get married My grandmother is pressuring me to have children My grandmother is pressuring me to change something about myself My daughter is pressuring me to spend more time with my children My daughter is pressuring me to get a job My daughter is pressuring me to make more money My daughter is pressuring me to get married My daughter is pressuring me to have children My daughter is pressuring me to change something about myself My step daughter is pressuring me to spend more time with my children My step daughter is pressuring me to get a job My step daughter is pressuring me to make more money My step daughter is pressuring me to get married My step daughter is pressuring me to have children My step daughter is pressuring me to change something about myself My foster daughter is pressuring me to spend more time with my children My foster daughter is pressuring me to get a job My foster daughter is pressuring me to make more money My foster daughter is pressuring me to get married My foster daughter is pressuring me to have children My foster daughter is pressuring me to change something about myself I am having a disagreement with my brother about money I am having a disagreement with my brother about parenting I am having a disagreement with my brother about a plan or goal I am having a disagreement with my brother about beliefs or values I am having a disagreement with my brother about spending time with spouse or partner I am having a disagreement with my brother about another family member I am having a disagreement with my brother about medical and healthcare I am having a disagreement with my brother about drug or alcohol use I am having a disagreement with my brother about divorce I am having a disagreement with my brother about dating I am having a disagreement with my brother about how to spend free time I am having a disagreement with my step brother about money I am having a disagreement with my step brother about parenting I am having a disagreement with my step brother about a plan or goal I am having a disagreement with my step brother about beliefs or values I am having a disagreement with my step brother about spending time with spouse or partner I am having a disagreement with my step brother about another family member I am having a disagreement with my step brother about medical and healthcare I am having a disagreement with my step brother about drug or alcohol use I am having a disagreement with my step brother about divorce I am having a disagreement with my step brother about dating I am having a disagreement with my step brother about how to spend free time I am having a disagreement with my half brother about money I am having a disagreement with my half brother about parenting I am having a disagreement with my half brother about a plan or goal I am having a disagreement with my half brother about beliefs or values I am having a disagreement with my half brother about spending time with spouse or partner I am having a disagreement with my half brother about another family member I am having a disagreement with my half brother about medical and healthcare I am having a disagreement with my half brother about drug or alcohol use I am having a disagreement with my half brother about divorce I am having a disagreement with my half brother about dating I am having a disagreement with my half brother about how to spend free time I am having a disagreement with my sister about about money I am having a disagreement with my sister about about parenting I am having a disagreement with my sister about about a plan or goal I am having a disagreement with my sister about about beliefs or values I am having a disagreement with my sister about about spending time with spouse or partner I am having a disagreement with my sister about about another family member I am having a disagreement with my sister about about medical and healthcare I am having a disagreement with my sister about about drug or alcohol use I am having a disagreement with my sister about about divorce I am having a disagreement with my sister about about dating I am having a disagreement with my sister about about how to spend free time I am having a disagreement with my step sister about money I am having a disagreement with my step sister about parenting I am having a disagreement with my step sister about a plan or goal I am having a disagreement with my step sister about beliefs or values I am having a disagreement with my step sister about spending time with spouse or partner I am having a disagreement with my step sister about another family member I am having a disagreement with my step sister about medical and healthcare I am having a disagreement with my step sister about drug or alcohol use I am having a disagreement with my step sister about divorce I am having a disagreement with my step sister about dating I am having a disagreement with my step sister about how to spend free time I am having a disagreement with my half sister about money I am having a disagreement with my half sister about parenting I am having a disagreement with my half sister about a plan or goal I am having a disagreement with my half sister about beliefs or values I am having a disagreement with my half sister about spending time with spouse or partner I am having a disagreement with my half sister about another family member I am having a disagreement with my half sister about medical and healthcare I am having a disagreement with my half sister about drug or alcohol use I am having a disagreement with my half sister about divorce I am having a disagreement with my half sister about dating I am having a disagreement with my half sister about how to spend free time I think my brother is being unsupportive I think my brother is being insensitive I think my brother is being too critical I think my brother is being angry and hostile I think my brother is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my brother is being uncommunicative I think my brother is being selfish I think my brother is being cold and distant I think my brother is being disrespectful of my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my brother is being controlling name/relationship/gender I think my brother is being selfish I think my step brother is being unsupportive I think my step brother is being insensitive I think my step brother is being too critical I think my step brother is being angry and hostile I think my step brother is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my step brother is being uncommunicative I think my step brother is being selfish I think my step brother is being cold and distant I think my step brother is being disrespectful of my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my step brother is being controlling name/relationship/gender I think my step brother is being selfish I think my step brother is being unsupportive I think my step brother is being insensitive I think my step brother is being too critical I think my step brother is being angry and hostile I think my step brother is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my step brother is being uncommunicative I think my step brother is being selfish I think my step brother is being cold and distant I think my step brother is being disrespectful of my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my step brother is being controlling name/relationship/gender I think my step brother is being selfish I think my sister is being unsupportive I think my sister is being insensitive I think my sister is being too critical I think my sister is being angry and hostile I think my sister is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my sister is being uncommunicative I think my sister is being selfish I think my sister is being cold and distant I think my sister is being disrespectful of my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my sister is being controlling name/relationship/gender I think my sister is being selfish I think my step sister is being unsupportive I think my step sister is being insensitive I think my step sister is being too critical I think my step sister is being angry and hostile I think my step sister is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my step sister is being uncommunicative I think my step sister is being selfish I think my step sister is being cold and distant I think my step sister is being disrespectful of my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my step sister is being controlling name/relationship/gender I think my step sister is being selfish I think my half sister is being unsupportive I think my half sister is being insensitive I think my half sister is being too critical I think my half sister is being angry and hostile I think my half sister is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my half sister is being uncommunicative I think my half sister is being selfish I think my half sister is being cold and distant I think my half sister is being disrespectful of my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my half sister is being controlling name/relationship/gender I think my half sister is being selfish My brother is pressuring me to get a job My brother is pressuring me to change something about myself My brother is pressuring me to change how I spend my free time My step brother is pressuring me to get a job My step brother is pressuring me to change something about myself My step brother is pressuring me to change how I spend my free time My half brother is pressuring me to get a job My half brother is pressuring me to change something about myself My half brother is pressuring me to change how I spend my free time My sister is pressuring me to get a job My sister is pressuring me to change something about myself My sister is pressuring me to change how I spend my free time My step sister is pressuring me to get a job My step sister is pressuring me to change something about myself My step sister is pressuring me to change how I spend my free time My half sister is pressuring me to get a job My half sister is pressuring me to change something about myself My half sister is pressuring me to change how I spend my free time I am having a disagreement with my friend about money I am having a disagreement with my friend about another friend I am having a disagreement with my friend about my spouse or intimate partner I am having a disagreement with my friend about how I spend my time I am having a disagreement with my friend about drug and/or alcohol use I am having a disagreement with my friend about a plan or goal I am having a disagreement with my friend about beliefs or values I am having a disagreement with my friend about a medical or healthcare issue I am having a disagreement with my ex friend about money I am having a disagreement with my ex friend about another friend I am having a disagreement with my ex friend about my spouse or intimate partner I am having a disagreement with my ex friend about how I spend my time I am having a disagreement with my ex friend about drug and/or alcohol use I am having a disagreement with my ex friend about a plan or goal I am having a disagreement with my ex friend about beliefs or values I am having a disagreement with my ex friend about a medical or healthcare issue I am having a disagreement with my acquaintance about money I am having a disagreement with my acquaintance about another friend I am having a disagreement with my acquaintance about my spouse or intimate partner I am having a disagreement with my acquaintance about how I spend my time I am having a disagreement with my acquaintance about drug and/or alcohol use I am having a disagreement with my acquaintance about a plan or goal I am having a disagreement with my acquaintance about beliefs or values I am having a disagreement with my acquaintance about a medical or healthcare issue I am having a disagreement with my buddy about money I am having a disagreement with my buddy about another friend I am having a disagreement with my buddy about my spouse or intimate partner I am having a disagreement with my buddy about how I spend my time I am having a disagreement with my buddy about drug and/or alcohol use I am having a disagreement with my buddy about a plan or goal I am having a disagreement with my buddy about beliefs or values I am having a disagreement with my buddy about a medical or healthcare issue I think my friend is being unsupportive I think my friend is being too dependent or clingy I think my friend is being insensitive to my needs I think my friend is being too critical I think my friend is being angry and hostile I think my friend is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my friend is being uncommunicative I think my friend is being cold and distant I think my friend is being disrespectful of my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my friend is being controlling I think my friend is being selfish I think my ex friend is being unsupportive I think my ex friend is being too dependent or clingy I think my ex friend is being insensitive to my needs I think my ex friend is being too critical I think my ex friend is being angry and hostile I think my ex friend is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my ex friend is being uncommunicative I think my ex friend is being cold and distant I think my ex friend is being disrespectful of my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my ex friend is being controlling I think my ex friend is being selfish I think my acquaintance is being I think my buddy is being unsupportive I think my buddy is being too dependent or clingy I think my buddy is being insensitive to my needs I think my buddy is being too critical I think my buddy is being angry and hostile I think my buddy is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my buddy is being uncommunicative I think my buddy is being cold and distant I think my buddy is being disrespectful of my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my buddy is being controlling I think my buddy is being selfish My friend is pressuring me to change something about myself My friend is pressuring me to change how I spend my free time My friend is pressuring me to drink alcohol more often My ex friend is pressuring me to change something about myself My ex friend is pressuring me to change how I spend my free time My ex friend is pressuring me to drink alcohol more often My acquaintance is pressuring me to change something about myself My acquaintance is pressuring me to change how I spend my free time My acquaintance is pressuring me to drink alcohol more often My buddy is pressuring me to change something about myself My buddy is pressuring me to change how I spend my free time My buddy is pressuring me to drink alcohol more often I am having a disagreement with my boss about job responsibilities I am having a disagreement with my boss about money I am having a disagreement with my boss about benefits and other compensation I am having a disagreement with my boss about a promotion I am having a disagreement with my boss about a demotion I am having a disagreement with my boss about management I am having a disagreement with my boss about changes at the workplace I am having a disagreement with my boss about a personality conflict I am having a disagreement with my boss about a co-worker I am having a disagreement with my supervisor about job responsibilities I am having a disagreement with my supervisor about money I am having a disagreement with my supervisor about benefits and other compensation I am having a disagreement with my supervisor about a promotion I am having a disagreement with my supervisor about a demotion I am having a disagreement with my supervisor about management I am having a disagreement with my supervisor about changes at the workplace I am having a disagreement with my supervisor about a personality conflict I am having a disagreement with my supervisor about a co-worker I am having a disagreement with my manager about job responsibilities I am having a disagreement with my manager about money I am having a disagreement with my manager about benefits and other compensation I am having a disagreement with my manager about a promotion I am having a disagreement with my manager about a demotion I am having a disagreement with my manager about management I am having a disagreement with my manager about changes at the workplace I am having a disagreement with my manager about a personality conflict I am having a disagreement with my manager about a co-worker I am having a disagreement with my union boss about job responsibilities I am having a disagreement with my union boss about money I am having a disagreement with my union boss about benefits and other compensation I am having a disagreement with my union boss about a promotion I am having a disagreement with my union boss about a demotion I am having a disagreement with my union boss about management I am having a disagreement with my union boss about changes at the workplace I am having a disagreement with my union boss about a personality conflict I am having a disagreement with my union boss about a co-worker I am having a disagreement with my shift leader about job responsibilities I am having a disagreement with my shift leader about money I am having a disagreement with my shift leader about benefits and other compensation I am having a disagreement with my shift leader about a promotion I am having a disagreement with my shift leader about a demotion I am having a disagreement with my shift leader about management I am having a disagreement with my shift leader about changes at the workplace I am having a disagreement with my shift leader about a personality conflict I am having a disagreement with my shift leader about a co-worker I am having a disagreement with my co worker about job responsibilities I am having a disagreement with my co worker about money I am having a disagreement with my co worker about benefits and other compensation I am having a disagreement with my co worker about a promotion I am having a disagreement with my co worker about a demotion I am having a disagreement with my co worker about management I am having a disagreement with my co worker about changes at the workplace I am having a disagreement with my co worker about a personality conflict I am having a disagreement with my co worker about a co-worker I think my boss is being unsupportive I think my boss is being too dependent or needy I think my boss is being too controlling I think my boss is being too critical I think my boss is being angry and hostile I think my boss is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my boss is being uncommunicative I think my boss is being deceitful I think my boss is being disrespectful of my boundaries and interfering with my job I think my boss is being insensitive I think my supervisor is being unsupportive I think my supervisor is being too dependent or needy I think my supervisor is being too controlling I think my supervisor is being too critical I think my supervisor is being angry and hostile I think my supervisor is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my supervisor is being uncommunicative I think my supervisor is being deceitful I think my supervisor is being disrespectful of my boundaries and interfering with my job I think my supervisor is being insensitive I think my manager is being unsupportive I think my manager is being too dependent or needy I think my manager is being too controlling I think my manager is being too critical I think my manager is being angry and hostile I think my manager is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my manager is being uncommunicative I think my manager is being deceitful I think my manager is being disrespectful of my boundaries and interfering with my job I think my manager is being insensitive I think my union boss is being unsupportive I think my union boss is being too dependent or needy I think my union boss is being too controlling I think my union boss is being too critical I think my union boss is being angry and hostile I think my union boss is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my union boss is being uncommunicative I think my union boss is being deceitful I think my union boss is being disrespectful of my boundaries and interfering with my job I think my union boss is being insensitive I think my shift leader is being unsupportive I think my shift leader is being too dependent or needy I think my shift leader is being too controlling I think my shift leader is being too critical I think my shift leader is being angry and hostile I think my shift leader is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my shift leader is being uncommunicative I think my shift leader is being deceitful I think my shift leader is being disrespectful of my boundaries and interfering with my job I think my shift leader is being insensitive I think my co worker is being unsupportive I think my co worker is being too dependent or needy I think my co worker is being too controlling I think my co worker is being too critical I think my co worker is being angry and hostile I think my co worker is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my co worker is being uncommunicative I think my co worker is being deceitful I think my co worker is being disrespectful of my boundaries and interfering with my job I think my co worker is being insensitive My boss is pressuring me to change something about myself My boss is pressuring me to work harder My boss is pressuring me to put in more hours My boss is pressuring me to take on more responsibilities My supervisor is pressuring me to change something about myself My supervisor is pressuring me to work harder My supervisor is pressuring me to put in more hours My supervisor is pressuring me to take on more responsibilities My manager is pressuring me to change something about myself My manager is pressuring me to work harder My manager is pressuring me to put in more hours My manager is pressuring me to take on more responsibilities My union boss is pressuring me to change something about myself My union boss is pressuring me to work harder My union boss is pressuring me to put in more hours My union boss is pressuring me to take on more responsibilities My shift leader is pressuring me to change something about myself My shift leader is pressuring me to work harder My shift leader is pressuring me to put in more hours My shift leader is pressuring me to take on more responsibilities My co worker is pressuring me to change something about myself My co worker is pressuring me to work harder My co worker is pressuring me to put in more hours My co worker is pressuring me to take on more responsibilities I am having a disagreement with my father about money I am having a disagreement with my father about a mortgage I am having a disagreement with my father about debt I am having a disagreement with my father about spousal support or alimony I am having a disagreement with my father about child support I am having a disagreement with my father about tuition I am having a disagreement with my step father about money I am having a disagreement with my step father about a mortgage I am having a disagreement with my step father about debt I am having a disagreement with my step father about spousal support or alimony I am having a disagreement with my step father about child support I am having a disagreement with my step father about tuition I am having a disagreement with my god father about money I am having a disagreement with my god father about a mortgage I am having a disagreement with my god father about debt I am having a disagreement with my god father about spousal support or alimony I am having a disagreement with my god father about child support I am having a disagreement with my god father about tuition I am having a disagreement with my grandfather about money I am having a disagreement with my grandfather about a mortgage I am having a disagreement with my grandfather about debt I am having a disagreement with my grandfather about spousal support or alimony I am having a disagreement with my grandfather about child support I am having a disagreement with my grandfather about tuition I am having a disagreement with my son about money I am having a disagreement with my son about a mortgage I am having a disagreement with my son about debt I am having a disagreement with my son about spousal support or alimony I am having a disagreement with my son about child support I am having a disagreement with my son about tuition I am having a disagreement with my step son about money I am having a disagreement with my step son about a mortgage I am having a disagreement with my step son about debt I am having a disagreement with my step son about spousal support or alimony I am having a disagreement with my step son about child support I am having a disagreement with my step son about tuition I am having a disagreement with my foster son about money I am having a disagreement with my foster son about a mortgage I am having a disagreement with my foster son about debt I am having a disagreement with my foster son about spousal support or alimony I am having a disagreement with my foster son about child support I am having a disagreement with my foster son about tuition I am having a disagreement with my mother about money I am having a disagreement with my mother about a mortgage I am having a disagreement with my mother about debt I am having a disagreement with my mother about spousal support or alimony I am having a disagreement with my mother about child support I am having a disagreement with my mother about tuition I am having a disagreement with my step mother about money I am having a disagreement with my step mother about a mortgage I am having a disagreement with my step mother about debt I am having a disagreement with my step mother about spousal support or alimony I am having a disagreement with my step mother about child support I am having a disagreement with my step mother about tuition I am having a disagreement with my god mother about money I am having a disagreement with my god mother about a mortgage I am having a disagreement with my god mother about debt I am having a disagreement with my god mother about spousal support or alimony I am having a disagreement with my god mother about child support I am having a disagreement with my god mother about tuition I am having a disagreement with my grandmother about money I am having a disagreement with my grandmother about a mortgage I am having a disagreement with my grandmother about debt I am having a disagreement with my grandmother about spousal support or alimony I am having a disagreement with my grandmother about child support I am having a disagreement with my grandmother about tuition I am having a disagreement with my daughter about money I am having a disagreement with my daughter about a mortgage I am having a disagreement with my daughter about debt I am having a disagreement with my daughter about spousal support or alimony I am having a disagreement with my daughter about child support I am having a disagreement with my daughter about tuition I am having a disagreement with my daughter about money I am having a disagreement with my daughter about a mortgage I am having a disagreement with my daughter about debt I am having a disagreement with my daughter about spousal support or alimony I am having a disagreement with my daughter about child support I am having a disagreement with my daughter about tuition I am having a disagreement with my step daughter about money I am having a disagreement with my step daughter about a mortgage I am having a disagreement with my step daughter about debt I am having a disagreement with my step daughter about spousal support or alimony I am having a disagreement with my step daughter about child support I am having a disagreement with my step daughter about tuition I am having a disagreement with my foster daughter about money I am having a disagreement with my foster daughter about a mortgage I am having a disagreement with my foster daughter about debt I am having a disagreement with my foster daughter about spousal support or alimony I am having a disagreement with my foster daughter about child support I am having a disagreement with my foster daughter about tuition I think my father is being unsupportive I think my father is being dishonest I think my father is being too dependent I think my father is being greedy I think my father is being insensitive to my needs I think my father is being blaming and critical I think my father is being angry and hostile I think my father is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my father is being disrespectful of my boundaries I think my father is being controlling I think my father is being selfish I think my step father is being unsupportive I think my step father is being dishonest I think my step father is being too dependent I think my step father is being greedy I think my step father is being insensitive to my needs I think my step father is being blaming and critical I think my step father is being angry and hostile I think my step father is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my step father is being disrespectful of my boundaries I think my step father is being controlling I think my step father is being selfish I think my god father is being unsupportive I think my god father is being dishonest I think my god father is being too dependent I think my god father is being greedy I think my god father is being insensitive to my needs I think my god father is being blaming and critical I think my god father is being angry and hostile I think my god father is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my god father is being disrespectful of my boundaries I think my god father is being controlling I think my god father is being selfish I think my grandfather is being unsupportive I think my grandfather is being dishonest I think my grandfather is being too dependent I think my grandfather is being greedy I think my grandfather is being insensitive to my needs I think my grandfather is being blaming and critical I think my grandfather is being angry and hostile I think my grandfather is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my grandfather is being disrespectful of my boundaries I think my grandfather is being controlling I think my grandfather is being selfish I think my son is being unsupportive I think my son is being dishonest I think my son is being too dependent I think my son is being greedy I think my son is being insensitive to my needs I think my son is being blaming and critical I think my son is being angry and hostile I think my son is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my son is being disrespectful of my boundaries I think my son is being controlling I think my son is being selfish I think my step son is being unsupportive I think my step son is being dishonest I think my step son is being too dependent I think my step son is being greedy I think my step son is being insensitive to my needs I think my step son is being blaming and critical I think my step son is being angry and hostile I think my step son is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my step son is being disrespectful of my boundaries I think my step son is being controlling I think my step son is being selfish I think my foster son is being unsupportive I think my foster son is being dishonest I think my foster son is being too dependent I think my foster son is being greedy I think my foster son is being insensitive to my needs I think my foster son is being blaming and critical I think my foster son is being angry and hostile I think my foster son is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my foster son is being disrespectful of my boundaries I think my foster son is being controlling I think my foster son is being selfish I think my mother is being unsupportive I think my mother is being dishonest I think my mother is being too dependent I think my mother is being greedy I think my mother is being insensitive to my needs I think my mother is being blaming and critical I think my mother is being angry and hostile I think my mother is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my mother is being disrespectful of my boundaries I think my mother is being controlling I think my mother is being selfish I think my step mother is being unsupportive I think my step mother is being dishonest I think my step mother is being too dependent I think my step mother is being greedy I think my step mother is being insensitive to my needs I think my step mother is being blaming and critical I think my step mother is being angry and hostile I think my step mother is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my step mother is being disrespectful of my boundaries I think my step mother is being controlling I think my step mother is being selfish I think my god mother is being unsupportive I think my god mother is being dishonest I think my god mother is being too dependent I think my god mother is being greedy I think my god mother is being insensitive to my needs I think my god mother is being blaming and critical I think my god mother is being angry and hostile I think my god mother is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my god mother is being disrespectful of my boundaries I think my god mother is being controlling I think my god mother is being selfish I think my grandmother is being unsupportive I think my grandmother is being dishonest I think my grandmother is being too dependent I think my grandmother is being greedy I think my grandmother is being insensitive to my needs I think my grandmother is being blaming and critical I think my grandmother is being angry and hostile I think my grandmother is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my grandmother is being disrespectful of my boundaries I think my grandmother is being controlling I think my grandmother is being selfish I think my daughter is being unsupportive I think my daughter is being dishonest I think my daughter is being too dependent I think my daughter is being greedy I think my daughter is being insensitive to my needs I think my daughter is being blaming and critical I think my daughter is being angry and hostile I think my daughter is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my daughter is being disrespectful of my boundaries I think my daughter is being controlling I think my daughter is being selfish I think my step daughter is being unsupportive I think my step daughter is being dishonest I think my step daughter is being too dependent I think my step daughter is being greedy I think my step daughter is being insensitive to my needs I think my step daughter is being blaming and critical I think my step daughter is being angry and hostile I think my step daughter is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my step daughter is being disrespectful of my boundaries I think my step daughter is being controlling I think my step daughter is being selfish I think my foster daughter is being unsupportive I think my foster daughter is being dishonest I think my foster daughter is being too dependent I think my foster daughter is being greedy I think my foster daughter is being insensitive to my needs I think my foster daughter is being blaming and critical I think my foster daughter is being angry and hostile I think my foster daughter is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my foster daughter is being disrespectful of my boundaries I think my foster daughter is being controlling I think my foster daughter is being selfish My father is pressuring me to get a job My father is pressuring me to provide more money My father is pressuring me to make more money My father is pressuring me to change something about myself My step father is pressuring me to get a job My step father is pressuring me to provide more money My step father is pressuring me to make more money My step father is pressuring me to change something about myself My god father is pressuring me to get a job My god father is pressuring me to provide more money My god father is pressuring me to make more money My god father is pressuring me to change something about myself My grandfather is pressuring me to get a job My grandfather is pressuring me to provide more money My grandfather is pressuring me to make more money My grandfather is pressuring me to change something about myself My son is pressuring me to get a job My son is pressuring me to provide more money My son is pressuring me to make more money My son is pressuring me to change something about myself My step son is pressuring me to get a job My step son is pressuring me to provide more money My step son is pressuring me to make more money My step son is pressuring me to change something about myself My foster son is pressuring me to get a job My foster son is pressuring me to provide more money My foster son is pressuring me to make more money My foster son is pressuring me to change something about myself My mother is pressuring me to get a job My mother is pressuring me to provide more money My mother is pressuring me to make more money My mother is pressuring me to change something about myself My step mother is pressuring me to get a job My step mother is pressuring me to provide more money My step mother is pressuring me to make more money My step mother is pressuring me to change something about myself My god mother is pressuring me to get a job My god mother is pressuring me to provide more money My god mother is pressuring me to make more money My god mother is pressuring me to change something about myself My grandmother is pressuring me to get a job My grandmother is pressuring me to provide more money My grandmother is pressuring me to make more money My grandmother is pressuring me to change something about myself My daughter is pressuring me to get a job My daughter is pressuring me to provide more money My daughter is pressuring me to make more money My daughter is pressuring me to change something about myself My step daughter is pressuring me to get a job My step daughter is pressuring me to provide more money My step daughter is pressuring me to make more money My step daughter is pressuring me to change something about myself My foster daughter is pressuring me to get a job My foster daughter is pressuring me to provide more money My foster daughter is pressuring me to make more money My foster daughter is pressuring me to change something about myself I am having a disagreement with my teacher about where to go to school I am having a disagreement with my teacher about tuition I am having a disagreement with my teacher about money I am having a disagreement with my teacher about what field to study I am having a disagreement with my teacher about school work I am having a disagreement with my teacher about grades I am having a disagreement with my teacher about how long it is taking or will take I am having a disagreement with my professor about where to go to school I am having a disagreement with my professor about tuition I am having a disagreement with my professor about money I am having a disagreement with my professor about what field to study I am having a disagreement with my professor about school work I am having a disagreement with my professor about grades I am having a disagreement with my professor about how long it is taking or will take I am having a disagreement with my instructor about where to go to school I am having a disagreement with my instructor about tuition I am having a disagreement with my instructor about money I am having a disagreement with my instructor about what field to study I am having a disagreement with my instructor about school work I am having a disagreement with my instructor about grades I am having a disagreement with my instructor about how long it is taking or will take I am having a disagreement with my tutor about where to go to school I am having a disagreement with my tutor about tuition I am having a disagreement with my tutor about money I am having a disagreement with my tutor about what field to study I am having a disagreement with my tutor about school work I am having a disagreement with my tutor about grades I am having a disagreement with my tutor about how long it is taking or will take I am having a disagreement with my principal about where to go to school I am having a disagreement with my principal about tuition I am having a disagreement with my principal about money I am having a disagreement with my principal about what field to study I am having a disagreement with my principal about school work I am having a disagreement with my principal about grades I am having a disagreement with my principal about how long it is taking or will take I am having a disagreement with my coach about where to go to school I am having a disagreement with my coach about tuition I am having a disagreement with my coach about money I am having a disagreement with my coach about what field to study I am having a disagreement with my coach about school work I am having a disagreement with my coach about grades I am having a disagreement with my coach about how long it is taking or will take I am having a disagreement with my mentor about where to go to school I am having a disagreement with my mentor about tuition I am having a disagreement with my mentor about money I am having a disagreement with my mentor about what field to study I am having a disagreement with my mentor about school work I am having a disagreement with my mentor about grades I am having a disagreement with my mentor about how long it is taking or will take I am having a disagreement with my advisor about where to go to school I am having a disagreement with my advisor about tuition I am having a disagreement with my advisor about money I am having a disagreement with my advisor about what field to study I am having a disagreement with my advisor about school work I am having a disagreement with my advisor about grades I am having a disagreement with my advisor about how long it is taking or will take I am having a disagreement with my counselor about where to go to school I am having a disagreement with my counselor about tuition I am having a disagreement with my counselor about money I am having a disagreement with my counselor about what field to study I am having a disagreement with my counselor about school work I am having a disagreement with my counselor about grades I am having a disagreement with my counselor about how long it is taking or will take I am having a disagreement with my husband about where to go to school I am having a disagreement with my husband about tuition I am having a disagreement with my husband about money I am having a disagreement with my husband about what field to study I am having a disagreement with my husband about school work I am having a disagreement with my husband about grades I am having a disagreement with my husband about how long it is taking or will take I am having a disagreement with my boyfriend about where to go to school I am having a disagreement with my boyfriend about tuition I am having a disagreement with my boyfriend about money I am having a disagreement with my boyfriend about what field to study I am having a disagreement with my boyfriend about school work I am having a disagreement with my boyfriend about grades I am having a disagreement with my boyfriend about how long it is taking or will take I am having a disagreement with my son about where to go to school I am having a disagreement with my son about tuition I am having a disagreement with my son about money I am having a disagreement with my son about what field to study I am having a disagreement with my son about school work I am having a disagreement with my son about grades I am having a disagreement with my son about how long it is taking or will take I am having a disagreement with my step son about where to go to school I am having a disagreement with my step son about tuition I am having a disagreement with my step son about money I am having a disagreement with my step son about what field to study I am having a disagreement with my step son about school work I am having a disagreement with my step son about grades I am having a disagreement with my step son about how long it is taking or will take I am having a disagreement with my foster son about where to go to school I am having a disagreement with my foster son about tuition I am having a disagreement with my foster son about money I am having a disagreement with my foster son about what field to study I am having a disagreement with my foster son about school work I am having a disagreement with my foster son about grades I am having a disagreement with my foster son about how long it is taking or will take I am having a disagreement with my teacher about where to go to school I am having a disagreement with my teacher about tuition I am having a disagreement with my teacher about money I am having a disagreement with my teacher about what field to study I am having a disagreement with my teacher about school work I am having a disagreement with my teacher about grades I am having a disagreement with my teacher about how long it is taking or will take I am having a disagreement with my professor about where to go to school I am having a disagreement with my professor about tuition I am having a disagreement with my professor about money I am having a disagreement with my professor about what field to study I am having a disagreement with my professor about school work I am having a disagreement with my professor about grades I am having a disagreement with my professor about how long it is taking or will take I am having a disagreement with my instructor about where to go to school I am having a disagreement with my instructor about tuition I am having a disagreement with my instructor about money I am having a disagreement with my instructor about what field to study I am having a disagreement with my instructor about school work I am having a disagreement with my instructor about grades I am having a disagreement with my instructor about how long it is taking or will take I am having a disagreement with my tutor about where to go to school I am having a disagreement with my tutor about tuition I am having a disagreement with my tutor about money I am having a disagreement with my tutor about what field to study I am having a disagreement with my tutor about school work I am having a disagreement with my tutor about grades I am having a disagreement with my tutor about how long it is taking or will take I am having a disagreement with my principal about where to go to school I am having a disagreement with my principal about tuition I am having a disagreement with my principal about money I am having a disagreement with my principal about what field to study I am having a disagreement with my principal about school work I am having a disagreement with my principal about grades I am having a disagreement with my principal about how long it is taking or will take I am having a disagreement with my coach about where to go to school I am having a disagreement with my coach about tuition I am having a disagreement with my coach about money I am having a disagreement with my coach about what field to study I am having a disagreement with my coach about school work I am having a disagreement with my coach about grades I am having a disagreement with my coach about how long it is taking or will take I am having a disagreement with my mentor about where to go to school I am having a disagreement with my mentor about tuition I am having a disagreement with my mentor about money I am having a disagreement with my mentor about what field to study I am having a disagreement with my mentor about school work I am having a disagreement with my mentor about grades I am having a disagreement with my mentor about how long it is taking or will take I am having a disagreement with my advisor about where to go to school I am having a disagreement with my advisor about tuition I am having a disagreement with my advisor about money I am having a disagreement with my advisor about what field to study I am having a disagreement with my advisor about school work I am having a disagreement with my advisor about grades I am having a disagreement with my advisor about how long it is taking or will take I am having a disagreement with my counselor about where to go to school I am having a disagreement with my counselor about tuition I am having a disagreement with my counselor about money I am having a disagreement with my counselor about what field to study I am having a disagreement with my counselor about school work I am having a disagreement with my counselor about grades I am having a disagreement with my counselor about how long it is taking or will take I am having a disagreement with my wife about where to go to school I am having a disagreement with my wife about tuition I am having a disagreement with my wife about money I am having a disagreement with my wife about what field to study I am having a disagreement with my wife about school work I am having a disagreement with my wife about grades I am having a disagreement with my wife about how long it is taking or will take I am having a disagreement with my girlfriend about where to go to school I am having a disagreement with my girlfriend about tuition I am having a disagreement with my girlfriend about money I am having a disagreement with my girlfriend about what field to study I am having a disagreement with my girlfriend about school work I am having a disagreement with my girlfriend about grades I am having a disagreement with my girlfriend about how long it is taking or will take I am having a disagreement with my daughter about where to go to school I am having a disagreement with my daughter about tuition I am having a disagreement with my daughter about money I am having a disagreement with my daughter about what field to study I am having a disagreement with my daughter about school work I am having a disagreement with my daughter about grades I am having a disagreement with my daughter about how long it is taking or will take I am having a disagreement with my step daughter about where to go to school I am having a disagreement with my step daughter about tuition I am having a disagreement with my step daughter about money I am having a disagreement with my step daughter about what field to study I am having a disagreement with my step daughter about school work I am having a disagreement with my step daughter about grades I am having a disagreement with my step daughter about how long it is taking or will take I am having a disagreement with my foster daughter about where to go to school I am having a disagreement with my foster daughter about tuition I am having a disagreement with my foster daughter about money I am having a disagreement with my foster daughter about what field to study I am having a disagreement with my foster daughter about school work I am having a disagreement with my foster daughter about grades I am having a disagreement with my foster daughter about how long it is taking or will take I think my teacher is being unsupportive I think my teacher is being too dependent or clingy I think my teacher is being insensitive I think my teacher is being too critical I think my teacher is being angry and hostile I think my teacher is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my teacher is being uncommunicative I think my teacher is being disrespectful of my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my teacher is being controlling I think my teacher is being insensitive I think my teacher is being selfish I think my professor is being unsupportive I think my professor is being too dependent or clingy I think my professor is being insensitive I think my professor is being too critical I think my professor is being angry and hostile I think my professor is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my professor is being uncommunicative I think my professor is being disrespectful of my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my professor is being controlling I think my professor is being insensitive I think my professor is being selfish I think my instructor is being unsupportive I think my instructor is being too dependent or clingy I think my instructor is being insensitive I think my instructor is being too critical I think my instructor is being angry and hostile I think my instructor is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my instructor is being uncommunicative I think my instructor is being disrespectful of my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my instructor is being controlling I think my instructor is being insensitive I think my instructor is being selfish I think my tutor is being unsupportive I think my tutor is being too dependent or clingy I think my tutor is being insensitive I think my tutor is being too critical I think my tutor is being angry and hostile I think my tutor is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my tutor is being uncommunicative I think my tutor is being disrespectful of my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my tutor is being controlling I think my tutor is being insensitive I think my tutor is being selfish I think my principal is being unsupportive I think my principal is being too dependent or clingy I think my principal is being insensitive I think my principal is being too critical I think my principal is being angry and hostile I think my principal is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my principal is being uncommunicative I think my principal is being disrespectful of my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my principal is being controlling I think my principal is being insensitive I think my principal is being selfish I think my coach is being unsupportive I think my coach is being too dependent or clingy I think my coach is being insensitive I think my coach is being too critical I think my coach is being angry and hostile I think my coach is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my coach is being uncommunicative I think my coach is being disrespectful of my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my coach is being controlling I think my coach is being insensitive I think my coach is being selfish I think my mentor is being unsupportive I think my mentor is being too dependent or clingy I think my mentor is being insensitive I think my mentor is being too critical I think my mentor is being angry and hostile I think my mentor is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my mentor is being uncommunicative I think my mentor is being disrespectful of my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my mentor is being controlling I think my mentor is being insensitive I think my mentor is being selfish I think my advisor is being unsupportive I think my advisor is being too dependent or clingy I think my advisor is being insensitive I think my advisor is being too critical I think my advisor is being angry and hostile I think my advisor is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my advisor is being uncommunicative I think my advisor is being disrespectful of my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my advisor is 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being too demanding or unreasonable I think my foster son is being uncommunicative I think my foster son is being disrespectful of my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my foster son is being controlling I think my foster son is being insensitive I think my foster son is being selfish I think my teacher is being unsupportive I think my teacher is being too dependent or clingy I think my teacher is being insensitive I think my teacher is being too critical I think my teacher is being angry and hostile I think my teacher is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my teacher is being uncommunicative I think my teacher is being disrespectful of my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my teacher is being controlling I think my teacher is being insensitive I think my teacher is being selfish I think my professor is being unsupportive I think my professor is being too dependent or clingy I think my professor is being insensitive I think my professor is being too critical I think my professor is being angry and hostile I think my professor is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my professor is being uncommunicative I think my professor is being disrespectful of my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my professor is being controlling I think my professor is being insensitive I think my professor is being selfish I think my instructor is being unsupportive I think my instructor is being too dependent or clingy I think my instructor is being insensitive I think my instructor is being too critical I think my instructor is being angry and hostile I think my instructor is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my instructor is being uncommunicative I think my instructor is being disrespectful of my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my instructor is being controlling I think my instructor is being insensitive I think my instructor is being selfish I think my tutor is being unsupportive I think my tutor is being too dependent or clingy I think my tutor is being insensitive I think my tutor is being too critical I think my tutor is being angry and hostile I think my tutor is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my tutor is being uncommunicative I think my tutor is being disrespectful of my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my tutor is being controlling I think my tutor is being insensitive I think my tutor is being selfish I think my principal is being unsupportive I think my principal is being too dependent or clingy I think my principal is being insensitive I think my principal is being too critical I think my principal is being angry and hostile I think my principal is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my principal is being uncommunicative I think my principal is being disrespectful of my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my principal is being controlling I think my principal is being insensitive I think my principal is being selfish I think my coach is being unsupportive I think my coach is being oo dependent or clingy I think my coach is being insensitive I think my coach is being too critical I think my coach is being angry and hostile I think my coach is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my coach is being uncommunicative I think my coach is being disrespectful of my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my coach is being controlling I think my coach is being insensitive I think my coach is being selfish I think my mentor is being unsupportive I think my mentor is being too dependent or clingy I think my mentor is being insensitive I think my mentor is being too critical I think my mentor is being angry and hostile I think my mentor is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my mentor is being uncommunicative I think my mentor is being disrespectful of my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my mentor is being controlling I think my mentor is being insensitive I think my mentor is being selfish I think my advisor is being unsupportive I think my advisor is being too dependent or clingy I think my advisor is being insensitive I think my advisor is being too critical I think my advisor is being angry and hostile I think my advisor is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my advisor is being uncommunicative I think my advisor is being disrespectful of my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my advisor is being controlling I think my advisor is being insensitive I think my advisor is being selfish I think my counselor is being unsupportive I think my counselor is being too dependent or clingy I think my counselor is being insensitive I think my counselor is being too critical I think my counselor is being angry and hostile I think my counselor is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my counselor is being uncommunicative I think my counselor is being disrespectful of my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my counselor is being controlling I think my 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is pressuring me to go back to school My foster daughter is pressuring me to enter a specific field My foster daughter is pressuring me to drop out of school My foster daughter is pressuring me to go back to school I am having a disagreement with my doctor about diet and weight loss issues I am having a disagreement with my doctor about smoking I am having a disagreement with my doctor about drugs or alcohol use I am having a disagreement with my doctor about my mood I am having a disagreement with my doctor about how I take care of myself I am having a disagreement with my doctor about anger issues I am having a disagreement with my doctor about anxiety I am having a disagreement with my doctor about depression I am having a disagreement with my therapist about diet and weight loss issues I am having a disagreement with my therapist about smoking I am having a disagreement with my therapist about drugs or alcohol use I am having a disagreement with my therapist about my mood I am having a disagreement with my therapist about how I take care of myself I am having a disagreement with my therapist about anger issues I am having a disagreement with my therapist about anxiety I am having a disagreement with my therapist about depression I am having a disagreement with my counselor about diet and weight loss issues I am having a disagreement with my counselor about smoking I am having a disagreement with my counselor about drugs or alcohol use I am having a disagreement with my counselor about my mood I am having a disagreement with my counselor about how I take care of myself I am having a disagreement with my counselor about anger issues I am having a disagreement with my counselor about anxiety I am having a disagreement with my counselor about depression I am having a disagreement with my father about diet and weight loss issues I am having a disagreement with my father about smoking I am having a disagreement with my father about drugs or alcohol use I am having a disagreement with my father about my mood I am having a disagreement with my father about how I take care of myself I am having a disagreement with my father about anger issues I am having a disagreement with my father about anxiety I am having a disagreement with my father about depression I am having a disagreement with my step father about diet and weight loss issues I am having a disagreement with my step father about smoking I am having a disagreement with my step father about drugs or alcohol use I am having a disagreement with my step father about my mood I am having a disagreement with my step father about how I take care of myself I am having a disagreement with my step father about anger issues I am having a disagreement with my step father about anxiety I am having a disagreement with my step father about depression I am having a disagreement with my god father about diet and weight loss issues I am having a disagreement with my god father about smoking I am having a disagreement with my god father about drugs or alcohol use I am having a disagreement with my god father about my mood I am having a disagreement with my god father about how I take care of myself I am having a disagreement with my god father about anger issues I am having a disagreement with my god father about anxiety I am having a disagreement with my god father about depression I am having a disagreement with my grandfather about diet and weight loss issues I am having a disagreement with my grandfather about smoking I am having a disagreement with my grandfather about drugs or alcohol use I am having a disagreement with my grandfather about my mood I am having a disagreement with my grandfather about how I take care of myself I am having a disagreement with my grandfather about anger issues I am having a disagreement with my grandfather about anxiety I am having a disagreement with my grandfather about depression I am having a disagreement with my son about diet and weight loss issues I am having a disagreement with my son about smoking I am having a disagreement with my son about drugs or alcohol use I am having a disagreement with my son about my mood I am having a disagreement with my son about how I take care of myself I am having a disagreement with my son about anger issues I am having a disagreement with my son about anxiety I am having a disagreement with my son about depression I am having a disagreement with my step son about diet and weight loss issues I am having a disagreement with my step son about smoking I am having a disagreement with my step son about drugs or alcohol use I am having a disagreement with my step son about my mood I am having a disagreement with my step son about how I take care of myself I am having a disagreement with my step son about anger issues I am having a disagreement with my step son about anxiety I am having a disagreement with my step son about depression I am having a disagreement with my foster son about diet and weight loss issues I am having a disagreement with my foster son about smoking I am having a disagreement with my foster son about drugs or alcohol use I am having a disagreement with my foster son about my mood I am having a disagreement with my foster son about how I take care of myself I am having a disagreement with my foster son about anger issues I am having a disagreement with my foster son about anxiety I am having a disagreement with my foster son about depression I am having a disagreement with my boss about diet and weight loss issues I am having a disagreement with my boss about smoking I am having a disagreement with my boss about drugs or alcohol use I am having a disagreement with my boss about my mood I am having a disagreement with my boss about how I take care of myself I am having a disagreement with my boss about anger issues I am having a disagreement with my boss about anxiety I am having a disagreement with my boss about depression I am having a disagreement with my supervisor about diet and weight loss issues I am having a disagreement with my supervisor about smoking I am having a disagreement with my supervisor about drugs or alcohol use I am having a disagreement with my supervisor about my mood I am having a disagreement with my supervisor about how I take care of myself I am having a disagreement with my supervisor about anger issues I am having a disagreement with my supervisor about anxiety I am having a disagreement with my supervisor about depression I am having a disagreement with my manager about diet and weight loss issues I am having a disagreement with my manager about smoking I am having a disagreement with my manager about drugs or alcohol use I am having a disagreement with my manager about my mood I am having a disagreement with my manager about how I take care of myself I am having a disagreement with my manager about anger issues I am having a disagreement with my manager about anxiety I am having a disagreement with my manager about depression I am having a disagreement with my union boss about diet and weight loss issues I am having a disagreement with my union boss about smoking I am having a disagreement with my union boss about drugs or alcohol use I am having a disagreement with my union boss about my mood I am having a disagreement with my union boss about how I take care of myself I am having a disagreement with my union boss about anger issues I am having a disagreement with my union boss about anxiety I am having a disagreement with my union boss about depression I am having a disagreement with my shift leader about diet and weight loss issues I am having a disagreement with my shift leader about smoking I am having a disagreement with my shift leader about drugs or alcohol use I am having a disagreement with my shift leader about my mood I am having a disagreement with my shift leader about how I take care of myself I am having a disagreement with my shift leader about anger issues I am having a disagreement with my shift leader about anxiety I am having a disagreement with my shift leader about depression I am having a disagreement with my co worker about diet and weight loss issues I am having a disagreement with my co worker about smoking I am having a disagreement with my co worker about drugs or alcohol use I am having a disagreement with my co worker about my mood I am having a disagreement with my co worker about how I take care of myself I am having a disagreement with my co worker about anger issues I am having a disagreement with my co worker about anxiety I am having a disagreement with my co worker about depression I am having a disagreement with my mother about diet and weight loss issues I am having a disagreement with my mother about smoking I am having a disagreement with my mother about drugs or alcohol use I am having a disagreement with my mother about my mood I am having a disagreement with my mother about how I take care of myself I am having a disagreement with my mother about anger issues I am having a disagreement with my mother about anxiety I am having a disagreement with my mother about depression I am having a disagreement with my step mother about diet and weight loss issues I am having a disagreement with my step mother about smoking I am having a disagreement with my step mother about drugs or alcohol use I am having a disagreement with my step mother about my mood I am having a disagreement with my step mother about how I take care of myself I am having a disagreement with my step mother about anger issues I am having a disagreement with my step mother about anxiety I am having a disagreement with my step mother about depression I am having a disagreement with my god mother about diet and weight loss issues I am having a disagreement with my god mother about smoking I am having a disagreement with my god mother about drugs or alcohol use I am having a disagreement with my god mother about my mood I am having a disagreement with my god mother about how I take care of myself I am having a disagreement with my god mother about anger issues I am having a disagreement with my god mother about anxiety I am having a disagreement with my god mother about depression I am having a disagreement with my grandmother about diet and weight loss issues I am having a disagreement with my grandmother about smoking I am having a disagreement with my grandmother about drugs or alcohol use I am having a disagreement with my grandmother about my mood I am having a disagreement with my grandmother about how I take care of myself I am having a disagreement with my grandmother about anger issues I am having a disagreement with my grandmother about anxiety I am having a disagreement with my grandmother about depression I am having a disagreement with my daughter about diet and weight loss issues I am having a disagreement with my daughter about smoking I am having a disagreement with my daughter about drugs or alcohol use I am having a disagreement with my daughter about my mood I am having a disagreement with my daughter about how I take care of myself I am having a disagreement with my daughter about anger issues I am having a disagreement with my daughter about anxiety I am having a disagreement with my daughter about depression I am having a disagreement with my step daughter about diet and weight loss issues I am having a disagreement with my step daughter about smoking I am having a disagreement with my step daughter about drugs or alcohol use I am having a disagreement with my step daughter about my mood I am having a disagreement with my step daughter about how I take care of myself I am having a disagreement with my step daughter about anger issues I am having a disagreement with my step daughter about anxiety I am having a disagreement with my step daughter about depression I am having a disagreement with my foster daughter about diet and weight loss issues I am having a disagreement with my foster daughter about smoking I am having a disagreement with my foster daughter about drugs or alcohol use I am having a disagreement with my foster daughter about my mood I am having a disagreement with my foster daughter about how I take care of myself I am having a disagreement with my foster daughter about anger issues I am having a disagreement with my foster daughter about anxiety I am having a disagreement with my foster daughter about depression I am having a disagreement with my boss about diet and weight loss issues I am having a disagreement with my boss about smoking I am having a disagreement with my boss about drugs or alcohol use I am having a disagreement with my boss about my mood I am having a disagreement with my boss about how I take care of myself I am having a disagreement with my boss about anger issues I am having a disagreement with my boss about anxiety I am having a disagreement with my boss about depression I am having a disagreement with my supervisor about diet and weight loss issues I am having a disagreement with my supervisor about smoking I am having a disagreement with my supervisor about drugs or alcohol use I am having a disagreement with my supervisor about my mood I am having a disagreement with my supervisor about how I take care of myself I am having a disagreement with my supervisor about anger issues I am having a disagreement with my supervisor about anxiety I am having a disagreement with my supervisor about depression I am having a disagreement with my manager about diet and weight loss issues I am having a disagreement with my manager about smoking I am having a disagreement with my manager about drugs or alcohol use I am having a disagreement with my manager about my mood I am having a disagreement with my manager about how I take care of myself I am having a disagreement with my manager about anger issues I am having a disagreement with my manager about anxiety I am having a disagreement with my manager about depression I am having a disagreement with my union boss about diet and weight loss issues I am having a disagreement with my union boss about smoking I am having a disagreement with my union boss about drugs or alcohol use I am having a disagreement with my union boss about my mood I am having a disagreement with my union boss about how I take care of myself I am having a disagreement with my union boss about anger issues I am having a disagreement with my union boss about anxiety I am having a disagreement with my union boss about depression I am having a disagreement with my shift leader about diet and weight loss issues I am having a disagreement with my shift leader about smoking I am having a disagreement with my shift leader about drugs or alcohol use I am having a disagreement with my shift leader about my mood I am having a disagreement with my shift leader about how I take care of myself I am having a disagreement with my shift leader about anger issues I am having a disagreement with my shift leader about anxiety I am having a disagreement with my shift leader about depression I am having a disagreement with my co worker about diet and weight loss issues I am having a disagreement with my co worker about smoking I am having a disagreement with my co worker about drugs or alcohol use I am having a disagreement with my co worker about my mood I am having a disagreement with my co worker about how I take care of myself I am having a disagreement with my co worker about anger issues I am having a disagreement with my co worker about anxiety I am having a disagreement with my co worker about depression I think my doctor is being unsupportive I think my doctor is being careless I think my doctor is being insensitive I think my doctor is being too critical I think my doctor is being angry and hostile I think my doctor is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my doctor is being uncommunicative I think my doctor is being cold and distant I think my doctor is being not respecting my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my doctor is being controlling I think my doctor is being a bad influence or role model I think my doctor is being selfish I think my therapist is being unsupportive I think my therapist is being careless I think my therapist is being insensitive I think my therapist is being too critical I think my therapist is being angry and hostile I think my therapist is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my therapist is being uncommunicative I think my therapist is being cold and distant I think my therapist is being not respecting my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my therapist is being controlling I think my therapist is being a bad influence or role model I think my therapist is being selfish I think my counselor is being unsupportive I think my counselor is being careless I think my counselor is being insensitive I think my counselor is being too critical I think my counselor is being angry and hostile I think my counselor is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my counselor is being uncommunicative I think my counselor is being cold and distant I think my counselor is being not respecting my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my counselor is being controlling I think my counselor is being a bad influence or role model I think my counselor is being selfish I think my father is being unsupportive I think my father is being careless I think my father is being insensitive I think my father is being too critical I think my father is being angry and hostile I think my father is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my father is being uncommunicative I think my father is being cold and distant I think my father is being not respecting my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my father is being controlling I think my father is being a bad influence or role model I think my father is being selfish I think my step father is being unsupportive I think my step father is being careless I think my step father is being insensitive I think my step father is being too critical I think my step father is being angry and hostile I think my step father is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my step father is being uncommunicative I think my step father is being cold and distant I think my step father is being not respecting my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my step father is being controlling I think my step father is being a bad influence or role model I think my step father is being selfish I think my god father is being unsupportive I think my god father is being careless I think my god father is being insensitive I think my god father is being too critical I think my god father is being angry and hostile I think my god father is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my god father is being uncommunicative I think my god father is being cold and distant I think my god father is being not respecting my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my god father is being controlling I think my god father is being a bad influence or role model I think my god father is being selfish I think my grandfather is being unsupportive I think my grandfather is being careless I think my grandfather is being insensitive I think my grandfather is being too critical I think my grandfather is being angry and hostile I think my grandfather is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my grandfather is being uncommunicative I think my grandfather is being cold and distant I think my grandfather is being not respecting my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my grandfather is being controlling I think my grandfather is being a bad influence or role model I think my grandfather is being selfish I think my son is being unsupportive I think my son is being careless I think my son is being insensitive I think my son is being too critical I think my son is being angry and hostile I think my son is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my son is being uncommunicative I think my son is being cold and distant I think my son is being not respecting my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my son is being controlling I think my son is being a bad influence or role model I think my son is being selfish I think my step son is being unsupportive I think my step son is being careless I think my step son is being insensitive I think my step son is being too critical I think my step son is being angry and hostile I think my step son is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my step son is being uncommunicative I think my step son is being cold and distant I think my step son is being not respecting my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my step son is being controlling I think my step son is being a bad influence or role model I think my step son is being selfish I think my foster son is being unsupportive I think my foster son is being careless I think my foster son is being insensitive I think my foster son is being too critical I think my foster son is being angry and hostile I think my foster son is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my foster son is being uncommunicative I think my foster son is being cold and distant I think my foster son is being not respecting my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my foster son is being controlling I think my foster son is being a bad influence or role model I think my foster son is being selfish I think my boss is being unsupportive I think my boss is being careless I think my boss is being insensitive I think my boss is being too critical I think my boss is being angry and hostile I think my boss is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my boss is being uncommunicative I think my boss is being cold and distant I think my boss is being not respecting my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my boss is being controlling I think my boss is being a bad influence or role model I think my boss is being selfish I think my supervisor is being unsupportive I think my supervisor is being careless I think my supervisor is being insensitive I think my supervisor is being too critical I think my supervisor is being angry and hostile I think my supervisor is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my supervisor is being uncommunicative I think my supervisor is being cold and distant I think my supervisor is being not respecting my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my supervisor is being controlling I think my supervisor is being a bad influence or role model I think my supervisor is being selfish I think my manager is being unsupportive I think my manager is being careless I think my manager is being insensitive I think my manager is being too critical I think my manager is being angry and hostile I think my manager is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my manager is being uncommunicative I think my manager is being cold and distant I think my manager is being not respecting my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my manager is being controlling I think my manager is being a bad influence or role model I think my manager is being selfish I think my union boss is being unsupportive I think my union boss is being careless I think my union boss is being insensitive I think my union boss is being too critical I think my union boss is being angry and hostile I think my union boss is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my union boss is being uncommunicative I think my union boss is being cold and distant I think my union boss is being not respecting my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my union boss is being controlling I think my union boss is being a bad influence or role model I think my union boss is being selfish I think my shift leader is being unsupportive I think my shift leader is being careless I think my shift leader is being insensitive I think my shift leader is being too critical I think my shift leader is being angry and hostile I think my shift leader is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my shift leader is being uncommunicative I think my shift leader is being cold and distant I think my shift leader is being not respecting my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my shift leader is being controlling I think my shift leader is being a bad influence or role model I think my shift leader is being selfish I think my co worker is being unsupportive I think my co worker is being careless I think my co worker is being insensitive I think my co worker is being too critical I think my co worker is being angry and hostile I think my co worker is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my co worker is being uncommunicative I think my co worker is being cold and distant I think my co worker is being not respecting my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my co worker is being controlling I think my co worker is being a bad influence or role model I think my co worker is being selfish I think my mother is being unsupportive I think my mother is being careless I think my mother is being insensitive I think my mother is being too critical I think my mother is being angry and hostile I think my mother is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my mother is being uncommunicative I think my mother is being cold and distant I think my mother is being not respecting my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my mother is being controlling I think my mother is being a bad influence or role model I think my mother is being selfish I think my step mother is being unsupportive I think my step mother is being careless I think my step mother is being insensitive I think my step mother is being too critical I think my step mother is being angry and hostile I think my step mother is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my step mother is being uncommunicative I think my step mother is being cold and distant I think my step mother is being not respecting my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my step mother is being controlling I think my step mother is being a bad influence or role model I think my step mother is being selfish I think my god mother is being unsupportive I think my god mother is being careless I think my god mother is being insensitive I think my god mother is being too critical I think my god mother is being angry and hostile I think my god mother is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my god mother is being uncommunicative I think my god mother is being cold and distant I think my god mother is being not respecting my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my god mother is being controlling I think my god mother is being a bad influence or role model I think my god mother is being selfish I think my grandmother is being unsupportive I think my grandmother is being careless I think my grandmother is being insensitive I think my grandmother is being too critical I think my grandmother is being angry and hostile I think my grandmother is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my grandmother is being uncommunicative I think my grandmother is being cold and distant I think my grandmother is being not respecting my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my grandmother is being controlling I think my grandmother is being a bad influence or role model I think my grandmother is being selfish I think my daughter is being unsupportive I think my daughter is being careless I think my daughter is being insensitive I think my daughter is being too critical I think my daughter is being angry and hostile I think my daughter is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my daughter is being uncommunicative I think my daughter is being cold and distant I think my daughter is being not respecting my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my daughter is being controlling I think my daughter is being a bad influence or role model I think my daughter is being selfish I think my step daughter is being unsupportive I think my step daughter is being careless I think my step daughter is being insensitive I think my step daughter is being too critical I think my step daughter is being angry and hostile I think my step daughter is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my step daughter is being uncommunicative I think my step daughter is being cold and distant I think my step daughter is being not respecting my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my step daughter is being controlling I think my step daughter is being a bad influence or role model I think my step daughter is being selfish I think my foster daughter is being unsupportive I think my foster daughter is being careless I think my foster daughter is being insensitive I think my foster daughter is being too critical I think my foster daughter is being angry and hostile I think my foster daughter is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my foster daughter is being uncommunicative I think my foster daughter is being cold and distant I think my foster daughter is being not respecting my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my foster daughter is being controlling I think my foster daughter is being a bad influence or role model I think my foster daughter is being selfish I think my boss is being unsupportive I think my boss is being careless I think my boss is being insensitive I think my boss is being too critical I think my boss is being angry and hostile I think my boss is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my boss is being uncommunicative I think my boss is being cold and distant I think my boss is being not respecting my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my boss is being controlling I think my boss is being a bad influence or role model I think my boss is being selfish I think my supervisor is being unsupportive I think my supervisor is being careless I think my supervisor is being insensitive I think my supervisor is being too critical I think my supervisor is being angry and hostile I think my supervisor is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my supervisor is being uncommunicative I think my supervisor is being cold and distant I think my supervisor is being not respecting my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my supervisor is being controlling I think my supervisor is being a bad influence or role model I think my supervisor is being selfish I think my manager is being unsupportive I think my manager is being careless I think my manager is being insensitive I think my manager is being too critical I think my manager is being angry and hostile I think my manager is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my manager is being uncommunicative I think my manager is being cold and distant I think my manager is being not respecting my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my manager is being controlling I think my manager is being a bad influence or role model I think my manager is being selfish I think my union boss is being unsupportive I think my union boss is being careless I think my union boss is being insensitive I think my union boss is being too critical I think my union boss is being angry and hostile I think my union boss is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my union boss is being uncommunicative I think my union boss is being cold and distant I think my union boss is being not respecting my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my union boss is being controlling I think my union boss is being a bad influence or role model I think my union boss is being selfish I think my shift leader is being unsupportive I think my shift leader is being careless I think my shift leader is being insensitive I think my shift leader is being too critical I think my shift leader is being angry and hostile I think my shift leader is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my shift leader is being uncommunicative I think my shift leader is being cold and distant I think my shift leader is being not respecting my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my shift leader is being controlling I think my shift leader is being a bad influence or role model I think my shift leader is being selfish I think my co worker is being unsupportive I think my co worker is being careless I think my co worker is being insensitive I think my co worker is being too critical I think my co worker is being angry and hostile I think my co worker is being too demanding or unreasonable I think my co worker is being uncommunicative I think my co worker is being cold and distant I think my co worker is being not respecting my boundaries and interfering in my life I think my co worker is being controlling I think my co worker is being a bad influence or role model I think my co worker is being selfish My doctor is pressuring me to lose weight My doctor is pressuring me to quit smoking My doctor is 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to stop drinking My manager is pressuring me to stop taking drugs My manager is pressuring me to change something about myself My union boss is pressuring me to lose weight My union boss is pressuring me to quit smoking My union boss is pressuring me to stop drinking My union boss is pressuring me to stop taking drugs My union boss is pressuring me to change something about myself My shift leader is pressuring me to lose weight My shift leader is pressuring me to quit smoking My shift leader is pressuring me to stop drinking My shift leader is pressuring me to stop taking drugs My shift leader is pressuring me to change something about myself My co worker is pressuring me to lose weight My co worker is pressuring me to quit smoking My co worker is pressuring me to stop drinking My co worker is pressuring me to stop taking drugs My co worker is pressuring me to change something about myself My mother is pressuring me to lose weight My mother is pressuring me to quit smoking My mother is pressuring me to stop drinking My mother is pressuring me to stop taking drugs My mother is pressuring me to change something about myself My step mother is pressuring me to lose weight My step mother is pressuring me to quit smoking My step mother is pressuring me to stop drinking My step mother is pressuring me to stop taking drugs My step mother is pressuring me to change something about myself My god mother is pressuring me to lose weight My god mother is pressuring me to quit smoking My god mother is pressuring me to stop drinking My god mother is pressuring me to stop taking drugs My god mother is pressuring me to change something about myself My grandmother is pressuring me to lose weight My grandmother is pressuring me to quit smoking My grandmother is pressuring me to stop drinking My grandmother is pressuring me to stop taking drugs My grandmother is pressuring me to change something about myself My daughter is pressuring me to lose weight My daughter is pressuring me to quit smoking My daughter is pressuring me to stop drinking My daughter is pressuring me to stop taking drugs My daughter is pressuring me to change something about myself My step daughter is pressuring me to lose weight My step daughter is pressuring me to quit smoking My step daughter is pressuring me to stop drinking My step daughter is pressuring me to stop taking drugs My step daughter is pressuring me to change something about myself My foster daughter is pressuring me to lose weight My foster daughter is pressuring me to quit smoking My foster daughter is pressuring me to stop drinking My foster daughter is pressuring me to stop taking drugs My foster daughter is pressuring me to change something about myself My boss is pressuring me to lose weight My boss is pressuring me to quit smoking My boss is pressuring me to stop drinking My boss is pressuring me to stop taking drugs My boss is pressuring me to change something about myself My supervisor is pressuring me to lose weight My supervisor is pressuring me to quit smoking My supervisor is pressuring me to stop drinking My supervisor is pressuring me to stop taking drugs My supervisor is pressuring me to change something about myself My manager is pressuring me to lose weight My manager is pressuring me to quit smoking My manager is pressuring me to stop drinking My manager is pressuring me to stop taking drugs My manager is pressuring me to change something about myself My union boss is pressuring me to lose weight My union boss is pressuring me to quit smoking My union boss is pressuring me to stop drinking My union boss is pressuring me to stop taking drugs My union boss is pressuring me to change something about myself My shift leader is pressuring me to lose weight My shift leader is pressuring me to quit smoking My shift leader is pressuring me to stop drinking My shift leader is pressuring me to stop taking drugs My shift leader is pressuring me to change something about myself My co worker is pressuring me to lose weight My co worker is pressuring me to quit smoking My co worker is pressuring me to stop drinking My co worker is pressuring me to stop taking drugs My co worker is pressuring me to change something about myself I'm caring for a spouse or partner with health problems, an illness or a disability I'm caring for a spouse or partner with a mental illness I'm dealing with a spouse or partner who has a substance abuse problem I'm worried about my spouse's or partner's well-being I'm worried about my spouse's or partner's financial burden My spouse or partner is pressuring me to participate in social obligations I'm dealing with two families merging together I'm living in an unhealthy home I'm dealing with an ex with health problems, an illness or a disability I'm dealing with an ex with a mental illness I'm dealing with an ex with a substance abuse problem I'm not in a relationship right now but I want to be I'm currently single and want to be in a relationship, but have a bad dating track record I have a difficult time finding compatible romantic partners I want to be in a relationship, but I seem to make the same romantic mistakes over and over again It seems like all the women I date are jerks It seems like all the men I date are jerks I'm worried about my ex's well-being I'm worried about my ex's financial burden I'm dealing with two families merging together I'm caring for a child with special needs I'm taking care of an elder parent I'm caring for a child with health problems, an illness or a disability I'm caring for a parent with health problems, an illness or a disability I'm caring for a child with a mental illness I'm caring for a parent with a mental illness I'm dealing with a child with a substance abuse problem I'm dealing with a parent with a substance abuse problem I'm worried about my son's well-being I'm worried about my daughter's well-being I'm worried about my mother's well-being I'm worried about my father's well-being I'm worried about my son's financial burden I'm worried about my daughter's financial burden I'm worried about my mother's financial burden I'm worried about my father's financial burden I'm dealing with two families merging together I'm living in an unhealthy home I'm caring for a family member with health problems, an illness or a disability I'm caring for a family member with a mental illness I'm dealing with a family member who has a substance abuse problem I'm caring for an elder family member I'm worried about a family member's well-being I'm worried about a family member's financial burden A family member is pressuring me to participate in social obligations I'm dealing with a friend with a substance abuse problem I'm dealing with a friend with a mental illness I'm worried about a friend's well-being I'm worried about a friend's financial burden A friend is pressuring me to participate in social obligations A friend is pressuring me to date I'm being pressured to participate in social obligations by a colleague or manager I'm having tension with a co-worker I'm having tension with my boss I'm having tension with an employee I don't have enough education or skills to find the right job I don't have enough work experience or skills since I have not needed a job in the past I have skills that I want to use at work, but can't I feel frustrated and burned out at my job I'm under too much pressure at work I'm disappointed with my job I have to go back to work because I lost my savings, but don't have current work experience or skills I'm not paid enough or cannot work as much as I'd like to I have recently been laid off and need to find work I have recently been fired and need to find work I have been unemployed for too long I can't find work right now I'm concerned about conditions at the workplace I'm concerned about someone's financial burden I'm experiencing financial hardship I can't support myself and/or my family with my current salary My salary has been cut and I'm struggling to make ends meet My hours have been cut and I'm not earning enough money I'm losing my home to foreclosure I'm struggling to make my mortgage payments I'm struggling with credit card debt I'm struggling with debt I'm struggling to repay my student loans I defaulted on my student loans I'm experiencing financial hardship I'm worried about someone's well-being I'm struggling to repay my student loans I defaulted on my student loans I don't have enough education or skills to find the right job I'm worried about someone's well-being I'm worried about my well-being I want to become less pessimistic I want to become less stubborn I want to become less lazy I want to become less fearful I want to become less angry I want to become less confrontational I want to become better at being organized I want to become better at handling money matters I want to become better at managing time I want to become better at maintaining a healthy body I want to become better at maintaining sobriety I want to become better at living up to important morals or values I want to become better at being open to other people I want to become better at getting to know other people I want to become better at communicating with other people I want to become better at being assertive while respecting other people I want to become better at being vulnerable I want to become better at making healthy relationship choices I want to become better at being romantic and passionate I want to become better at giving love I want to become better at receiving love I want to become better at making a commitment and settling down I want to become better at being sexual or sensual I want to become better at having balanced relationships I want to become better at being independent I want to become better at using business or career-related talents I want to become better at being creative I want to become better at being a leader I want to become better at being spiritual I want to become better at being politically aware and involved I want to stop procrastinating

	KEY WORDS (close) This list is for search engine optimization: it provides people a way to find this website when they do a search on a life issue. feel ineffectual and incompetent be an adult give up my excuses be made fun of by others be rejected by others lose the respect of others fail and appear foolish feel awkward feel out of control when I feel overwhelmed when I feel tired feel overwhelmed feel unsafe and insecure feel weak closed in she is temporarily under a lot of stress she behaves this way with everyone; it's just part of her personality she is not aware of how she is behaving she is going through a difficult transition she is experiencing pain from health problems or injuries have better intimacy have better sex have better intimacy have less tension in my intimacy have more fulfilling intimacy be more at ease with myself feel accepted feel more secure and safe be relieved from a lot of inner pressure free up what resources I can to deal with this problem providing a shoulder to lean on when Im feeling stressed be more open to new experiences and opportunities make decisions with greater ease be consistent in my thoughts and actions be held in high regard by others be true to myself have clarity of purpose and direction make a positive impact in my community set a good example for others have more fulfilling relationships be more at ease with myself be proud of myself feel accomplished be relieved from a lot of inner pressure not let what other people think have so much power over me struggle with setbacks and disappointment develop problem-solving skills and management skills not discount discipline myself to plan a career enroll in advanced training programs or continuing education explore my talents and take steps to develop them explore work options and opportunities making an effort to meet at least one new potential romantic partner a week joining an Internet dating service becoming active in my church, synagogue, mosque or faith community in order to meet potential mates with similar values joining professional networking groups to meet potential mates with similar goals and interests joining sports and leisure groups to meet potential mates with similar interests striking bargains with people to help me resolve my problem not taking rejection personally and letting it derail me from my relationship goals enjoying myself and my life whether Im in a relationship or not working with a therapist or other professional to work through any fear or resistance remind myself that facing my problems is a sign of a strong, responsible person realize its my actions that define me, not what other people think or say realize that many of my concerns are actually fears and doubts I have about myself realize that I'm being harder on myself than my friends and family are realize that I cant control what other people think, so I may as well do what I need to do talk to my friends and family about what Im going through angry connecting me with people they know who may be able to help sad torn apart fearful weak spread too thin angry helpless frustrated trapped worthless guilty spend time doing things on my own accept help or support from others speaking on find out who our Case Manager is write down questions before the Care Team does rounds, so I am prepared panicky put upon use my creative talents emotional support become angry with me fiancée I'm refusing to cooperate to get even with someone or to be independent of any rule or authority, even if it's reasonable. I can accept a loss of money or privileges. A loss of money or privileges would be unacceptable. I think I can bear the separation, rejection or distancing that may occur. I think the possible separation, rejection or distancing that may occur would be unbearable. money and finances making mistakes and looking stupid my own health and/or emotional conditions being worsened due to the stress of being an attendant try to see things from the other person's point of view when I'm feeling frustrated or upset download and review a copy of the American's with Disabilities Act and familiarize myself with it develop good listening skills focus on the positive rather than the negative in situations I want to learn as much as possible I want to learn about the Patients Bill of Rights and other rights so that I can ensure that I want to keep track of all the details of talk directly to ask someone to speak with change my own behavior or response set boundaries and enforce consequences distance myself physically and psychologically from monitor the situation focus on the positive rather than the negative in situations focus on what can be done rather than what can't be done become better at being assertive become less pessimistic and more optimistic become better at showing empathy for others become better at being open-minded and flexible acknowledge that there is more than one way to achieve a goal or outcome accept that there are different personality styles and/or different ways of doing things felt out of place in a foreign culture and/or country and did not know who to trust witnessed the death or injury of fellow military personnel or civilians knew someone personally who was killed or injured sustained incoming fire or was otherwise attacked or ambushed had to stay awake or alert for long periods during times of danger had to fight alongside people with difficult personalities make a point of making direct eye contact with others determine the chain of command and the appropriate person to whom I should express any concerns that I have express my concerns in respectful language record my concerns in writing, stick to the facts and don't document negative personal opinions be respectful of reassure being cold, angry or belittling toward me acting strange or unlike acting very sad or depressed not taking care of in a relationship with someone who is mistreating or taking advantage of is hanging out with friends who are a bad influence on abusing drugs and/or alcohol spending compulsively gambling compulsively engaging in compulsive sexual relationships spending too much time at adult bookstores, clubs or looking at pornography not taking care of make a point of making direct eye contact with others smile and say hello to staff and other attendants remind myself that it's natural to feel nervous in new surroundings with new people let people know I'm feeling shy or nervous as a way to break the ice make taking care of my health an equal priority practice good manners and civil behavior remember to be kind, courteous and considerate even when I feel frustrated or scared remember that there are many other patients at WRAMC and that staff may need to tend to others before remember to nurture, care and make time for myself remember that I can't do this alone and ask for help when I need it reach out to other NMAs who are going through the same kinds of things for support relax a bit have a little fun be more active express my feelings better keep my perspective get my day-to-day life in order practice deep breathing practice meditation take a long hot bath get a massage use tension relaxation techniques use biofeedback techniques use aromatherapy take a sauna or steam bath practice visualization techniques listen to relaxation tapes listen to soothing music spend time in nature spend time reading spend time with pets just hang out and do nothing go for a walk watched television or a movie take a nap friend being competitive with me not providing enough guidance causing too many arguments acting in a way that I do not respect or that does not build trust playing favorites pitting people against each other undermining my efforts acting out invading my privacy violating my rights bullying me being punitive toward me putting me in "no-win" situations setting me up for failure turning my friends and/or family against me excluding me being competitive with me not providing enough guidance causing too many arguments acting in a way that I do not respect or that does not build trust playing favorites pitting people against each other undermining my efforts acting out invading my privacy violating my rights bullying me being punitive toward me putting me in "no-win" situations setting me up for failure turning my friends and/or family against me abusing drugs and/or alcohol spending compulsively gambling compulsively engaging in compulsive sexual relationships spending too much time at adult bookstores, clubs or looking at pornography not taking care of it makes me feel like I am not good enough and that theres nothing I can do about it it feels like it will last forever unless I can figure out a way to get rid of it quickly it feels like it will lead to despair or the inability to do anything if I don't stop it quickly it feels like I will explode, evaporate, disintegrate or not be able to handle the emotion in some other way it feels like my life is ruined or that I have screwed up it feels like Ill never be able to trust anyone again it feels like Ill never be able to do anything right or be successful it feels like my mind will just stop working and my thinking will never be clear it feels like there is an endless ocean of tears inside of me that will start flowing and never stop it feels like I will never be able to make a decision again it makes me feel bad, unlovable and worthless it makes me feel like theres something wrong with me it makes me feel cursed it makes me feel ashamed go to a museum or art gallery attend a concert, the symphony, or the opera browse in a bookstore or library go to the theater listen to music attend or watch a sporting event go to the movies play a game, cards or do a puzzle participate in spiritual activities take up a hobby or a sport attend a lecture or seminar call a good friend surf the Internet go on a walk plan my next vacation go running or jogging take a bike ride practice yoga do Pilates go to the gym lift weights work in my garden go for a walk play golf play tennis play racquetball participate in sports go backpacking, hiking or camping practice martial arts go hunting or fishing clean the house clearly and firmly express my feelings express my feelings more calmly wait to express my feelings until I understand them better let other people know my expectations and needs put people on notice that I can't be controlled anymore let go in order to stop being too rigid show a true part of myself that I've been covering up start a deep and honest conversation stop pretending that something is not bothering me remember a time when I was feeling good remember what I have to be thankful for make a plan remember that I won't always feel this way remind myself of the people that love or care about me keep in mind that my life is not as out of control as I think it is remind myself that my life is not as meaningless as it might feel let go and remind myself I don't have to control everything remind myself that what I fear won't necessarily happen go for a walk take a warm bath try to help people who are less fortunate than myself prioritize my needs and desires make purchases based on my priorities make a budget balance my checkbook clean the house make phone calls or appointments I've been putting off have a conversation with someone else in order to clear up some confusion being financially irresponsible borrowing money struggling with remember that pressuring others will probably make them and me more frustrated instead of getting me the results I want remember that Im more likely to make mistakes when Im in a rush or rushing others remember that putting more pressure on myself and others only makes things more tense remember that everyone wants the best for take a 5- or 10-minute timeout and slow down when Im starting to feel internal pressure focus on what needs to be done in the moment rather than projecting myself and others too far ahead into the future take each day one at a time celebrate the small victories and remember that small victories lead to bigger victories accept twists and turns gracefully keep my expectations of others realistic keep my expectations of myself realistic develop a sense of humor about disruptions and changes focus on the positive in every situation instead of the negative focus on how something could work instead of why it wont work focus on my strengths instead of my limitations focus on other people's strengths instead of their limitations remember that life is constantly changing and it's healthy and smart to adapt to situations instead of trying to force people and circumstances to stay the same adapt to my current environment instead of trying to make the environment adapt to me remember that I cant control others or events, but I can control how I respond to them anxious uptight victimized damaged persecuted hopeless unsure angry frustrated fearful weak spread too thin resentful helpless incompetent trapped worthless pressured powerless weighted down anxious inferior bitter drained ashamed embarrassed defective defensive persecuted hopeless living beyond abusing I dont have enough time I dont have enough resources I dont have enough support I wont be taken seriously it's too difficult I can't afford to transfer departments or find a new job I cant take time away from my current job for additional training Ill jeopardize my job if I ask for help no one else can handle my responsibilities at work angry frustrated fearful weak spread too thin resentful helpless incompetent trapped worthless pressured powerless weighted down anxious inferior bitter drained ashamed embarrassed defective defensive persecuted hopeless I am motivated to control someone I want to get revenge or hurt someone I am trying to avoid growing up in some way I want to stay too dependent confused bored ashamed needy empty scared tired exhausted stuck defeated alone rewarded in control confident safe secure satisfied content relaxed calm powerful independent No, Im not procrastinating for this reason. I am trying to win or be superior I am so angry about not getting this need met that I may be out of control I want what I want when I want it and am not able to be realistic about this need I am unable to take responsibility and blame others for this frustrated need I am unable to make any compromises or unable to accept any partial satisfaction of this need it's not a high priority for me right now it's in conflict with another important need I don't know how to get this need met I dont believe it can be fulfilled in my current situation I'm not sure fulfilling this need is worth the effort I'm afraid I'll be too disappointed or depressed if I try and don't get it I would have to make big changes in my life that I'm not now prepared to make right now I can only get this need met if someone else will grant it to me or change their behavior or attitude toward me give more to me than I gave to him put my needs first above all others do more than his fair share of the work not get angry with me even if I deserve it treat me with respect even though I don't treat him with respect bend the rules and give me special treatment trust me even when I don't deserve to be trusted accept me for who I am, even when I dont show the best part of myself treat me as if I've already made the changes I have in mind or plan to make nurture me and make me feel happy when I am unable to do it for myself tell me what I want or think I need to hear let me keep my feelings to myself let me get away with things stop smoking stop drinking stop taking drugs stop spending so much money stop gambling change jobs or careers go back to school or begin a school program lose weight start exercising more eat better get married get divorced find a new relationship break-up finish a project begin a project file my taxes improve my finances finish my dissertation prepare for a professional exam get a promotion learn a new skill learn a new hobby Im too old Im too young Im not attractive enough Im not healthy enough Im not thin enough I dont feel smart enough I dont have enough experience I dont have enough information I dont have enough money or other resources worked really hard, but cant seem to make any progress worked really hard for a period of time and then stop working on it for a period of time started working on it, but then feel blocked and stop working on it not really worked on it at all enthusiastic and excited, but then run out of steam ambivalent scared nervous apathetic I think I can bear the separation, rejection or distancing that may occur. I think the possible separation, rejection or distancing that may occur would be unbearable. I can accept a loss of money or privileges. A loss of money or privileges would be unacceptable. be given more responsibilities feel ineffectual and incompetent did not listen to me and try to understand my point of view did not respond to me in an open and caring way did not take my needs into account denied me a reasonable request did not give as much me as I gave to her broke her word expressed her anger in an unacceptable way did not treat me with respect did not accept me as I am did not show that she cares about me did not do something that was important to me did not respect my needs or feelings did not respect my boundaries lied to me cheated on me stole from me lied about me tried to turn others against me was cruel to me abused me physically abused me verbally damaged my property borrowed from me and did not repay me cover-up a weakness a daydreamer a button-pusher a busy person a perfectionist a loner a people pleaser a workhorse a self-indulger a clown an expert resolve not to do this again apologize try to recover a loss do a favor for someone change something about myself realize that it's okay to do what is in my own best interests, but be mindful not to discount the needs of others while doing so realize that some people won't like it if I put my needs first and will try to unfairly make me feel guilty about it hurt unloved I feel guilty about what I want to do or say. I feel guilty about something I have done or said in the past. I feel guilty because I am not doing something I know I should. I feel guilty because I am not meeting someone else's expectations. attract attention compete with someone express anger draw somebody into my life achieve perfection talk to make changes in myself to resolve this situation accept that I will be angry for a while and then work toward letting my anger go adjust my expectations of accept that end the relationship or distance myself as much as possible from overly sensitive to the issues that are being brought up ask my doctor(s) for local referrals in case an emergency arises monitor my condition(s) and take it easy when I feel stressed and/or fatigued try to eat well and make sure I get enough rest consult with the Care Team social worker or therapist if I need help explaining things to the child/children reassure the kid(s) of our love help the kid(s) to feel safe and secure try to remain calm and centered when speaking to the kid(s) and project an air of "everything will be alright" have a conversation with change my behavior. have a conversation with change my own behavior so talk firmly but fairly with get outside help distance myself from talk firmly but fairly with get outside help. distance myself from the long-term physical and psychological consequences of my family back home being away from my job money and finances money and finances regarding lifelong care for making mistakes and looking stupid failing meeting and interacting with new people other people thinking that I'm a bad NMA my own health and/or emotional conditions being worsened due to the stress of being an NMA how our children will react to take a few minutes to do absolutely nothing and just sit quietly and think and slow my world down hold myself to reachable standards hold others to reachable standards count to "10" before saying or doing something I will later regret develop some self-soothing exercises (e.g., breathing, meditating, walking, stretching) find a quiet place to relax remember that Im not perfect and others dont expect me to be perfect ask for help when I need it remember that its okay to have some time just for myself I want to become a clear communicator to improve my effectiveness with the Care Team, hospital administrators and representatives of other resources I want to practice a good attitude and positive interpersonal skills I want to be able to speak on like a failure helpless angry depressed guilty showing my anger grinning and bearing it, but still feeling angry closing down and blaming myself giving up and distancing myself going into a big funk taking it out on someone else wanting to find a way to hurt back or punish I want to ensure I want to ensure determine the chain of command and the appropriate person to whom I should express any concerns that I have express my concerns in respectful language record my concerns in writing, stick to the facts and don't document negative personal opinions be kind to myself when I make mistakes be patient with myself while learning the ropes try my best and not let myself become discouraged let go of unrealistic expectation of being perfect or "getting it" right out of the gate I did this intentionally and feel bad about it I did this unintentionally, but feel bad about the consequences of my actions Technically, I don't think I did anything wrong, but still feel guilty because of old rules or expectations that others placed upon me only a minor irritant something that could become more serious a serious disturbance sad torn apart fearful weak spread too thin angry helpless frustrated trapped worthless guilty powerless weighted down anxious inferior numb mean bitter drained ashamed embarrassed defective resentful uptight victimized damaged persecuted hopeless unsure did not listen to me and try to understand my point of view did not respond to me in an open and caring way did not take my needs into account denied me a reasonable request did not give as much me as I gave to him broke his word expressed his anger in an unacceptable way did not treat me with respect did not accept me as I am did not show that he cares about me did not do something that was important to me did not respect my needs or feelings did not respect my boundaries lied to me cheated on me stole from me lied about me tried to turn others against me was cruel to me abused me physically abused me verbally damaged my property borrowed from me and did not repay me this is a misunderstanding and I shouldnt be angry anymore I am disappointed, but what there was a clear betrayal of my trust I am more frustrated with the circumstances than I am angry with my unrealistic expectations made me more angry than I should have been it feels like Ill never be able to reach my goal, so I dont see why I should try I feel like the payoff from completing this requires too much effort Im worried that if I take action that it will backfire in some way Im worried that others will react negatively if I take action waiting until the last minute waiting for someone to force me to do this waiting for the circumstances to get so bad that I have no choice waiting until I am threatened with some form of punishment or personal or financial loss I might decide that my potential action isn't right for me at this time and quit. I might quit because I'm too afraid to pursue my action even though I think it's the right thing to do. I expect myself to be the best. The outcome won't be terrible in terms of real dangers, but I'll feel bad if I don't do it perfectly. I expect myself to carry out my action perfectly as if I'd practiced or done it before, even if it isn't realistic. If I don't achieve all the results I want, I'll feel like a failure, even though it won't make a critical difference, since my action can be improved, undone, or fixed if I try again. If I don't get the outcome I want with this one try, it will make a critical difference because the outcome cannot be repaired, improved, or undone with another try. I wish this wasn't so hard and could somehow avoid feeling uncomfortable. I'm particularly sensitive to the feelings I expect to have. They've occurred in the past and are difficult for me to deal with. I may have to temporarily give up an important part of my life in order to gain the benefits of my action. It's very likely that I'll have to permanently give up an important part of my life if I succeed with my action. In this case, I think I'll be able to handle it if someone becomes jealous of me. I think my fear is real. Someone will become very jealous and I don't know if I could handle it. I'm scared I will physically injure another person or destroy another person's property. I'm scared my success with this action will be costly or detrimental to another person's relationships, career or ability to make a living. I'm scared my success will make me too independent or distance me from someone. I'm planning to try and hurt another person verbally, e.g., accuse, blame, or label someone. I'm planning to try and hurt another person physically or by damaging property. I want to disappoint someone. I'm trying to shift blame to someone even though they don't deserve it in order to avoid my share of responsibility I'm trying to punish someone for past deeds and am using this action as an opportunity for revenge. I'm trying to get something I don't deserve. I'm trying to force or manipulate someone into doing something they don't want to do or isn't in their best interest. I'm planning to use my action to punish others who are concerned about me. I'm trying to cheat, fool, misuse or take advantage of someone. I think this action goes against my conscience in some way. I don't think that this action violates my conscience and the circumstances are such that I should follow through with it. I'm doing something different and new for me, which makes it feel "wrong." Even though it may feel wrong, pursuing my action won't violate my personal standards or values in any way. I'm doing something that's different from someone else's standards or values. Even though it may be difficult, I believe my action is correct and the right thing to do in this situation. be careful control myself tell my friends everything be humble watch my step be a nice person be pleasant be gentle be sensible be practical comply finish what I start behave myself be clever compromise be modest say I'm sorry be happy honor my elders share think of others first love others in my family hurt others be selfish be arrogant be hostile be mean be irritating find faults be in a hurry be late talk back be pushy cause trouble be stubborn be conspicuous fight complain argue show anger take it easy attract attention compete with someone express anger draw somebody into my life achieve perfection cover-up a weakness apologize be aggressive delay some other action prove myself take control pursue a dream give into pressure rebel I'm trying to show my talents or be noticed. I'm trying to show off or be the center of attention. I'm acting in a realistic way within a competitive world. I'm trying to put someone else down in order to raise myself up. I'm trying to clear up a conflict. I'm trying to get even or punish someone. I'm trying to get closer to someone with whom I'd like more contact. I'm trying to get someone to do something I want. I'm trying to grow and develop to the best of my ability. I'm trying to appear better than others because I need the attention to cover-up my fears. I'm trying to protect myself against others. I'm trying to hide a weakness because I'm too afraid to change. I'm trying to be fair and make amends. I'm apologizing because it is easier than standing up for myself. I'm trying to be strong and stand up for what is right. I'm angry and looking for ways to express it. I want to delay some other action because it's more important to pursue my action first. I'm trying to avoid taking some other action and my potential action is a good excuse. I'm trying to push myself to test my own limits. I'm trying to get approval from someone else in order to feel that I'm okay. I'm trying to be responsible or provide leadership. I'm trying to control others to make myself feel important. I'm trying to turn a dream or goal into a reality. I'm hoping that somehow my dreams will come true. I'm giving in because it is the correct thing to do. I'm trying to please a protector or avoid becoming independent. I want to pursue this action in order to stand up for my beliefs. I'm refusing to cooperate to get even with someone or to be independent of any rule or authority, even if it's reasonable. listen and try to understand my point of view respond in an open and caring way take my needs into account along with grant me a reasonable request give as much to me as I gave to deal with treat me with respect treat me fairly trust me accept me as I am acknowledge the changes in me show that communicate clearly and honestly share take responsibility for give up stop what know what I wanted and needed without having to tell give me exactly what I wanted give more to me than I gave to put my needs first above all others do more than not get angry with me even if I deserved it treat me with respect even though I didn't treat bend the rules and give me special treatment trust me even when I didn't deserve to be trusted accept me for who I am, even if I didnt show the best part of myself treat me as if I'd already made the changes I have in mind or plan to make nurture me and make me feel happy when I was unable to do it for myself tell me what I wanted or thought I needed to hear let me keep my feelings to myself let me get away with things be the way I wanted take all the responsibility for the problems in our relationship I'm really angry with myself in this instance. Now that I think about it, I'm really angry with someone else. discourage me or be unhelpful treat me differently and be less accepting be unwilling to admit he's wrong in this instance be unwilling to bend the rules a little bit not understand my point of view or tell me that I'm wrong make me doubt myself, feel insecure or feel inadequate more than I already do discourage me or be unhelpful treat me differently and be less accepting be unwilling to admit she's wrong in this instance be unwilling to bend the rules a little bit not understand my point of view or tell me that I'm wrong make me doubt myself, feel insecure or feel inadequate more than I already do guilty angry defeated hopeless scared worried embarrassed will actually occur directly following this one planned action will occur only if I take a series of actions after this one Now that I think about it, although I think I can deal with the discomfort, even though I wish it would be easier. I dont think I could deal with this response because the immediate discomfort would probably be too great. I think that I can bear the separation, rejection or distancing that may occur. I think the possible separation, rejection or distancing that may occur would be unbearable. I can accept a loss of money or privileges. A loss of money or privileges would be unacceptable. I can gather support or approach my action in a controlled and sensitive way to soften the impact so that it's bearable. There is nothing I can do to get support or to soften the impact to make it bearable. Even though it's risky, I need to pursue this action. The risk is too great, so I probably shouldn't pursue this action. I think I can deal with the discomfort, even though I wish it would be easier. I dont think I could deal with this response because the immediate discomfort would probably be too great. I think that I can bear the separation, rejection or distancing that may occur. I think the possible separation, rejection or distancing that may occur would be unbearable. I can accept a loss of money or privileges. A loss of money or privileges would be unacceptable. I can gather support or approach my action in a controlled and sensitive way to soften the impact so that it's bearable. There's nothing I can do to gather support or to soften the impact to make it bearable. Even though it's risky, I need to pursue this action. The risk is too great, so I probably shouldn't pursue this action. treat me like a child who cant do anything alone expect me to carry out my action perfectly manipulate and pressure me to carry out my action his way take all the credit and act as if my action was his idea in the first place compare me to someone else who I cant or dont want to compete with cling to me and make me feel smothered treat me like a child who cant do anything alone expect me to carry out my action perfectly manipulate and pressure me to carry out my action her way take all the credit and act as if my action was her idea in the first place compare me to someone else who I cant or dont want to compete with cling to me and make me feel smothered guilty angry defeated hopeless scared worried embarrassed will actually occur directly following this one action will occur only if I take a series of actions after this one Now that I think about it, although I think I can deal with the discomfort, even though I wish it would be easier. I dont think I could deal with this response because the immediate discomfort would probably be too great. I think that I can bear the separation, rejection or distancing that may occur. I think the possible separation, rejection or distancing that may occur would be unbearable. I can accept a loss of money or privileges. A loss of money or privileges would be unacceptable. I can gather support or approach my action in a controlled and sensitive way to soften the impact so that it's bearable. There is nothing I can do to get support or to soften the impact to make it bearable. Even though it's risky, I need to pursue this action. The risk is too great, so I probably shouldn't pursue this action. I think I can deal with the discomfort, even though I wish it would be easier. I don't think I could deal with an uncaring or indifferent response because the immediate discomfort would probably be too great. I think that I can bear the separation, rejection or distancing that may occur. I think the possible separation, rejection or distancing that may occur would be unbearable. I can accept a loss of money or privileges. A loss of money or privileges would be unacceptable. I can gather support or approach my action in a controlled and sensitive way to soften the impact so that it's bearable. There's nothing I can do to gather support or to soften the impact to make it bearable. Even though it's risky, I need to pursue this action. The risk is too great, so I probably shouldn't pursue this action. not listen to me cut me off or change the subject remain silent, which will make me feel like I'm wrong listen to me and then do nothing about it ignore me or give me the cold shoulder be disrespectful towards me not listen to me cut me off or change the subject remain silent, which will make me feel like I'm wrong listen to me and then do nothing about it ignore me or give me the cold shoulder be disrespectful toward me guilty angry defeated hopeless scared worried embarrassed will actually occur directly following this one planned action will occur only if I take a series of actions after this one Now that I think about it, although I think I can deal with the discomfort, even though I wish it would be easier. I dont think I could deal with this response because the immediate discomfort would probably be too great. I think that I can bear the separation, rejection or distancing that may occur. I think the possible separation, rejection or distancing that may occur would be unbearable. I can accept a loss of money or privileges. A loss of money or privileges would be unacceptable. I can gather support or approach my action in a controlled and sensitive way to soften the impact so that it's bearable. There is nothing I can do to gather support or soften the impact to make it bearable. Even though it's risky, I need to pursue this action. The risk is too great, so I probably shouldn't pursue this action. I think I can deal with the discomfort, even though I wish it would be easier. I don't think I could deal with an uncaring or indifferent response because the immediate discomfort would probably be too great. I think that I can bear the separation, rejection or distancing that may occur. I think the possible separation, rejection or distancing that may occur would be unbearable. I can accept a loss of money or privileges. A loss of money or privileges would be unacceptable. I can gather support or approach my action in a controlled and sensitive way to soften the impact so that it's bearable. There is nothing I can do to gather support or to soften the impact to make it bearable. Even though it's risky, I need to pursue this action. The risk is too great, so I probably shouldn't pursue this action. criticize me for what I want to say or do ridicule my position and make me feel foolish become angry with me discourage me by telling me I won't be accepted by other people enlist others to reject or ridicule me threaten to withdraw his love, emotional support or financial support become abusive and threaten me physically and/or verbally accuse me of having hidden motives criticize me for what I want to say or do ridicule my position and make me feel foolish become angry with me discourage me by telling me I won't be accepted by other people enlist others to ridicule or reject me threaten to withdraw her love, emotional support or financial support become abusive and threaten me either physically and/or verbally accuse me of having hidden motives guilty angry defeated hopeless scared worried embarrassed will occur after just this one planned action will occur only if I take a series of actions after this one Now that I think about it, although I think it's I think I can deal with the discomfort, even though I wish it would be easier. I dont think I could deal with this response because the immediate discomfort would probably be too great. I think that I can bear the separation, rejection or distancing that may occur. I think the possible separation, rejection or distancing that may occur would be unbearable. I can accept a loss of money or privileges. A loss of money or privileges would be unacceptable. I can gather support or approach my action in a controlled and sensitive way to soften the impact and make it bearable. There's nothing I can do to gather support or to soften the impact to make it bearable. Even though it's risky, I need to pursue this action. The risk is too great, so I probably shouldn't pursue this action. I think I can deal with the discomfort, even though I wish it would be easier. I don't think I could deal with an oppositional response because the immediate discomfort would probably be too great. I think I can bear the separation, rejection or distancing that may occur. I think the possible separation, rejection or distancing that may occur would be unbearable. I can accept a loss of money or privileges. A loss of money or privileges would be unacceptable. I can gather support or approach my action in a controlled and sensitive way to soften the impact so it's bearable. There is nothing I can do to gather support or to soften the impact to make it bearable. Even though it's risky, I need to pursue this action. The risk is too great, so I probably shouldn't pursue this action. try my best to get it fulfilled accept that I can only get part of this need fulfilled right now and enjoy what I have consciously decide that this need can not be fulfilled, but fulfilling some of my other needs can compensate for it make changes in myself to resolve this situation accept that I will be angry for a while and then work toward letting my anger go adjust my expectations of end the relationship or distance myself as much as possible from smoke overeat drink alcohol take drugs engage in unhealthy sexual behavior gamble spend the money acknowledgment acceptance attention recognition caring consideration challenge stimulation closeness intimacy financial reward freedom personal space guidance support honesty trust opportunity for advancement physical contact passion power status reliability stability respect appreciation responsibility authority safety security sensitivity communication sharing participation structure direction togetherness belonging understanding fun empathy excitement pleasure criticizes me misunderstand me judges me manipulates me accuses me ignores me embarrasses me discourages me compares me to others withdraws love from me invades my privacy doesn't trust me betrays me smothers me deprives me of material things takes their anger out on me neglects me competes with me ridicules me treats me like a child threatens me rebels against me lies to me pressures me takes me for granted clings to me scolds me excludes me talks down to me intimidates me is unfaithful to me overpowers me doesn't respect me blames me overindulges me scapegoats me disappoints me insults me insists on their way overprotects me underestimates me opposes me expects me to be perfect wants me to feel guilty disapproves of me shames me doesn't like me powerless hopeless self-destructive untrustworthy inferior mean and cruel disobedient defective or damaged in someway not a whole person stupid self-centered not feminine enough not masculine enough not self-sufficient totally lacking warmth or tenderness lacking courage or strength lacking talent or ability lacking what it takes to deal with people unable to live up to reasonable expectations unable to make or keep a commitment dependent helpless too meek boring weak childish unlovable responsible romantic secure sensitive spiritual thoughtful tolerant trusting understanding willing to take risks accepting assertive cooperative creative focused friendly loving kind smart talented worried about the pace of thinking about feeling guilt of some kind worried about concerned about the burden on the family thinking about the limitations caused by uncertain about feeling damaged, unworthy or unlovable listening to advice living within my means making and keeping commitments managing my time well putting in enough effort resisting old ways of doing things taking care of my needs first understanding my options establishing realistic goals for myself seeing it as that person's opinion of me in that specific instance remembering that not everyone will like me or approve of everything I do asking questions to understand better why the other person feels that way determining if the other person is behaving that way because their feeling self-doubt determining if there has been a misunderstanding establishing boundaries with the other person about acceptable behavior accepting assertive attentive believing careful challenging communicative compromising cooperative creative critical expressive focused friendly guarded hard-working honest nurturing open to feedback and less defensive optimistic organized outgoing passionate patient persistent political reliable responsible romantic secure sensitive spiritual thoughtful tolerant understanding vulnerable willing apologize be aggressive delay some other action prove myself take control pursue a dream give into pressure rebel I'm trying to show my talents or be noticed. I'm trying to show off or be the center of attention. I'm acting in a realistic way within a competitive world. I'm trying to put someone else down in order to raise myself up. I'm trying to clear up a conflict. I'm trying to get even or punish someone. feeling sorry for pessimistic or feeling defeated unavailable, withdrawn or in a shell unwilling to talk about important things rejecting unappreciative angry only thinking of uncooperative or difficult hurt unloved like a failure helpless angry depressed guilty showing my anger grinning and bearing it, but still feeling angry closing down and blaming myself giving up and distancing myself going into a big funk taking it out on someone else wanting to find a way to hurt back or punish I'm trying to be responsible or provide leadership. I'm trying to control others to make myself feel important. I'm trying to turn a dream or goal into a reality. I'm hoping that somehow my dreams will come true. I'm giving in because it is the correct thing to do. I'm trying to please a protector or avoid becoming independent. I want to pursue this in order to stand up for my beliefs. I'm refusing to cooperate to get even with someone or to be independent of any rule or authority, even if it's reasonable. obtain the supplies I need to become stay on top of things such as a notebook, journal, appointment book or calendar, wristwatch, alarm, three-ring binder, accordion folder, smartphone, etc. become better at being organized become better at time management become better at listening not procrastinate or put things off obtain hard copies of communicate with the Care Team regularly to make sure my information is current communicate with the Care Team regularly to make sure I am helping in the best way possible communicate with the Care Team to make sure I am doing things correctly or if there are other things I should be attending to create a draft of my own treatment plan and go over it with a member of the Care Team to make sure I understand everything communicate with the Care Team to keep my copy of the treatment plan up-to-date communicate with the Care Team to get a list of communicate with Care Team about the purpose of the medications and possible side effects to watch out for communicate with the Care Team to find out who you should notify of you think research administer the medication as prescribed and not make any changes unless I speak to and get clearance from the appropriate Care Team member will not dispense any homeopathic or herbal medications/supplements without getting clearance from an the appropriate member of the Care Team because herbal remedies sometimes have harmful interactions with prescription medications practicing a good attitude and positive interpersonal skills speak up when I need more information or help do Internet research about PTSD and any other mental health conditions that are affecting direct my frustration and anger appropriately when things don't go exactly as I would like download and review a copy of the Family Medical Leave Act and familiarize myself with it communicate with others the way I would like them to communicate with me acknowledge that there is more than one way to achieve a goal or outcome practice being more observant monitor monitor learn about PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder) so I can have a better idea of what to expect during learn about any special needs speak slowly and clearly get to my point as quickly and clearly as possible count to "10" when I am upset before I respond communicate with others the way I would like them to communicate with me develop good listening skills practice rephrasing and repeating what others have told me find out who our Case Manager is purchase a notebook or something comparable to record important information speak up when I need more information or help write down questions before the Care Team does rounds, so I am prepared use a calendar, date book or online reminder system to stay on top of paperwork and other deadlines purchase an accordion folder or other type of portable filing system to keep track of receipts and other important documents make a point of addressing Care Team members by their names say "please" and "thank you" and exercise good manners even when I feel frustrated make a point of letting hospital staff know when they've been helpful wear a wristwatch or use my phone to keep track of time so that I am punctual for appointments and rounds direct my frustration and anger appropriately when things don't go exactly as I would like try to see things from the other person's point of view when I'm feeling frustrated or upset practice the "Golden Rule" and treat others the way I would like to be treated look directly at internally prompt myself to regain my focus if my mind starts to wander have one conversation at a time ignore distractions and focus on what is being said practice good manners and civil behavior remember to be kind, courteous and considerate even when I feel frustrated or scared remember that there are many other patients at WRAMC and that staff may need to tend to others before remember to nurture, care and make time for myself remember that I can't do this alone and ask for help when I need it reach out to other attendants who are going through the same kinds of things for support focus on my strengths remember that who will take care of me if who will take care of our family if the long-term physical and psychological consequences of determine the chain of command and the appropriate person to whom I should express any concerns that I have express my concerns in respectful language count to 10 before responding harshly or saying and/or doing something I will probably regret later document any behavior I feel is disrespectful and discuss constructive courses of action with my Case Manager or other appropriate staff person acknowledge helpful behavior in writing and verbally look at how I may be contributing to a difficult situation learn how to de-escalate conflict rather than making it worse obtain and review a copy of the Family Medical Leave Act contact a labor attorney if I feel my rights are being violated I have the weight of the world on my shoulders I have butterflies in my stomach I have knots in my stomach I am going to throw up I am going to pass out I can't breathe I have electric currents running through my body my head is going to explode I'm going to embarrass myself I'm in trouble I have no energy I'm crazy who will take care of me if who will take care of our family if consult with the Care Team social worker or therapist if I need help explaining things to the child/children reassure the kid(s) of our love help the kid(s) to feel safe and secure try to remain calm and centered when speaking to the kid(s) and project an air of "everything will be alright" focus on each day as it comes focus on what needs to be done in the short-term and plan accordingly try to catch myself catastrophizing and think of a positive outcome for every worst-case scenario I imagine bring myself back to the present when I project too far ahead by focusing on what I need to do today smile and say hello to staff and other NMAs remind myself that it's natural to feel nervous in new surroundings with new people let people know I'm feeling shy or nervous as a way to break the ice make taking care of my health an equal priority ask my doctor(s) for local referrals in case an emergency arises monitor my condition(s) and take it easy when I feel stressed and/or fatigued try to eat well and make sure I get enough rest I'm trying to be strong and stand up for what is right. I'm angry and looking for ways to express it. I want to delay some other action because it's more important to pursue do this first. I'm trying to avoid taking some other action and this is a good excuse. I'm trying to push myself to test my own limits. I'm trying to get approval from someone else in order to feel that I'm okay. an excuse-maker a procrastinator a leader a bully a complainer a logician a follower a dropout a child a manipulator a martyr someone who is confused a liar a loser a parent someone who is above it all and apologizer a non-competitor someone who doesn't need anybody someone who was over-controlled someone who doesn't care about anything someone who becomes unwilling to budge accepting the limitations of others acting on what I think is the right thing to do admitting my share of the responsibility putting my ego aside making my needs heard standing up for myself learning to stand more time alone agreeing with authority considering other's point of view creating strong support system encouraging others to express their thoughts and feelings expressing my feelings or opinions integrating constructive criticism letting go and moving on I want to create a written copy of I want to determine what medications I want to know what sort of changes I should watch for in do Internet research about do research at university and hospital libraries about do Internet research about PTSD and any other mental health conditions that are affecting speak with read pertinent books and magazine and journal articles speak with other attendants whose Soldiers have similar injuries and issues take notes on the information or terms that may be difficult for me to remember postpone the conversation until I'm feeling more together get support regarding what to do and how to do it from a friend, family member or mental health professional talk about why this conversation is difficult for me with respond the way I would normally respond maintain a positive attitude even if I don't feel optimistic not let my frustration or resentment distract me from doing what I need to do take back my power by taking action accept the reality of the situation and deal with it prioritize whats most important grieve the loss of my old ways, but not let it derail me from moving forward focus on how good it will feel to not have this problem hanging over my head free up what resources I can to deal with this problem work around limitations rather than give up reset my expectations reset my timetable increase the amount of time and energy I devote to this problem think of solutions that are "outside the box" Ive made some attempts to resolve the issue, but didnt really try as hard as I could have I havent really done much to resolve this issue sad torn apart fearful weak spread too thin angry helpless frustrated trapped worthless guilty powerless weighted down anxious inferior numb mean and cruel bitter drained ashamed embarrassed defective or damaged resentful uptight victimized damaged persecuted hopeless make me feel embarrassed about my problem think Im a failure think Im a bad spouse there are limits to the amount of time and resources I can devote to this problem there are limits to the amount of interest and attention others can give to this problem other peoples attitudes can be hard to change there are institutional or legal rules or regulations that have to be followed there is limited information about this problem other people have their own agendas there is some "group think" that prevents full and open discussion there are family or social pressures to conform to may need additional training or educating to be eligible for a higher paying job there are limitations imposed by place and circumstances I may need to sell my home and give up other possessions there is a lack of support or cooperation there are strong differences of opinion there are conflicting needs and points of view there are certain things I enjoy that I will have to give up in order to live within my means there are people who are unavailable or unreceptive to my input readjust my expectations for results set a realistic timetable for resolving this problem acknowledge the specific limitations and find a way to work around them explore specific limitations to determine how difficult they actually are try to turn the limitation into some kind of advantage take on more responsibility and initiative get more help to compensate for this limitation get more specific help with this particular limitation be more flexible in approaching this problem be more creative in approaching this problem set more realistic expectations for myself stick it out when things become difficult have more patience if I dont see immediate results forego unnecessary expenses and use that money to acquire the resources I need work through the problem instead of trying to get around it or avoid it make the most of the resources I have to work with ignore possibly unhelpful and critical attitudes of others prepare for the possibility of leaving my home I can gather support or approach my solution in a controlled ans sensitive way to soften the impact so it's bearable. There's nothing I can do to get support or to soften the impact to make it bearable. think Im a bad parent know about my problems think Im stupid think Im irresponsible think Im a horrible person think Im weak think Im a fool think there is something wrong with me be critical of the way I am handling my life I am being asked to change too much I am being denied important resources I am facing too much disappointment I cant be accepted by others as much as I want to be I may have to give up familiar roles or patterns I will have to make difficult choices I am facing too much pressure I will experience too much loss I cant advance myself the way I want to I am losing my privacy my rights are being violated I dont have enough time to do what I want I am losing my home be more in control of my life have peace of mind look forward to the future enjoy my life more have better relationships be relieved from a lot of inner pressure never have to think about this problem ever again be more open to new experiences and opportunities achieve my goals more efficiently be consistent in my thoughts and actions be held in high regard by others have a greater sense of achievement achieve freedom from chaos and crisis I am being asked to change too much I am being denied important resources I am facing too much disappointment I cant be accepted by others as much as I want to be I may have to give up familiar roles or patterns I will have to make difficult choices I am facing too much pressure I will experience too much loss I cant advance myself the way I want to I am losing my privacy my rights are being violated I dont have enough time to do what I want I am being harassed by debt collectors be more in control of my life have peace of mind look forward to the future enjoy my life more have better relationships be relieved from a lot of inner pressure never have to think about this problem ever again be more open to new experiences and opportunities achieve my goals more efficiently rebuild my credit score be held in high regard by others have a greater sense of achievement achieve freedom from chaos and crisis have more energy be able to save money for the future rather than living paycheck to paycheck be more at ease with myself be proud of myself feel accomplished feel more secure and safe feel unsafe and insecure Even though it's risky, I need to pursue this solution. The risk is too great, so I probably shouldn't pursue this solution. seek advice from friends and family research how others have handled this situation seek the advice of experts consult resources like books and software explore community resources and social agencies seek information from consumer advocacy websites and/or organizations explore self-help material visit consumer review websites to learn about resources and products find information about refinancing mortgages explore eligibility for government assistance for mortgage holders explore eligibility for loan modification and restructuring passive stubborn unfocused non-committal angry hostile pessimistic closed off defensive rejecting of help feel weak feel like Im a failure know about my problems have to change too much face too much disappointment have to give up familiar roles or patterns have to make difficult choices face too much pressure experience too much loss I hope that one success will bring me relief and make me feel good about myself once and for all. If I succeed with this step, others will expect more of me and I won't be able to satisfy them. I wish this wasn't so hard and could somehow avoid feeling uncomfortable. I'm particularly sensitive to the feelings I expect to have. They've occurred in the past and are difficult for me to deal with. I may have to temporarily give up an important part of my life in order to gain the benefits of my solution. It's very likely that I'll have to permanently give up an important part of my life if I succeed with my solution. In this case, I think I'll be able to handle it if someone becomes jealous of me. I think my fear is real. Someone will become very jealous and I don't know if I could handle it. will actually occur directly following this one solution will occur only if I take a series of steps after this one solution I think I can deal with the discomfort, even though I wish it would be easier. I don't think I could deal with this scenario because the immediate discomfort would probably be too great. I think I can bear the separation, rejection or distancing that may occur. I think the possible separation, rejection or distancing that may occur would be unbearable. I can accept a loss of money or privileges. A loss of money or privileges would be unacceptable. I can gather support or approach my solution in a controlled and sensitive way to soften the impact so that it's bearable. There's nothing I can do to gather support or to soften the impact to make it bearable. Even though it's risky, I need to pursue this solution. The risk is too great, so I probably shouldn't pursue this solution. I think I can deal with the discomfort, even though I wish it would be easier. I don't think I could deal with this scenario because the immediate discomfort would probably be too great. I'm really angry with myself in this instance. Now that I think about it, I'm really angry with someone else. attract attention compete with someone express anger draw somebody into my life achieve perfection cover-up a weakness apologize be aggressive delay some other action prove myself take control pursue a dream give into pressure rebel I'm trying to show my talents or be noticed. I'm trying to show off or be the center of attention. I'm acting in a realistic way within a competitive world. I'm trying to put someone else down in order to raise myself up. I'm trying to clear up a conflict. I'm trying to get even or punish someone. I'm trying to get closer to someone with whom I'd like more contact. I'm trying to get someone to do something I want. I'm trying to grow and develop to the best of my ability. I'm trying to appear better than others because I need the attention to cover-up my fears. I'm trying to protect myself against others. I'm trying to hide a weakness because I'm too afraid to change. I'm trying to be fair and make amends. I'm apologizing because it is easier than standing up for myself. I'm trying to be strong and stand up for what is right. I'm angry and looking for ways to express it. I want to delay some other action because it's more important to pursue my solution first. I'm trying to avoid taking some other action and my potential solution is a good excuse. I'm trying to push myself to test my own limits. I'm trying to get approval from someone else in order to feel that I'm okay. I'm trying to be responsible or provide leadership. I'm trying to control others to make myself feel important. I'm trying to turn a dream or goal into a reality. I'm hoping that somehow my dreams will come true. I'm giving in because it is the correct thing to do. I'm trying to please a protector or avoid becoming independent. I want to pursue this solution in order to stand up for my beliefs. I'm planning to try and hurt another person verbally, e.g., accuse, blame, or label someone. I'm planning to try and hurt another person physically or by damaging property. I want to disappoint someone. I'm trying to shift blame to someone even though they don't deserve it in order to avoid my share of responsibility I'm trying to punish someone for past deeds and am using this solution as an opportunity for revenge. I'm trying to get something I don't deserve. I'm trying to force or manipulate someone into doing something they don't want to do or isn't in their best interest. I'm planning to use my solution to punish others who are concerned about me. I'm trying to cheat, fool, misuse or take advantage of someone. I think this solution goes against my conscience in some way. I don't think that this solution violates my conscience and the circumstances are such that I should follow through with it. I'm doing something different and new for me, which makes it feel "wrong." Even though it may feel wrong, pursuing my solution won't violate my personal standards or values in any way. I'm doing something that's different from someone else's standards or values. Even though it may be difficult, I believe my solution is correct and the right thing to do in this situation. be careful control myself tell my friends everything be humble watch my step be a nice person be pleasant be sensible be practical comply finish what I start behave myself be clever compromise be modest say I'm sorry be happy honor my elders share think of others first love others in my family hurt others be selfish be arrogant be hostile be mean be irritating find faults be in a hurry be late talk back be pushy cause trouble be stubborn be conspicuous fight complain argue show anger take it easy I'm scared I will physically injure another person or destroy another person's property. I'm scared my success with this action will be costly or detrimental to another person's relationships, career or ability to make a living. I'm scared my success will make me too independent or distance me from someone. listen and try to understand my point of view respond in an open and caring way take my needs into account along with grant me a reasonable request give as much to me as I gave to treat me with respect treat me fairly trust me accept me as I am acknowledge the changes in me communicate clearly and honestly share take responsibility for give up know what I wanted and needed without having to tell give me exactly what I wanted give more to me than I gave to put my needs first above all others do more than not get angry with me even if I deserved it treat me with respect even though I didn't treat bend the rules and give me special treatment trust me even when I didn't deserve to be trusted accept me for who I am, even if I didnt show the best part of myself treat me as if I'd already made the changes I have in mind or plan to make nurture me and make me feel happy when I was unable to do it for myself tell me what I wanted or thought I needed to hear let me keep my feelings to myself let me get away with things be the way I wanted take all the responsibility for the problems in our relationship discourage me or be unhelpful treat me differently and be less accepting be unwilling to admit he's wrong in this instance be unwilling to bend the rules a little bit not understand my point of view or tell me that I'm wrong make me doubt myself, feel insecure or feel inadequate more than I already do discourage me or be unhelpful treat me differently and be less accepting be unwilling to admit she's wrong in this instance be unwilling to bend the rules a little bit not understand my point of view or tell me that I'm wrong make me doubt myself, feel insecure or feel inadequate more than I already do guilty angry defeated hopeless scared worried embarrassed will actually occur directly following this one planned solution will occur only if I take a series of actions after this one I think I can deal with the discomfort, even though I wish it would be easier. I dont think I could deal with this response because the immediate discomfort would probably be too great. I think that I can bear the separation, rejection or distancing that may occur. I think the possible separation, rejection or distancing that may occur would be unbearable. I can accept a loss of money or privileges. A loss of money or privileges would be unacceptable. I can gather support or approach my solution in a controlled and sensitive way to soften the impact so that it's bearable. There is nothing I can do to get support or to soften the impact to make it bearable. Even though it's risky, I need to pursue this solution. The risk is too great, so I probably shouldn't pursue this solution. I think I can deal with the discomfort, even though I wish it would be easier. I dont think I could deal with this response because the immediate discomfort would probably be too great. I think that I can bear the separation, rejection or distancing that may occur. I think the possible separation, rejection or distancing that may occur would be unbearable. I can accept a loss of money or privileges. A loss of money or privileges would be unacceptable. I can gather support or approach my solution in a controlled and sensitive way to soften the impact so that it's bearable. There's nothing I can do to gather support or to soften the impact to make it bearable. Even though it's risky, I need to pursue this solution. The risk is too great, so I probably shouldn't pursue this solution. guilty angry defeated hopeless scared worried embarrassed will actually occur directly following this one solution will occur only if I take a series of actions after this one Now that I think about it, although I think I can deal with the discomfort, even though I wish it would be easier. I dont think I could deal with this response because the immediate discomfort would probably be too great. I think that I can bear the separation, rejection or distancing that may occur. I think the possible separation, rejection or distancing that may occur would be unbearable. I can accept a loss of money or privileges. A loss of money or privileges would be unacceptable. I can gather support or approach my solution in a controlled and sensitive way to soften the impact so that it's bearable. There is nothing I can do to get support or to soften the impact to make it bearable. Even though it's risky, I need to pursue this solution. The risk is too great, so I probably shouldn't pursue this solution. I think I can deal with the discomfort, even though I wish it would be easier. I don't think I could deal with an uncaring or indifferent response because the immediate discomfort would probably be too great. I think that I can bear the separation, rejection or distancing that may occur. I think the possible separation, rejection or distancing that may occur would be unbearable. I can accept a loss of money or privileges. A loss of money or privileges would be unacceptable. I can gather support or approach my solution in a controlled and sensitive way to soften the impact so that it's bearable. There's nothing I can do to gather support or to soften the impact to make it bearable. Even though it's risky, I need to pursue this solution. The risk is too great, so I probably shouldn't pursue this solution. Even though it's risky, I need to pursue this solution. The risk is too great, so I probably shouldn't pursue this solution. I think I can deal with the discomfort, even though I wish it would be easier. I don't think I could deal with an uncaring or indifferent response because the immediate discomfort would probably be too great. I think that I can bear the separation, rejection or distancing that may occur. I think the possible separation, rejection or distancing that may occur would be unbearable. I can accept a loss of money or privileges. A loss of money or privileges would be unacceptable. I can gather support or approach my solution in a controlled and sensitive way to soften the impact so that it's bearable. There is nothing I can do to gather support or to soften the impact to make it bearable. Even though it's risky, I need to pursue this solution. The risk is too great, so I probably shouldn't pursue this solution. treat me like a child who cant do anything alone expect me to carry out my solution perfectly manipulate and pressure me to carry out my solution his way take all the credit and act as if my solution was his idea in the first place compare me to someone else who I can't or dont want to compete with cling to me and make me feel smothered treat me like a child who cant do anything alone expect me to carry out my solution perfectly manipulate and pressure me to carry out my solution her way take all the credit and act as if my solution was her idea in the first place compare me to someone else who I cant or dont want to compete with cling to me and make me feel smothered I think I can bear the separation, rejection or distancing that may occur. I think the possible separation, rejection or distancing that may occur would be unbearable. I can accept a loss of money or privileges. A loss of money or privileges would be unacceptable. I can gather support or approach my solution in a controlled ans sensitive way to soften the impact so it's bearable. There is nothing I can do to gather support or to soften the impact to make it bearable. Even though it's risky, I need to pursue this solution. The risk is too great, so I probably shouldn't pursue this solution. not listen to me cut me off or change the subject remain silent, which will make me feel like I'm wrong listen to me and then do nothing about it ignore me or give me the cold shoulder be disrespectful towards me not listen to me cut me off or change the subject remain silent, which will make me feel like I'm wrong listen to me and then do nothing about it ignore me or give me the cold shoulder be disrespectful toward me guilty angry defeated hopeless scared worried embarrassed will actually occur directly following this one planned action will occur only if I take a series of actions after this one Now that I think about it, although I think it is I think I can deal with the discomfort, even though I wish it would be easier. I dont think I could deal with this response because the immediate discomfort would probably be too great. I think that I can bear the separation, rejection or distancing that may occur. I think the possible separation, rejection or distancing that may occur would be unbearable. I can accept a loss of money or privileges. A loss of money or privileges would be unacceptable. I can gather support or approach my solution in a controlled and sensitive way to soften the impact so that it's bearable. There is nothing I can do to gather support or soften the impact to make it bearable. depressed frustrated anxious angry overwhelmed afraid jealous lonely humiliated guilty confused bored ashamed needy empty scared be on time for appointments and other commitments prioritize and organize tasks in order to schedule my time more effectively assemble appropriate tools and resources accept help or support from others frame and structure my day allow myself the freedom to not be serious all of the time set goals that are within my reach take care of my responsibilities so I can feel okay about having fun schedule time for leisure activities or enjoyable events schedule time to do what I want to do and feel entitled to it set realistic deadlines or specific time limits establish and follow a schedule make a budget balance my checkbook control spending and stay within my budget pay bills and meet other financial commitments on time make wise investments plan for my retirement plan for and pay my taxes prioritize needs and desires and make purchases based on my priorities define what it is I really want and need make and manage my own money keep my house clean make sure there is food to eat at home or work allow myself to make mistakes or fail make decisions and stick with them make plans and following through on them follow instructions or directions discipline myself to complete your tasks set realistic deadlines or specific time limits delegate some responsibilities to others acknowledgment acceptance attention recognition caring consideration challenge stimulation closeness intimacy financial reward freedom personal space guidance support honesty trust opportunity for advancement physical contact passion power status reliability stability respect appreciation responsibility authority safety security sensitivity communication sharing participation structure direction togetherness belonging understanding empathy use my business or career related talents become more outgoing maintain my commitments become more romantic or sexual use my leadership talents become more loving and nurturing become more religious or spiritual become more politically aware or involved become fun-loving and enjoy life become independent receive love and warmth settle down cooperate and be sensitive to others become more moral use my teaching talents use my creative thinking abilities thinking that since there is no perfect solution I shouldnt do anything constantly wondering why this happened to me blaming the circumstances rather making efforts to improve them believing that since someone doesnt care enough about me I dont have to care about me looking for someone to fix this situation or take over for me confusing a shift in power with being powerless being unable or unwilling to let go of past privileges or rank being unable to let go of jealousy and envy of those who dont have to make this transition or who are better off worried about something else trying to hard to be perfect disappointed avoiding changes I need to make anticipating events that will probably not occur afraid to let go and move on worried about things that won't really happen expert advice important missing information support for my position confirmation that my assessment is correct permission to do something a critically constructive assessment of my situation tips on where to find information I need details about how others have come with similar situations honest criticism of my position the necessary resources to do what is needed actively coping taking the initiative setting realistic goals planning making effort related to attaining my goals being patient enjoying success, suffering failure, and building from both criticize me for what I want to say or do ridicule my position and make me feel foolish discourage me by telling me I won't be accepted by other people enlist others to reject or ridicule me threaten to withdraw his love, emotional support or financial support become abusive and threaten me physically and/or verbally accuse me of having hidden motives criticize me for what I want to say or do ridicule my position and make me feel foolish become angry with me discourage me by telling me I won't be accepted by other people enlist others to ridicule or reject me threaten to withdraw her love, emotional support or financial support become abusive and threaten me either physically and/or verbally accuse me of having hidden motives guilty angry defeated hopeless scared worried embarrassed will occur after just this one planned action will occur only if I take a series of actions after this one Now that I think about it, although I think it's I think I can deal with the discomfort, even though I wish it would be easier. I dont think I could deal with this response because the immediate discomfort would probably be too great. I think that I can bear the separation, rejection or distancing that may occur. I think the possible separation, rejection or distancing that may occur would be unbearable. I can accept a loss of money or privileges. A loss of money or privileges would be unacceptable. I can gather support or approach my solution in a controlled and sensitive way to soften the impact and make it bearable. There's nothing I can do to gather support or to soften the impact to make it bearable. Even though it's risky, I need to pursue this solution. The risk is too great, so I probably shouldn't pursue this solution. I think I can deal with the discomfort, even though I wish it would be easier. I don't think I could deal with an oppositional response because the immediate discomfort would probably be too great. I might decide that my potential solution isn't right for me at this time and quit. I might quit because I'm too afraid to pursue my solution even though I think it's the right thing to do. I expect myself to be the best. The outcome won't be terrible in terms of real dangers, but I'll feel bad if I don't do it perfectly. I expect myself to carry out my solution perfectly as if I'd practiced or done it before, even if it isn't realistic. adapt to the situation and be as creative and flexible as possible talk to a supervisor or management about the situation start looking for a new job, either inside or outside of the company monitor the situation and talk to my co-workers about it have more energy be able to save money for the future rather than living paycheck to paycheck be more at ease with myself be proud of myself feel accomplished feel more secure and safe sad torn apart fearful weak spread too thin angry helpless frustrated trapped worthless guilty powerless weighted down anxious inferior numb mean and cruel bitter drained ashamed embarrassed defective or damaged resentful uptight victimized damaged persecuted hopeless make me feel embarrassed about my problem think Im a failure think Im a bad spouse think Im a bad parent know about my problems think Im stupid think Im irresponsible think Im a horrible person think Im weak think Im a fool think there is something wrong with me our relationship the consequences of the challenges facing financial issues parenting issues medical issues providing financial assistance interceding on my behalf with the other party or parties involved providing moral support or encouragement providing a shoulder to lean on when Im feeling stressed providing guidance or information connecting me with people they know who may be able to help sponsoring me in a self-help group or organization referring me to a professional or expert temporarily taking over some of my tasks or responsibilities taking a load off my shoulders in some ways negotiating directly with others on my own behalf applying respectful pressure on organizations to secure the resources I need by calling everyday or writing letters or emails, etc. applying respectful pressure on individuals to secure resources I need convincing others to help by being persuasive convincing others to help by appealing to their sympathy striking bargains with people to help me resolve my problem striking bargains with organizations to help me resolve my problem getting professional legal or financial help using money or other resources to get something changed downsize my familys lifestyle encourage my spouse to find a job to help contribute consider relaocating to an area where there are better job opportunities exploring other career options powerless weighted down anxious inferior numb mean and cruel bitter drained ashamed embarrassed defective resentful uptight victimized damaged persecuted hopeless worry about how Ill handle it feel angry feel anxious feel depressed feel disappointed feel lonely feel rejected feel shy feel scared worry about my own feelings worry about getting my needs met feel overwhelmed feel tired seek advice from friends and family research how others have handled this situation seek the advice of experts like debt counselors and financial planners consult resources like books and software explore debt consolidation seek information about my rights from consumer advocacy websites and/or organizations explore self-help material visit consumer review websites to learn about resources explore the advantages and disadvantages of declaring bankruptcy passive stubborn unfocused non-committal angry hostile pessimistic closed off defensive grab an opportunity when it presents itself feel overwhelmed always be nice always do everything perfectly always put others first always take care of others always say "yes" to requests or favors always do what my partner wants always do what my family or friends want always "go along to get along" never express my emotions never be angry never make waves never be selfish never have a difference of opinion with loved ones never express my true thoughts never let down my guard peacemaker rock stable one dutiful son dutiful daughter grown-up responsible one wet blanket person with all the answers clown or comic relief person who fixes everything keeper of secrets martyr caregiver baby screw-up baby sitter strong one weak one airhead smart one big sister big brother kid sister kid brother rebel conformist alone time more time with friends and loved ones sleep relaxation physical exercise play healthier diet joy spontaneity peace and quiet contentment fulfillment calm excitement adventure fun direction purpose passion intimacy love friendship sad depressed worthless annoyed frustrated angry furious anxious overwhelmed scared afraid confused overwhelmed bored stuck tired exhausted drained insecure needy lonely unlovable worthless empty undeserving jealous guilty embarrassed humiliated ashamed defeated crushed try to shut off my feelings watch television surf the web play video or online games compulsively clean or organize my home neglect my responsibilities dream about a fantasy life distract myself with and worry unimportant things become critical of other people lash out at others and create unnecessary conflict physically hurt others work too much have affairs drink too much smoke too much overeat exercise excessively gamble shop and spend money on things I don't need abuse drugs distract myself with sex or pornography I don't have enough social or familial support I don't have enough intimacy in my life my loved one is overly critical of me and makes me feel like nothing I do is good enough I am too critical of myself and feel overwhelmed I have too much conflict in my primary relationships I don't have time to recharge or relax I am under too much pressure all the time I am under too much financial pressure I don't have enough meaning or purpose in my life dependent hopeless despair stuck trapped ineffectual weak incompetent impotent resentful angry victimized be met with powerful opposition receive no support be rejected for who I am hurt someone's feelings create distance or separation in an important relationship feel angry or make someone else angry hurt someone physically feel guilty fail succeed and that everything will change challenge my worries and self-limiting beliefs to see if theyre true not let what other people think have so much power over me remind myself that facing my problems is a sign of a strong, responsible person realize its my actions that define me, not what other people think or say realize that many of my concerns are actually fears and doubts I have about myself realize that Im being harder on myself than my friends and family are realize that I cant control what other people think, so I may as well do what I need to do talk to my friends and family about what Im going through rejecting of help my free time my work time support from my friends support from my family my exercise or sport routines sleeping patterns eating patterns my hobbies my financial stability my daily routine, like shopping, commuting, etc familiarity of my surroundings my comfort zone my ability to travel access to my papers or possessions there are attitudes of others that are almost impossible to change there are limitations of time there are physical limitations to what I or others can do there are practices and policies and traditions that are difficult or impossible to change there are real limitations to the amount of energy and effort that can be put into this problem by me or others there are things about my appearance, financial condition, or health I cannot change there is only a limited interest about this problem from other important people I cannot change part of this situation negotiating directly with others on my own behalf applying respectful pressure on organizations to secure the resources I need by calling everyday or writing letters or emails, etc. applying respectful pressure on individuals to secure resources I need convincing others to help by being persuasive (e.g., lowering interest rates) convincing others to help by appealing to their sympathy striking bargains with people to help me resolve my problem striking bargains with organizations to help me resolve my problem getting professional legal or financial help using money or other resources to get something changed downsize my lifestyle encourage my spouse or partner to find a job to help contribute consider finding a job that pays more exploring other career options powerless hopeless ugly untrustworthy inferior mean disobedient defective damaged incomplete stupid self-centered helpless sinful cruel cold unlovable cowardly weak untalented incapable fragile broken unreliable overly-dependent meek boring childish undeserving make a commitment to my job or career allow myself to make mistakes and try again analyze situations and make informed decisions assemble appropriate tools and resources evaluate criticism or praise as information about myself find the right work situation or career to fit my ambitions and talents take risks and reach beyond my potential work with a mentor take vocational interests test accept help or support from others join a professional development group work with a vocational counselor or career coach focus on what can be done rather than what can't be done become better at being assertive become less pessimistic and more optimistic become better at showing empathy for others become better at being open-minded and flexible challenge my worries and self-limiting beliefs to see if theyre true not let what other people think have so much power over me remind myself that facing my problems is a sign of a strong, responsible person realize its my actions that define me, not what other people think or say realize that many of my concerns are actually fears and doubts I have about myself realize that Im being harder on myself than my friends and family are realize that I cant control what other people think, so I may as well do what I need to do talk to my friends and family about what Im going through not let my frustration or resentment distract me from doing what I need to do take back my power by taking action prioritize whats most important grieve the loss of my old role and or behaviors, but not let it derail me from moving forward focus on how good it will feel to resolve this problem free up what resources I can to deal with this problem work around limitations rather than give up reset my expectations reset my timetable increase the amount of time and energy I devote to this problem think of solutions that are "outside the box" be critical of the way I am handling my life not let my frustration or resentment distract me from doing what I need to do take back my power by taking action accept the reality of the situation and deal with it be more aware of how others might view and react to my attitudes and behaviors be more sensitive to the needs and sensitivity of others when managing my work budget when balancing my checkbook when I think I have more money than I do when I receive bills when I receive my paycheck or other large sum of money when I go shopping when I feel anxiety when I feel bored when I feel depressed when I feel overwhelmed when I find tasks boring when I dont know how to do something well when I have more enjoyable pastimes that serve as distractions when I overestimate the time I have to work on a task at work in general when I feel overwhelmed when I feel tired when I feel anxiety when I feel rejected when I feel shy or socially awkward at work in general when working with a team during social events on dates with new people when trying to express feelings when trying to express needs when I feel overwhelmed when I feel anxiety when I feel depressed when I feel rejected when I feel shy or socially awkward when I think there's an "easy" way out meet work deadlines be more on top of things at work and home have more time to relax have more time for myself and others achieve freedom from clutter in my environment achieve freedom from chaos be more in control of my time achieve my goals more efficiently be a more effective team member be more productive enjoy my work more have a better chance of being promoted be viewed as reliable and trustworthy have a greater sense of achievement have clarity of purpose and direction set a good example for others have peace of mind be relieved from a lot of inner pressure trust others when its appropriate accept help or support from others balance the give and take of my relationships stop taking rejection personally be more persistent be more aggressive devote more time and attention to solving this problem monitor my progress regularly in performing these actions being kind to others and myself being generous and forgiving of others and myself being grateful for what is taking full advantage of what matters most reminding myself that the time at WRAMC is temporary and eventually things will stabilize thinking before I act or speak when tired, scared or irritated having empathy for others because their feelings, needs and fears are just as important as mine treating others the way I would like to be treated if our roles were reversed remembering that a kind word is usually more effective than a sarcastic or cruel one talk directly to ask someone to speak with change my own behavior or response set boundaries and enforce consequences distance myself physically and psychologically from monitor the situation I am being asked to change too much I am being denied important resources I am facing too much disappointment I cant be accepted by others as much as I want to be I may have to give up familiar roles or patterns I will have to make difficult choices I am facing too much pressure I will experience too much loss I cant advance myself the way I want to I am losing my privacy my rights are being violated I dont have enough time to do what I want be more in control of my life have peace of mind look forward to the future enjoy my life more have better relationships be relieved from a lot of inner pressure never have to think about this problem ever again be more open to new experiences and opportunities achieve my goals more efficiently be consistent in my thoughts and actions be held in high regard by others have a greater sense of achievement achieve freedom from chaos and crisis have more energy be able to save money for the future rather than living paycheck to paycheck be more at ease with myself be proud of myself clear the air reduce our tension acknowledge what we've both been avoiding so we can have an honest conversation about it find solutions deepen and strengthen our relationship name our fears so we can face them support each other better feel more comfortable with each other identify the source of our tension or problem put too much pressure on put too much pressure on me be too hurtful anger irreparably damage our relationship cause mistrust be too much too soon set back open up old emotional wounds not let my frustration or resentment distract me from doing what I need to do take back my power by taking action accept the reality of the situation and deal with it prioritize whats most important grieve the loss of my old ways, but not let it derail me from moving forward focus on how good it will feel to not have this problem hanging over my head free up what resources I can to deal with this problem work around limitations rather than give up reset my expectations reset my timetable increase the amount of time and energy I devote to this problem think of solutions that are "outside the box" figure out what adjustments we need to make to our home figure out what equipment we'll need to procure determine if we need to find local specialists once we return home determine how much assistance the VA will provide and what we'll need to cover stay in regular contact with my loved ones back home by phone, text and/or emails talk about what I'm going through with my adult friends and family and ask for their support ask my therapist back home if he or she will do sessions over the phone while I'm away feel accomplished when I find tasks boring when I dont know how to do something well when I have more enjoyable pastimes that serve as distractions when I feel anxiety when I feel depressed when I feel lonely when I feel overwhelmed when I feel tired when I feel bored when I have extra money when I feel anxiety when I feel depressed when I feel lonely when I have something to celebrate when I feel disappointed when I feel rejected when I feel angry when I feel shy or socially awkward when trying to express feelings at work in general prioritize whats most important grieve the loss of my old ways, but not let it derail me from moving forward focus on how good it will feel to not have this problem hanging over my head free up what resources I can to deal with this problem work around limitations rather than give up reset my expectations reset my timetable increase the amount of time and energy I devote to this problem think of solutions that are "outside the box" be better able to solve problems be more in control of my life be more open to new experiences and opportunities handle disappointments and setbacks with greater ease achieve my goals more efficiently have clarity of purpose and direction achieve freedom from chaos and crisis have better mental health when interacting with my boss when working with a team during social events on dates with new people when I feel overwhelmed when I feel tired when I dont know how to do something well when I have more enjoyable pastimes that serve as distractions when I feel angry when I feel anxiety when I feel depressed when I feel disappointed when I feel rejected when I feel shy or socially awkward at work in general when interacting with my boss when working with a team during disagreements or conflict with others during social events on dates with new people when trying to express feelings when trying to express needs when I feel overwhelmed when I feel tired not let my frustration or resentment distract me from doing what I need to do take back my power by taking action accept the reality of the situation and deal with it prioritize whats most important grieve the loss of my old ways, but not let it derail me from moving forward focus on how good it will feel to not have this problem hanging over my head free up what resources I can to deal with this problem work around limitations rather than give up reset my expectations reset my timetable increase the amount of time and energy I devote to this problem think of solutions that are "outside the box" be more open to ideas on how to solve this problem I no longer want to play this role and need to set boundaries for myself and with others Im proud of this role, but Ive been living in an unbalanced way and need to lessen my responsibility Ive stayed in this role because it gives me a sense of power and security, but its jeopardizing my relationships and well-being and I need to let go of it and find other ways to relate Ive stayed in this role because I like feeling needed, but its jeopardizing my relationships and well-being and I need to let go of it and find other ways to relate Ive used this role as a way to avoid dealing with certain issues, but its jeopardizing my relationships and well-being and I need to let go of it and find other ways to relate feel more secure and safe there are limits to the amount of time and resources I can devote to this problem there are limits to the amount of interest and attention others can give to this problem other peoples attitudes can be hard to change there are institutional or legal rules or regulations that have to be followed there is limited information about this problem other people have their own agendas there is some "group think" that prevents full and open discussion there are family or social pressures to conform to may need additional training or educating to be eligible for a higher paying job there are limitations imposed by place and circumstances I may need to modify my lifestyle there is a lack of support or cooperation there are strong differences of opinion there are conflicting needs and points of view there are certain things I enjoy that I will have to give up in order to live within my means there are people who are unavailable or unreceptive to my input readjust my expectations for results set a realistic timetable for resolving this problem acknowledge the specific limitations and find a way to work around them explore specific limitations to determine how difficult they actually are try to turn the limitation into some kind of advantage seek advice from friends and family research how others have handled this situation seek the advice of experts consult resources like books and software explore community resources and social agencies seek information from consumer advocacy websites and/or organizations read self-help books watch self-help DVDs and videos visit consumer review websites to learn about resources and products passive stubborn unfocused be receptive to help from others accept responsibility for my role in creating and perpetuating this problem be more decisive in taking actions to solve this problem be more sensitive to the needs and sensitivity of others be more aware of how others might see and respond to me providing financial assistance interceding on my behalf with the other party or parties involved providing moral support or encouragement providing a shoulder to lean on when Im feeling stressed providing guidance or information connecting me with people they know who may be able to help sponsoring me in a self-help group or organization referring me to a professional or expert temporarily taking over some of my tasks or responsibilities taking a load off my shoulders in some way a few days a few weeks a few months a year several years Ive tried everything I could think of to resolve this issue and worked really hard Ive made some attempts to resolve the issue, but didnt really try as hard as I could have I havent really done much to resolve this issue this condition isnt going to magically disappear this condition will continue to worsen I have to make certain lifestyle and behavioral changes in order to manage this situation effectively I have to change certain attitudes and beliefs in order to manage this situation effectively I cant handle this entirely on my own and need help I have to learn about this condition in order to effectively manage it take on more responsibility and initiative establishing my boundaries and respecting them giving me some space acknowledging my feelings and needs ending the relationship giving me more support not making commitments for me that place an additional burden on me recognizing my physical and emotional limitations have peace of mind speak slowly and clearly get to my point as quickly and clearly as possible count to "10" when I am upset before I respond challenge my worries and self-limiting beliefs to see if theyre true not let what other people think have so much power over me remind myself that facing my problems is a sign of a strong, responsible person realize its my actions that define me, not what other people think or say realize that many of my concerns are actually fears and doubts I have about myself realize that Im being harder on myself than my friends and family are realize that I cant control what other people think, so I may as well do what I need to do talk to my friends and family about what Im going through non-committal be less productive be passed over for promotions and other opportunities be perceived as a less effective team member sabotage my career and life goals feel like a hypocrite have a lack of direction and purpose feel embarrassed for not living up to my potential feel hopeless dread the future be unable to provide for myself and/or family be perceived negatively by my loved ones have conflict and tension with others be disappointed in myself feel shame for not taking a risk lose my self-respect undermine my self-confidence experience physical and emotional effects of unnecessary stress have less job satisfaction lose my job develop problem-solving skills and management skills discipline myself to plan a career enroll in advanced training programs or continuing education explore my talents and take steps to develop them explore new work options and opportunities grab an opportunity when it presents itself make a commitment to my job or career allow myself to make mistakes and try again analyze situations and make informed decisions assemble appropriate tools and resources evaluate criticism or praise as information about myself find the right work situation or career to fit my ambitions and talents take risks and reach beyond my potential work with a mentor talk to my boss or supervisor about continuing education and/or training accept help or support from others join a professional development group work with a vocational counselor or career coach angry hostile pessimistic closed off defensive rejecting of help be more persistent be more aggressive devote more time and attention to solving this problem monitor my progress regularly in performing these actions be more open to ideas on how to solve this problem be receptive to help from others accept responsibility for my role in creating and perpetuating this problem be more decisive in taking actions to solve this problem be more sensitive to the needs and sensitivity of others be more aware of how others might see and respond to me find someone to help me if I think speak to our Case Manager if I have any concerns about get more help to compensate for this limitation get more specific help with this particular limitation be more flexible in approaching this problem be more creative in approaching this problem set more realistic expectations for myself stick it out when things become difficult have more patience if I dont see immediate results forego unnecessary expenses and use that money to acquire the resources I need work through the problem instead of trying to get around it or avoid it make the most of the resources I have to work with ignore possibly unhelpful and critical attitudes of others download (located in More Info) a copy of the Patient's Bill of Rights and familiarize myself with it if I believe this is a misunderstanding and I shouldnt be angry anymore I am disappointed, but what there was a clear betrayal of my trust I am more frustrated with the circumstances than I am angry with my unrealistic expectations made me more angry than I should have been seek advice from friends and family research how others have handled this situation seek the advice of experts like debt counselors, financial planners and student loan attorneys consult resources like books and software explore debt consolidation seek information about my rights from consumer advocacy websites and/or organizations explore self-help material visit consumer review websites to learn about resources determine my eligibility for a student loan forgiveness program determine my eligibility for student loan rehabilitation because of default determine my eligibility for an income contingency repayment plan determine my eligibility to lock in at a lower interest rate feel overwhelmed be more in control of my life have better work relationships look forward to going to work be more open to new experiences and opportunities achieve my goals more efficiently be a more effective team member be more productive have a better chance of being promoted have a greater sense of achievement have clarity of purpose and direction set a good example for others have less tension in my relationships be more at ease with myself be proud of myself feel appreciated be relieved from a lot of inner pressure enjoy my work more look forward to the future providing transportation providing money providing emotional support providing daily care assistance such as feeding, bathing, toileting, grooming, laundry etc. providing medical assistance such as dispensing medication, monitoring blood pressure, etc. providing a home or other shelter providing an outlet for him frustration, fear, anger or despair on-call for his needs 24 hours a day providing a sense of stability scheduling her appointments and making sure that he keeps them arranging and coordinating the medical, ducational and/or social services he needs helping when I can, but not a lot sitting back and letting others do most of the work providing transportation providing money providing emotional support providing daily care assistance such as feeding, bathing, toileting, grooming, laundry etc. providing medical assistance such as dispensing medication, monitoring blood pressure, etc. providing a home or other shelter funny trustworthy honest caring brave generous reliable loyal negotiating directly with others on my own behalf applying respectful pressure on organizations to secure the resources I need by calling everyday or writing letters or emails, etc. applying respectful pressure on individuals to secure resources I need convincing others to help by being persuasive (e.g., lowering interest rates or agreeing to a lower settlement) convincing others to help by appealing to their sympathy striking bargains with people to help me resolve my problem striking bargains with organizations to help me resolve my problem getting professional legal or financial help using money or other resources to get something changed downsize my familys lifestyle encourage my spouse or partner to find a job to help contribute consider finding a job which pays more exploring other career options be more in control of my life have better work relationships look forward to going to work be more open to new experiences and opportunities achieve my goals more efficiently be a more effective team member be more productive have a better chance of being promoted have a greater sense of achievement have clarity of purpose and direction set a good example for others have less tension in my relationships be more at ease with myself be proud of myself feel appreciated be relieved from a lot of inner pressure enjoy my work more look forward to the future feel more secure and safe be better able to solve problems be controlled by my fears have crisis and chaos at home and work stay stuck struggle finding solutions to problems struggle with setbacks and disappointment be less productive be passed over for promotions and other opportunities be perceived as a less effective team member sabotage my career and life goals dread going to work have a lack of direction and purpose feel embarrassed for not living up to my potential damage my reputation at work dread the future react disproportionately to minor frustrations be perceived negatively by others have conflict and tension with others be disappointed in myself establishing my boundaries and respecting them giving me some space acknowledging my feelings and needs ending the relationship giving me more support not making commitments for me that place an additional burden on me recognizing my physical and emotional limitations be given more responsibilities feel ineffectual and incompetent feel overwhelmed have to be independent and responsible have to give up my excuses be made fun of by others be rejected by others lose the respect of others fail and appear foolish feel awkward feel confused feel out of control I dont have enough time I dont have enough resources I dont have enough support I wont be accepted into a school or training program it will take too long its too difficult angry frustrated fearful weak spread too thin resentful helpless incompetent trapped worthless pressured powerless weighted down anxious inferior bitter drained ashamed embarrassed defective defensive persecuted hopeless be more in control of my life have more job opportunities have more earning power be more open to new experiences and opportunities achieve my goals more efficiently be a more effective team member be more productive have a better chance of being promoted have a greater sense of achievement have clarity of purpose and direction set a good example for others have less tension in my relationships be more at ease with myself be proud of myself feel accomplished be relieved from a lot of inner pressure enjoy my work more look forward to the future feel more secure and safe be better able to solve problems be controlled by my fears dread going to work stay stuck struggle finding solutions to problems struggle with setbacks and disappointment be less productive be passed over for promotions and other opportunities be perceived as a less effective team member sabotage my career and life goals feel like a hypocrite have a lack of direction and purpose feel embarrassed for not living up to my potential react disproportionately to minor frustrations dread the future be perceived negatively by my co-workers have conflict and tension with others be disappointed in myself have to be independent and responsible have to give up my excuses be made fun of by others be rejected by others lose the respect of others fail and appear foolish feel awkward feel confused feel out of control I dont have enough time I dont have enough resources I dont have enough support I wont be taken seriously it will take too long its too difficult there arent any job opportunities where I live I wont find a job that pays enough Im too old there are limits to the amount of time and resources I can devote to this challenge there are limits to the amount of interest and attention others can give to this challenge other peoples attitudes can be hard to change sometimes a person Im interested wont feel the same way I cant persuade or make a person like me other people have their own agendas some friends and family might not be supportive of me making changes I need to in order to resolve this challenge the area where I live might not have a good single scene my profession may not afford me the opportunity to meet potentially eligible mates there are limitations imposed by place and circumstances there are things I cant change about myself there is a lack of support or cooperation there are conflicting needs and points of view there are incompatible personalities providing an outlet for her frustration, fear, anger or despair feel shame for not taking a risk sad torn apart fearful weak spread too thin angry helpless frustrated trapped worthless guilty powerless weighted down anxious inferior numb mean and cruel bitter drained ashamed embarrassed defective or damaged resentful uptight victimized damaged persecuted hopeless harassed make me feel embarrassed about my problem think Im a failure think Im a bad spouse think Im a bad parent know about my problems think Im stupid think Im irresponsible on-call for her needs 24 hours a day providing a sense of stability scheduling her appointments and making sure that she keeps them arranging and coordinating the medical, ducational and/or social services she needs helping when I can, but not a lot sitting back and letting others do most of the work ignoring the stress and hoping it will get better on its own doing everything by myself and not talking about it doing everything by myself and complaining about it doing everything by myself and rejecting offers of help from others letting other people handle it because theyve always taken care of things like this in the past offering to help and being rejected demanding that others take care of this problem because I dont think its my responsibility getting some help, but not enough burn myself out be controlled by my fears have crisis and chaos at home and work be less productive lose my job sabotage my career and life goals be more susceptible to mental health issues like anxiety and depression dread the future familiarize myself with hospital points of contact and establish a relationship with ensure collaborative, friendly and respectful communication with feeling sorry for pessimistic or defeated unavailable, withdrawn or in a shell unwilling to talk about important things rejecting unappreciative angry only thinking of uncooperative or difficult worried about the pace of thinking about feeling guilt of some kind worried about concerned about the burden on the family thinking about the limitations caused by uncertain about feeling damaged, unworthy or unlovable challenge my worries and self-limiting beliefs to see if theyre true not let what other people think have so much power over me remind myself that facing my problems is a sign of a strong, responsible person realize its my actions that define me, not what other people think or say realize that many of my concerns are actually fears and doubts I have about myself realize that Im being harder on myself than my friends and family are realize that I cant control what other people think, so I may as well do what I need to do talk to my friends and family about what Im going through inferior numb mean bitter drained ashamed embarrassed defective feel guilty feel hopeless be more susceptible to illness and injury not have enough energy to enjoy life be perceived negatively by my loved ones damage or lose important relationships have conflict and tension with others hurt others needlessly miss opportunities to enjoy fun activities with loved ones sabotage my relationship and life goals feel isolated be reactive at work and home experience physical and emotional effects of unnecessary stress lose my self-respect undermine my self-confidence experience physical and emotional effects of unnecessary stress have less job satisfaction lose my job talk to my boss about decreasing my responsibilities temporarily or permanently be given more responsibilities feel ineffectual and incompetent feel overwhelmed have to be independent and responsible have to give up my excuses be made fun of by others be rejected by others lose the respect of others fail and appear foolish feel awkward feel confused feel out of control I dont have enough time I dont have enough resources I dont have enough support I wont be accepted into a school or training program it will take too long its too difficult I cant afford to attend a school or training program I cant take time away from my current job for additional training I cant take time away from my family to attend training the school or training program is too far from where I live Im too old I cant afford to attend a school or training program feel more secure and safe feel shame for not taking a risk I have to go along with, like, or agree with everything my partner likes or wants challenge my worries and self-limiting beliefs to see if theyre true not let what other people think have so much power over me remind myself that facing my problems is a sign of a strong, responsible person realize its my actions that define me, not what other people think or say realize that many of my concerns are actually fears and doubts I have about myself realize that Im being harder on myself than my friends and family are realize that I cant control what other people think, so I may as well do what I need to do talk to my friends and family about what Im going through think Im a horrible person think Im weak think Im a fool think there is something wrong with me be critical of the way I am handling my life I am being asked to change too much I am being denied important resources I am facing too much disappointment I cant be accepted by others as much as I want to be I may have to give up familiar roles or patterns I will have to make difficult choices I am facing too much pressure I will experience too much loss I cant advance myself the way I want to I am losing my privacy my rights are being violated I dont have enough time to do what I want I am being harassed by debt collectors be more in control of my life have peace of mind look forward to the future enjoy my life more have better relationships be relieved from a lot of inner pressure never have to think about this problem ever again be more open to new experiences and opportunities achieve my goals more efficiently rebuild my credit score be held in high regard by others have a greater sense of achievement achieve freedom from chaos and crisis have more energy be able to save money for the future rather than living paycheck to paycheck be more at ease with myself be proud of myself face the problems that arise head on, think them through and respond accordingly only take on my share of the responsibility ask others directly for their help when I need it ask for help rather than complain about the situation accept help from others when its offered take on my appropriate level of responsibility without being asked ask others how I can help seek advice from friends and family research how others have handled this situation seek the advice of experts consult resources like books and software programs explore community resources and social agencies discipline myself to plan a career make a point of addressing Care Team members by their names say "please" and "thank you" and exercise good manners even when I feel frustrated make a point of letting WRAMC staff know when they've been helpful sad torn apart fearful weak spread too thin angry helpless frustrated trapped worthless guilty powerless weighted down anxious inferior numb mean and cruel bitter drained ashamed embarrassed defective resentful uptight victimized damaged persecuted hopeless make me feel embarrassed about my problem think Im a failure think Im a bad spouse think Im a bad parent know about my problems think Im stupid think Im irresponsible think Im a horrible person wear a wristwatch or use my phone to keep track of time so that I am punctual for appointments and rounds feel accomplished feel more secure and safe a few days a few weeks a few months a year several years Theres at least one other person who can provide additional assistance, but he or she has refused to help Theres at least one other person who can provide additional assistance, but I havent asked him or her Theres at least one other person whos providing additional assistance, but he or she could be doing more Theres no one else who can provide additional assistance dutiful son a few days a few weeks a few months a year several years Ive tried everything I could think of to resolve this issue and worked really hard Ive made some attempts to resolve the issue, but didnt really try as hard as I could have I havent really done much to resolve this issue I need to ignore or hide my needs and feelings in order to meet all of my partners needs my partner should know how Im feeling and what I want without me having to tell him or her my partner should be able to meet all my needs my partner should want to spend his or her time with me before spending time with his or her family and friends my partner should enjoy doing all the things I do and like all of the same people I do my partner should prove they care by spending money on me and paying for trips, dinners and gifts I am no longer interested in the relationship there is something wrong with my partner seek advice from friends and family research how others have handled this situation seek the advice of experts consult resources like books and software programs explore community resources and social agencies explore job listing websites and employment agencies read self-help books research which industries and companies are hiring determine if self-employment is a good option for me theres something wrong with me Im unlovable no one would love me if they really knew me Ill be rejected I dont deserve love Im cursed Im not attractive enough Im not thin enough Im not smart enough I dont make enough money Im boring I dont deserve respect be more persistent be more aggressive devote more time and attention to solving this problem monitor my progress regularly in performing these actions be more open to ideas on how to solve this problem be receptive to help from others accept responsibility for my role in creating and perpetuating this problem be more decisive in taking actions to solve this problem be more sensitive to the needs and sensitivity of others be more aware of how others might see and respond to me providing financial assistance interceding on my behalf with the other party or parties involved providing moral support or encouragement providing a shoulder to lean on when Im feeling stressed dutiful daughter seek information from consumer advocacy websites and/or organizations hang in there no matter bad it gets focus on how good the sex is and ignore the other problems focus on the my partners positive qualities and try to remember only the good times ignore the problems until Im forced to deal with them try to work around the problems keep giving everything I can and remain hopeful despite all signs to the contrary try to be patient and loving try to fix my partners problems try to be forgiving and understanding avoid confrontations deny there are any problems defend my partners behaviors to others make excuses for my partner give up on the relationship before trying to fix anything putting more into my relationships than I get out trying to rescue or save my partner pursuing the other person while he or she acts in ways that create distance not expressing my feelings or needs to my partner or potential partner pushing people away who try to get close to me feeling like I cant live without the other person becoming dependent and clingy becoming cold and distant becoming angry when my partner doesnt respond or behave the way I want becoming upset if I dont get my way or feel like Im being ignored censoring myself and freezing up set more realistic expectations for myself set a realistic timetable for resolving this challenge acknowledge the specific limitations and find a way to work around them explore specific limitations to determine how difficult they actually are try to turn the limitation into some kind of advantage take on more initiative get more help to compensate for this limitation be more creative and flexible in approaching this challenge stick it out when things become difficult have more patience if I don't see immediate results make the most of the resources I have to work with ignore possibly unhelpful and critical attitudes of others when I think theres an easy way out when I think I can get away with something when its more difficult to do the "right" thing than the "easy" thing when I feel overwhelmed when I feel tired at work in general during social events with friends and/or colleagues during disagreements or conflict with my loved one when dealing with money matters when I feel overwhelmed when I feel tired during disagreements or conflict with others when I feel anxiety when I think there's an "easy" way out when I feel depressed when I find tasks boring when I dont know how to do something well have improved overall health have more energy feel more secure and safe have a better support network have better intimacy have better intimacy have less tension in my intimacy have more fulfilling intimacy be more in control of my emotions, thoughts and behaviors be relieved from a lot of inner pressure be more open to new experiences and opportunities be true to myself have peace of mind have a better support network have better intimacy have better sex have better intimacy have less tension in my intimacy have more fulfilling intimacy be more at ease with myself be more in control of my emotions, thoughts and behaviors be proud of myself feel accepted feel more secure and safe be relieved from a lot of inner pressure have crisis and chaos at home and work stay stuck struggle with setbacks and disappointment be less productive be off-putting to co-workers be perceived as a less effective team member be passed over for promotions and other opportunities lose my job sabotage my career and life goals be more susceptible to mental health issues like anxiety and depression dread the future feel embarrassed be perceived negatively by my loved ones damage or lose important relationships have conflict and tension with others hurt others needlessly be disappointed in myself feel isolated feel shame for not taking a risk lose my self-respect undermine my self-confidence experience physical and emotional effects of unnecessary stress feel ineffectual and incompetent be accountable for my actions have to give up my excuses have to give up things I enjoy see aspects of myself Ive tried to ignore be ridiculed by others be rejected by others lose the respect of others fail and appear foolish feel awkward lose part of my identity feel confused feel out of control feel overwhelmed feel unsafe and insecure feel weak when I feel angry when I feel anxiety when I feel disappointed when I feel rejected when I feel shy or socially awkward at work in general when interacting with my boss when working with a team during disagreements or conflict with others with new people when trying to express needs when trying to express feelings when I feel overwhelmed when I feel tired when I dont know how to do something well when I feel angry when I feel anxiety when I feel depressed when I feel disappointed when I feel lonely when I feel rejected when I feel shy or socially awkward during disagreements or conflict with others during intimate moments being cold, angry or belittling abusing drugs and/or alcohol nagging me to change my behavior misrepresenting me to other people undermining my efforts to advance myself invading my privacy violating my rights bullying me being punitive toward me putting me in "no-win" situations setting me up for failure gossiping about me turning my friends and/or family against me pressuring me to get back together with seek professional mediation do something else that is in my best interest as a compromise only a minor irritant something that could become more serious a serious disturbance sad torn apart fearful weak spread too thin angry helpless frustrated trapped worthless guilty powerless weighted down anxious inferior numb mean bitter drained ashamed embarrassed defective resentful uptight victimized damaged persecuted hopeless unsure had an explicit (verbal or written) agreement that he would act differently had an implicit (not verbal or written) understanding that he would act differently did NOT have an agreement read my mind make amends for things he isnt aware of because I havent told him give up his point of view in favor of mine sad torn apart fearful weak spread too thin angry helpless frustrated trapped worthless guilty stop what he is doing and respond to me immediately know what I want and need without having to be told give me exactly what I want powerless think Im weak only a minor irritant only a minor irritant something that could become more serious a serious disturbance sad torn apart fearful weak spread too thin angry helpless frustrated trapped worthless guilty powerless weighted down anxious inferior numb mean bitter drained ashamed embarrassed defective resentful uptight victimized damaged persecuted hopeless unsure stay in regular contact with my loved ones back home by phone, text and/or emails talk about what I'm going through with my adult friends and family and ask for their support ask my therapist back home if he or she will do sessions over the phone while I'm at WRAMC let our children know how much we love them and miss them and that we'll be home as soon as we can establishing a good relationship with ensuring that talk directly to ask someone to speak with change my own behavior or response set boundaries and enforce consequences distance myself physically and psychologically from monitor the situation passive stubborn unfocused non-committal angry hostile pessimistic closed off defensive rejecting of help be more persistent be more aggressive devote more time and attention to solving this problem monitor my progress regularly in resolving this issue be more open to ideas on how to solve this problem be receptive to help from others accept responsibility for my role in creating and perpetuating this problem be more decisive in taking actions to solve this problem be more sensitive to the needs and sensitivity of others be more aware of how others might view and react to my attitudes and behaviors how our children will react to sad torn apart afraid weak unlovable angry helpless frustrated trapped worthless powerless weighed down anxious inferior numb mean and cruel bitter drained ashamed embarrassed defective resentful uptight victimized damaged persecuted hopeless when I have more enjoyable pastimes that serve as distractions when I feel disappointed when I feel rejected make and use "to-do" lists record notes or information in one place, not multiple scraps of paper categorize my files from general to specific prioritize and process email and snail mail daily develop a paper management system schedule tasks in small, manageable chunks of time throw out papers and files I dont need use a calendar system delegate tasks to others when appropriate assemble appropriate tools and resources follow instructions or directions frame and structure my day monitor project process prepare for meetings prioritize and organize tasks in order to schedule my time more efficiently accept help or support from others on dates focus on what's being said rather than how it's being said not let hot button words throw me and maintain my focus not interrupt and let not finish not jump to conclusions challenge my worries and self-limiting beliefs to see if theyre true not let what other people think have so much power over me remind myself that facing my problems is a sign of a strong, responsible person realize its my actions that define me, not what other people think or say realize that many of my concerns are actually fears and doubts I have about myself realize that Im being harder on myself than my friends and family are realize that I cant control what other people think, so I may as well do what I need to do talk to my friends and family about what Im going through dutiful mother dutiful father dutiful spouse responsible one caretaker who doesnt have any needs rock rational or stable one one with all the answers one who fixes everything with new people when trying to express feelings when trying to express needs when I feel overwhelmed when I feel tired peace keeper read self-help books watch self-help DVDs and videos visit consumer review websites to learn about resources and products passive stubborn unfocused non-committal angry hostile pessimistic closed off defensive rejecting of help be more persistent be more aggressive devote more time and attention to solving this problem monitor my progress regularly in resolving this issue be more open to ideas on how to solve this problem be receptive to help from others accept responsibility for my role in creating and perpetuating this problem talk directly to ask someone to speak with change my own behavior or response set boundaries and enforce consequences distance myself physically and psychologically from only a minor irritant something that could become more serious a serious disturbance extremely anxious moderately anxious blaming him for other people's contributions to the problem overwhelmed with too many things right now impatient or too easily disappointed avoiding facing my contribution to the problem expecting something that may be unreasonable avoiding something I dont want to hear feeling uncomfortable with his intentions reduce and eliminate debt avoid late charges on my bills be able to save for my retirement stop living paycheck to paycheck live within my means and avoid the stress of debt be viewed as reliable and trustworthy have a greater sense of achievement set a good example for others have peace of mind look forward to the future have better relationships have less tension in my relationships have more money for responsibilities and fun feel more secure and safe be relieved from a lot of inner pressure meet work deadlines have more time to relax have more quality time for myself and loved ones be more in control of my life be more in control of my time be more on top of things at work and home achieve my goals more efficiently speak with read relevant books, magazine and journal articles speak with other NMAs whose Soldiers have similar injuries and issues take notes on the information or terms that may be difficult for me to remember crushed sad lazy torn apart fearful weak or shy silenced angry helpless violated frustrated worthless boxed in guilty powerless weighted down anxious inferior disconnected numb mean and cruel drained ashamed defective trapped jealous selfish uptight betrayed prove something to himself and others more than he wants to resolve the issue keep the focus on this issue rather than deal with a more difficult, underlying issue bolster or defend his ego not make any changes control things always be right not expressing my angry or hurt emotions purposely provoking a negative response being too controlling or judgmental expressing my negative feelings inappropriately depending on her too much being mean or cruel being cold or rejecting being selfish or self-centered being envious or jealous being too competitive not expressing my positive feelings taking my stress out on others being possessive and not letting go being narrow-minded or short-sighted withdrawing or shutting down being intolerant of others' differences being moody or irritable blaming the wrong person being too direct and honest crushed sad lazy torn apart fearful weak or shy spread too thin angry helpless violated frustrated worthless not in agreement with his assumptions or point of view expecting something that may be unreasonable avoiding something I dont want to hear feeling uncomfortable with her intentions not in agreement with her assumptions or point of view overly sensitive to the issues that are being brought up blaming her for other peoples contributions to a problem overwhelmed with too many things right now impatient or too easily disappointed avoiding facing my contribution to a problem not expressing my anger or hurt emotions purposely provoking a negative response being too controlling or judgmental expressing my negative feelings inappropriately a free wheeler a seducer/seductress be better able to solve problems be more open to new experiences and opportunities achieve my goals more efficiently be a more effective team member be more productive enjoy my work more have a better chance of being promoted be held in high regard by others get along better with people at work have a better support network have better relationships have better relationships have less tension in my relationships have more fulfilling relationships be relieved from a lot of inner pressure be better able to solve problems be more creative and flexible be more on top of things at work and home be more open to new experiences and opportunities achieve my goals more efficiently be a more effective team member be more productive enjoy my work more have a better chance of being promoted be a more effective team member cancel unnecessary credit cards plan for my retirement make wise investments reduce impulse shopping distinguish between necessary and unnecessary expenses plan and follow a budget consult with a financial planner or other expert educate myself about money balance my checkbook control spending and stay within my budget prioritize needs and desires and make purchases based on my priorities plan for and pay my taxes let go of the security of being taken care of and stand on my own two feet make and manage my own money pay bills and meet other financial commitments on time prioritize tasks eliminate time wasters (e.g., idle work chat, surfing the Internet, telephone calls) use a calendar system prepare for meetings refuse excessive workloads learn to delegate lesser tasks when possible ensure that long-term projects arent neglected schedule tasks in small, manageable chunks of time monitor project process make realistic estimates about how long tasks will take set limits with others if theyre taking too much of my time frame and structure my day prioritize and organize tasks in order to schedule my time more efficiently when I dont know how to do something well when I feel angry when I feel anxiety when I feel depressed when I feel disappointed when I feel lonely when I feel rejected when I feel shy or socially awkward at work in general when interacting with my boss when working with a team during disagreements or conflict with others during intimate moments during social events on dates with new people when trying to express feelings when trying to express needs when I feel overwhelmed when I feel tired be more productive enjoy my work more have a better chance of being promoted be viewed as reliable and trustworthy have a greater sense of achievement set a good example for others achieve freedom from chaos and crisis have peace of mind look forward to the future get along better with people at work have better relationships have less tension in my relationships be relieved from a lot of inner pressure have improved overall health have more energy increase my life expectancy be less susceptible to illness and injury recover more quickly from illness and injury have fewer medical expenses have better insurance rates improve quality of sleep be more in control of my life achieve my goals more efficiently be more productive not expressing my anger or hurt emotions purposely provoking a negative response being too controlling or judgmental expressing my negative feelings inappropriately depending too much on him being mean or cruel being cold or rejecting being selfish or self-centered being envious or jealous being too competitive not expressing my positive feelings taking my stress out on others being possessive and not letting go being narrow-minded or short-sighted withdrawing or shutting down being intolerant of others' differences being moody or irritable blaming the wrong person being too direct and honest not expressing my anger or hurt emotions purposely provoking a negative response being too controlling or judgmental expressing my negative feelings inappropriately depending on him too much being mean or cruel being cold or rejecting being selfish or self-centered being envious or jealous being too competitive my resources (for example, time, money, physical and psychological energy) are being drained it is changing the way I see myself it is causing me to give up something thats important to me it is causing me to give up things I enjoy it is causing damage to my other relationships be more decisive in taking actions to solve this problem do Internet research about do research at university and hospital libraries about make me feel embarrassed about my problem think Im a failure think Im a bad spouse think Im a bad parent know about my problems think Im stupid think Im irresponsible think Im a horrible person think Im weak think Im a fool think there is something wrong with me be critical of the way I am handling my life I am being asked to change too much I am being denied important resources I am facing too much disappointment I cant be accepted by others as much as I want to be I may have to give up familiar roles or patterns I have to make difficult choices I am facing too much pressure I am experiencing too much loss I cant advance myself the way I want to I am losing my privacy my rights are being violated I dont have enough time to do what I want think Im a fool think there is something wrong with me be critical of the way I am handling my life I am being asked to change too much I am being denied important resources I am facing too much disappointment I cant be accepted by others as much as I want to be I may have to give up familiar roles or patterns I have to make difficult choices I am facing too much pressure I am experiencing too much loss I cant advance myself the way I want to I am losing my privacy my rights are being violated I dont have enough time to do what I want be more sensitive to the needs and sensitivity of others be more aware of how others might view and react to my attitudes and behaviors providing financial assistance interceding on my behalf with the other party or parties involved providing moral support or encouragement providing a shoulder to lean on when Im feeling stressed providing guidance or information connecting me with people they know who may be able to help sponsoring me in a self-help group or organization referring me to a professional or expert temporarily taking over some of my tasks or responsibilities taking a load off my shoulders in some ways negotiating directly with others on my own behalf not let my frustration or resentment distract me from doing what I need to do take back my power by taking action accept the reality of the situation and deal with it prioritize whats most important grieve the loss of my old ways, but not let it derail me from moving forward focus on how good it will feel to not have this problem hanging over my head free up what resources I can to deal with this problem work around limitations rather than give up reset my expectations reset my timetable increase the amount of time and energy I devote to this problem think of solutions that are "outside the box" applying respectful pressure on individuals to secure resources I need seek advice from friends and family research how others have handled this situation seek the advice of experts consult resources like books and software programs explore community resources and social agencies explore job listing websites and employment agencies read self-help books watch self-help DVDs and videos research which industries and companies are hiring determine if self-employment is a good option for me research continuing education and skills training programs passive stubborn unfocused non-committal sad torn apart fearful weak spread too thin angry helpless frustrated trapped worthless guilty powerless weighted down anxious inferior numb mean and cruel bitter drained ashamed embarrassed defective resentful uptight victimized damaged persecuted hopeless make me feel embarrassed about my problem think Im a failure think Im a bad spouse think Im a bad parent know about my problems think Im stupid think Im irresponsible think Im a horrible person think Im weak think Im a fool think there is something wrong with me be critical of the way I am handling my life explore online training courses seek advice from a career coach or vocational counselor learn to accept or adapt to certain aspects of this situation in order to stop adding to the tension. have a conversation with change my behavior since I now see that I've been adding to the tension. be more in control of my life have more job opportunities have more earning power be more open to new experiences and opportunities achieve my goals more efficiently be a more effective team member be more productive have a better chance of being promoted have a greater sense of achievement have clarity of purpose and direction set a good example for others have less tension in my relationships be more at ease with myself be proud of myself feel accomplished be relieved from a lot of inner pressure enjoy my work more look forward to the future feel more secure and safe be better able to solve problems be controlled by my fears have crisis and chaos at home and work jealous I have good and legitimate reasons for my point of view perhaps if I let go of my agenda, it will be easier to resolve this dispute resolving this tension is more important to me than winning if I acknowledge the external factors influencing this situation, it might decrease the tension between us leaving this issue unsolved makes me concerned for my well-being agreeing on this issue isn't that important and if it's left unresolved it won't damage our relationship that much selfish uptight betrayed be more in control of my life have peace of mind look forward to the future enjoy my life more have better relationships be relieved from a lot of inner pressure be able to support myself and my loved ones be more open to new experiences and opportunities achieve my goals more efficiently be able to stand on my own two feet be consistent in my thoughts and actions be held in high regard by others have a greater sense of achievement achieve freedom from chaos and crisis feel productive have a sense of purpose and direction be more at ease with myself be proud of myself feel accomplished feel more secure and safe have more time to relax challenge my worries and self-limiting beliefs to see if theyre true not let what other people think have so much power over me remind myself that facing my problems is a sign of a strong, responsible person realize its my actions that define me, not what other people think or say realize that many of my concerns are actually fears and doubts I have about myself realize that Im being harder on myself than my friends and family are realize that I cant control what other people think, so I may as well do what I need to do talk to my friends and family about what Im going through sad torn apart fearful weak spread too thin angry helpless frustrated trapped worthless guilty powerless weighted down anxious inferior numb mean and cruel bitter drained ashamed embarrassed defective resentful uptight victimized damaged persecuted hopeless make me feel embarrassed about my problem think Im a failure think Im a bad spouse think Im a bad parent know about my problems think Im stupid think Im irresponsible think Im a horrible person think Im weak think Im a fool think there is something wrong with me be critical of the way I am handling my life a few days a few weeks a few months a year several years I've tried everything I could think of and worked really hard to resolve this issue Ive made some attempts to resolve the issue, but didnt really try as hard as I could have I havent really done much to resolve this issue not let my frustration or resentment distract me from doing what I need to do take back my power by taking action accept the reality of the situation and deal with it prioritize whats most important grieve the loss of my old ways, but not let it derail me from moving forward focus on how good it will feel to not have this problem hanging over my head free up what resources I can to deal with this problem providing financial assistance interceding on my behalf with the other party or parties involved providing moral support or encouragement providing a shoulder to lean on when Im feeling stressed providing guidance or information connecting me with people they know who may be able to help sponsoring me in a professional networking or trade group or organization referring me to a professional or expert temporarily taking over some of my tasks or responsibilities taking a load off my shoulders in some way providing a job reference or recommendation providing me with temporary work providing me with a new job teaching or mentoring me to help me learn the job skills I need negotiating directly with others on my own behalf following up with potential employers by calling everyday or writing letters or emails, etc. applying respectful pressure on individuals to secure resources I need convincing others to help by being persuasive convincing others to help by appealing to their sympathy striking bargains with people to help me resolve my problem striking bargains with organizations to help me resolve my problem challenge my worries and self-limiting beliefs to see if theyre true not let what other people think have so much power over me remind myself that facing my problems is a sign of a strong, responsible person realize its my actions that define me, not what other people think or say realize that many of my concerns are actually fears and -doubts I have about myself realize that Im being harder on myself than my friends and family are realize that I cant control what other people think, so I may as well do what I need to do talk to my friends and family about what Im going through I get more help I get more money I have more freedom until I have more energy I have enough incentive I get someones permission it feels "right" I experience negative consequences depressed frustrated anxious angry overwhelmed afraid jealous lonely prove something to herself and others more than she wants to resolve the issue keep the focus on this issue rather than deal with a more difficult, underlying issue bolster or defend her ego not make any changes control things always be right prove something to myself and others more than I want to resolve the issue keep the focus on this issue rather than deal with a more difficult, underlying issue bolster or defend my ego not make any changes control things always be right I think that I have good reasons for wanting to maintain my position. I think I might just be acting stubborn because I dont want to back down or compromise. I think the tension between us might get worse I dont think the tension between us will get any worse not expressing my positive feelings taking my stress out on others being possessive and not letting go being narrow-minded or short-sighted withdrawing or shutting down being intolerant of others' differences being moody or irritable blaming the wrong person being too direct and honest not expressing my angry or hurt emotions purposely provoking a negative response being too controlling or judgmental expressing my negative feelings inappropriately depending too much on her being mean or cruel being cold or rejecting being selfish or self-centered being envious or jealous being too competitive not expressing my positive feelings taking my stress out on others being possessive and not letting go being narrow-minded or short-sighted withdrawing or shutting down being intolerant of others' differences being moody or irritable blaming the wrong person being too direct and honest learn to accept or adapt to the aspects of this situation that have occurred in response to my overreacting have a conversation with change my own behavior since I now see that I've been overreacting stay stuck will probably understand my position, stop pressuring me and the conflict will be resolved will probably react negatively, still not understand my position and continue to pressure me will not make me do what Im being pressured to do might make me give in and do what Im being pressured to do I've decided to continue asserting my position. I don't want to compromise on this issue. I've decided to be flexible with my position and try to reach a compromise. crushed sad lazy torn apart fearful weak or shy spread too thin angry helpless violated frustrated worthless closed in guilty powerless weighted down anxious inferior disconnected numb mean and cruel drained ashamed defective trapped jealous selfish uptight betrayed I think that my fear of failure is valid I dont think that my fear of failure is valid prove something to himself and others more than he wants to resolve the issue keep the focus on this issue rather than deal with a more difficult, underlying issue bolster or defend his ego not make any changes control things always be right guilty powerless weighted down anxious inferior disconnected numb mean and cruel drained ashamed defective trapped jealous selfish uptight betrayed have a conversation with change my behavior. he is temporarily under a lot of stress he behaves this way with everyone; it's just part of his personality he isn't aware of how he is behaving he is going through a difficult time he is experiencing pain from health problems or injuries she is temporarily under a lot of stress she behaves this way with everyone; it's just part of her personality she is not aware of how she is behaving she is going through a difficult transition she is experiencing pain from health problems or injuries work around limitations rather than give up reset my expectations reset my timetable increase the amount of time and energy I devote to this problem think of solutions that are "outside the box" there are limits to the amount of time and resources I can devote to this problem there are limits to the amount of interest and attention others can give to this problem other peoples attitudes can be hard to change there are institutional or legal rules or regulations that have to be followed there is limited information about this problem other people have their own agendas there is some "group think" that prevents full and open discussion there are family or social pressures to conform to may need additional training or educating to be eligible for a higher paying job there are limitations imposed by place and circumstances I may need to sell my home and give up other possessions there is a lack of support or cooperation there are strong differences of opinion there are conflicting needs and points of view there are certain things I enjoy that I will have to give up in order to live within my means there are people who are unavailable or unreceptive to my input readjust my expectations for results set a realistic timetable for resolving this problem acknowledge the specific limitations and find a way to work around them explore specific limitations to determine how difficult they actually are try to turn the limitation into some kind of advantage take on more responsibility and initiative get more help to compensate for this limitation get more specific help with this particular limitation be more flexible in approaching this problem be more creative in approaching this problem set more realistic expectations for myself stick it out when things become difficult have more patience if I dont see immediate results forego unnecessary expenses and use that money to acquire the resources I need work through the problem instead of trying to get around it or avoid it make the most of the resources I have to work with ignore possibly unhelpful and critical attitudes of others providing guidance or information connecting me with people they know who may be able to help sponsoring me in a self-help group or organization referring me to a professional or expert temporarily taking over some of my tasks or responsibilities taking a load off my shoulders in some way negotiating directly with others on my own behalf applying respectful pressure on organizations to secure the resources I need by calling everyday or writing letters or emails, etc. applying respectful pressure on individuals to secure resources I need convincing others to help by being persuasive convincing others to help by appealing to their sympathy striking bargains with people to help me resolve my problem striking bargains with organizations to help me resolve my problem getting professional legal or financial help using money or other resources to get something changed downsize my familys lifestyle encourage my spouse to find a job to help contribute consider finding a job which pays more exploring other career options consider selling my home and finding a place I can afford seek advice from friends and family research how others have handled this situation seek the advice of experts consult resources like books and software programs explore community resources and social agencies explore job listing websites and employment agencies read self-help books research which industries and companies are hiring determine if self-employment is a good option for me explore online training courses seek advice from a career coach or vocational counselor depending on me too much draining my resources (e.g., time, money, physical and psychological energy) changing the way I see myself causing me to give up something thats important to me causing me to give up things I enjoy causing damage to my other relationships not being supportive of me being disrespectful to me being ungrateful and entitled ignoring my needs being insensitive to my needs disagreeing with me about something important passive stubborn unfocused non-committal angry hostile pessimistic closed off defensive rejecting of help be more persistent be more aggressive devote more time and attention to solving this problem monitor my progress regularly in performing these actions be more open to ideas on how to solve this problem be receptive to help from others accept responsibility for my role in creating and perpetuating this problem be more decisive in taking actions to solve this problem be more sensitive to the needs and sensitivity of others be more aware of how others might see and respond to me be more in control of my life have peace of mind look forward to the future enjoy my life more have better relationships be relieved from a lot of inner pressure be able to support myself be able to support myself and my loved ones achieve my goals more efficiently be able to stand on my own two feet be consistent in my thoughts and actions be held in high regard by others have a greater sense of achievement achieve freedom from chaos and crisis feel productive have a sense of purpose and direction be more at ease with myself be proud of myself feel accomplished feel more secure and safe have more time to relax struggle finding solutions to problems struggle with setbacks and disappointment be less productive be passed over for promotions and other opportunities be perceived as a less effective team member sabotage my career and life goals feel like a hypocrite have a lack of direction and purpose feel embarrassed for not living up to my potential feel hopeless dread the future be unable to provide for myself and/or family be perceived negatively by my loved ones have conflict and tension with others be disappointed in myself feel shame for not taking a risk lose my self-respect undermine my self-confidence experience physical and emotional effects of unnecessary stress have less job satisfaction develop problem-solving skills and management skills discipline myself to plan a career enroll in advanced training programs or continuing education explore my talents and take steps to develop them explore new work options and opportunities grab an opportunity when it presents itself make a commitment to my job or career talk to my boss to expand my responsibilities to make use of my talents volunteer for work projects that utilize my talents assemble appropriate tools and resources transfer to a different department where I can make use of my talents find the right work situation or career to fit my ambitions and talents take risks and reach beyond my potential work with a mentor accept help or support from others join a professional development group work with a vocational counselor or career coach let our children know how much we love them and miss them and that we'll be home as soon as we can obtain and review a copy of the Family Medical Leave Act contact a labor attorney if I feel my rights are being violated be kind to myself when I make mistakes not let my frustration or resentment distract me from doing what I need to do take back my power by taking action accept the reality of the situation and deal with it prioritize whats most important grieve the loss of my old ways, but not let it derail me from moving forward focus on how good it will feel to not have this problem hanging over my head free up what resources I can to deal with this problem work around limitations rather than give up reset my expectations reset my timetable like Im carrying a heavy burden stuck heaviness like I have an anchor tied around my ankle resentful unmotivated overwhelmed guilty like Im carrying a weight on my shoulders like I have an axe hanging over my head lethargic disappointed in myself ashamed I am overwhelmed, waiting for the right time, or I am unsure why I am procrastinating. am uncertain the outcome will be worth the effort dont think Im smart enough or capable enough to succeed fear that others will be opposed to or be unsupportive to my goal fear that others wont care or will be indifferent to what I want to do fear that others will be overly approving or controlling about what I want to do fear that others wont respond the way I hope theyll respond to what I want to do fear that Ill become angry with others who are involved with what I want to do I have good and legitimate reasons for my point of view perhaps if I let go of my agenda, it will be easier to resolve this dispute resolving this tension is more important to me than winning if I acknowledge the external factors influencing this situation, it might decrease the tension between us leaving this issue unsolved makes me concerned for my well-being agreeing on this issue isn't that important and if it's left unresolved it won't damage our relationship that much have a conversation with change my own behavior so not expressing my angry or hurt emotions purposely provoking a negative response being too controlling or judgmental expressing my negative feelings inappropriately depending on her too much being mean or cruel being cold or rejecting being selfish or self-centered being envious or jealous being too competitive not expressing my positive feelings taking my stress out on others being possessive and not letting go being narrow-minded or short-sighted withdrawing or shutting down being intolerant of others' differences being moody or irritable blaming the wrong person being too direct and honest talk firmly but fairly with get outside help distance myself from talk firmly but fairly with get outside help. distance myself from I've decided to continue asserting my position. I don't want to compromise on this issue. I've decided to be flexible with my position and try to reach a compromise. I can gather support or approach my action in a controlled and sensitive way to soften the impact so that it's bearable. There's nothing I can do to gather support or to soften the impact to make it bearable. be consistent in my thoughts and actions have clarity of purpose and direction increase the amount of time and energy I devote to this problem not let my frustration or resentment distract me from doing what I need to do take back my power by taking action accept the reality of the situation and deal with it prioritize whats most important grieve the loss of my old ways, but not let it derail me from moving forward focus on how good it will feel to not have this problem hanging over my head free up what resources I can to deal with this problem work around limitations rather than give up reset my expectations reset my timetable increase the amount of time and energy I devote to this problem think of solutions that are "outside the box" there are limits to the amount of time and resources I can devote to this problem there are limits to the amount of interest and attention others can give to this problem other peoples attitudes can be hard to change there are institutional or legal rules or regulations that have to be followed there is limited information about this problem other people have their own agendas there is some "group think" that prevents full and open discussion there are family or social pressures to conform to may need additional training or educating to be eligible for a higher paying job there are limitations imposed by place and circumstances I may need to sell my home and give up other possessions there is a lack of support or cooperation there are strong differences of opinion there are conflicting needs and points of view there are certain things I enjoy that I will have to give up in order to live within my means there are people who are unavailable or unreceptive to my input readjust my expectations for results set a realistic timetable for resolving this problem acknowledge the specific limitations and find a way to work around them explore specific limitations to determine how difficult they actually are try to turn the limitation into some kind of advantage take on more responsibility and initiative get more help to compensate for this limitation get more specific help with this particular limitation be more flexible in approaching this problem be more creative in approaching this problem set more realistic expectations for myself stick it out when things become difficult have more patience if I dont see immediate results forego unnecessary expenses and use that money to acquire the resources I need work through the problem instead of trying to get around it or avoid it make the most of the resources I have to work with ignore possibly unhelpful and critical attitudes of others say "no" when the other person is able to do for themselves say "no" when saying "yes" will cause me harm set aside time for myself each day to unwind and relax treat myself with the same care and respect I show others keep my commitments to myself do something nice for myself dont take on other peoples responsibilities stop seeking other peoples approval end a relationship with someone who cannot respect my boundaries, feelings and needs feel ineffectual and incompetent feel like Im "wrong" or a bad person have to give up my excuses have to give up things I enjoy see aspects of myself Ive tried to ignore be ridiculed or rejected by others lose the respect of others feel awkward lose part of my identity feel confused feel out of control enroll in advanced training programs or continuing education explore my talents and take steps to develop them explore new work options and opportunities ask my boss for support or assistance with my responsibilities make a commitment to my job or career delegate some of my responsibilities analyze situations and make informed decisions assemble appropriate tools and resources transfer to another department thats less stressful find the right work situation or career to fit my ambitions and talents find another job that is less stressful practice self-care activities learn and practice stress management and relaxation techniques accept help or support from others join a professional development group work with a vocational counselor or career coach providing financial assistance interceding on my behalf with the other party or parties involved providing moral support or encouragement providing a shoulder to lean on when Im feeling stressed providing guidance or information connecting me with people they know who may be able to help sponsoring me in a self-help group or organization referring me to a professional or expert temporarily taking over some of my tasks or responsibilities taking a load off my shoulders in some way sad torn apart fearful weak spread too thin angry helpless frustrated trapped worthless guilty powerless weighted down anxious inferior numb mean and cruel bitter drained ashamed embarrassed defective or damaged resentful uptight victimized damaged persecuted hopeless harassed make me feel embarrassed about my problem think Im a failure think Im a bad spouse think Im a bad parent know about my problems think Im stupid think Im irresponsible think Im a horrible person think Im weak think Im a fool think there is something wrong with me be critical of the way I am handling my life a few days a few weeks a few months a year several years I've tried everything I could think of and worked really hard to resolve this issue Ive made some attempts to resolve the issue, but didnt really try as hard as I could have I havent really done much to resolve this issue think of solutions that are "outside the box" use a calendar, date book or online reminder system to stay on top of paperwork and other deadlines sponsoring me in a professional or trade networking group or organization referring me to a professional or expert temporarily taking over some of my tasks or responsibilities taking a load off my shoulders in some ways providing a job reference or recommendation providing me with temporary work providing me with a new job negotiating directly with others on my own behalf following up with potential employers by calling everyday or writing letters or emails, etc. discipline myself to plan another career convincing others to help by being persuasive convincing others to help by appealing to their sympathy striking bargains with people to help me resolve my problem working with a vocational counselor or career coach enrolling in advanced training programs or continuing education classes using money or other resources to get something changed revamping my résumé taking risks and reach beyond my potential insisting that others be fair to me taking a more junior position and working my way up developing a daily routine and schedule that includes time everyday to work on this issue providing financial assistance interceding on my behalf with the other party or parties involved providing moral support or encouragement providing a shoulder to lean on when Im feeling stressed providing guidance or information connecting me with people they know who may be able to help sponsoring me in a professional networking or trade group or organization referring me to a professional or expert temporarily taking over some of my tasks or responsibilities taking a load off my shoulders in some way providing a job reference or recommendation providing me with temporary work providing me with a new job teaching or mentoring me to help me learn the job skills I need negotiating directly with others on my own behalf following up with potential employers by calling everyday or writing letters or emails, etc. applying respectful pressure on individuals to secure resources I need convincing others to help by being persuasive convincing others to help by appealing to their sympathy striking bargains with people to help me resolve my problem striking bargains with organizations to help me resolve my problem getting professional medical or legal or financial help using money or other resources to get something changed insisting on my rights revamping my résumé taking risks and reach beyond my potential disciplining myself to plan a career taking a more junior position and working my way up developing a daily routine and schedule that includes time everyday to work on this issue there are limits to the amount of time and resources I can devote to this problem there are limits to the amount of interest and attention others can give to this problem other peoples attitudes can be hard to change there are institutional or legal rules or regulations that have to be followed there are limited job opportunities in my area for my current skill set other people have their own agendas there is some "group think" that prevents full and open discussion there are family or social pressures to conform to there are strong penalties for not conforming or obeying there are limitations imposed by place and circumstances there are timetables that cant be changed there is a lack of support or cooperation there are strong differences of opinion I may need to make significant changes to resolve this issue I may need to do things I dont want to do to resolve this issue there are people who are unavailable or unreceptive to my input set more realistic expectations for myself set a realistic timetable for resolving this problem acknowledge the specific limitations and find a way to work around them try to turn the limitation into some kind of advantage take on more responsibility and initiative get more help to compensate for this limitation be more flexible and creative in approaching this problem stick it out when things become difficult have more patience if I don't see immediate results forgo unnecessary expenses and use that money to acquire the resources I need work through the problem instead of trying to get around it or avoid it make the most of the resources I have to work with ignore possibly unhelpful and critical attitudes of others pressuring me sad torn apart fearful weak spread too thin angry helpless frustrated trapped worthless guilty powerless weighted down anxious inferior numb mean and cruel bitter drained ashamed embarrassed defective resentful uptight victimized damaged persecuted hopeless unsure of myself be more in control of my life have peace of mind look forward to the future enjoy my life more have better relationships be relieved from a lot of inner pressure be consistent in my thoughts and actions achieve freedom from chaos and crisis have more energy have more time for myself and others be more at ease with myself feel more secure and safe have more time to relax I can't take time away from my current job for additional training I can't take time away from my family to attend training the school or training program is too far from where I live Im too old stay stuck struggle finding solutions to problems I've tried everything I could think of to resolve this issue and worked really hard passive stubborn unfocused non-committal angry hostile pessimistic closed off defensive rejecting of help be more persistent be more aggressive devote more time and attention to solving this problem monitor my progress regularly in resolving this issue be more open to ideas on how to solve this problem be receptive to help from others accept responsibility for my role in creating and perpetuating this problem be more decisive in taking actions to solve this problem a few days a few weeks a few months a year several years I've tried everything I could think of and worked really hard to resolve this issue I've made some attempts to resolve the issue, but didnt really try as hard as I could have I havent really done much to resolve this issue learning as much as possible about learning about the Patient's Bill of Rights and other rights so I can ensure keeping track of all the details of creating a written copy of determining what medications be more in control of my life have peace of mind look forward to the future enjoy my life more have better relationships be relieved from a lot of inner pressure have a sense of belonging be more open to new experiences and opportunities have the comfort of an intimate relationship be consistent in my thoughts and actions be held in high regard by others have a greater sense of achievement achieve freedom from chaos and crisis have more energy be more at ease with myself be proud of myself feel accomplished feel more secure and safe my romantic partner is not a mind reader and I need to express my feelings and needs directly it's good to have some different interests than my partner because it can help to enrich the relationship it's ok not to agree on everything no ones perfect and there are lots of imperfect people in happy relationships Im more likely to find a good match if I express my true self no one person can meet all my needs, so it's important to have other sources of support relationships require effort, but they shouldn't be a continuous uphill battle if I dont accept and love myself I wont be able to accept love and acceptance from a potential partner hiding my feelings and opinions will lead me to feel resentful toward my partner it's good to have some alone time because healthy couples allow each other some breathing room my romantic partner is not a personal ATM machine; in a healthy relationship both partners practice give and take have a greater sense of achievement set a good example for others have better mental health have better sex have better relationships have less tension in my relationships be more at ease with myself be relieved from a lot of inner pressure have improved overall health increase my life expectancy be less susceptible to illness and injury have better mental health have fewer medical expenses have better insurance rates enjoy and remember achievements and moments with loved ones wake up without shame, guilt and regret be more in control of my life look forward to the future be more productive enjoy my work more be consistent in my thoughts and actions be viewed as reliable and trustworthy have clarity of purpose and direction set a good example for others achieve freedom from chaos and crisis have better relationships have less tension in my relationships be proud of myself angry frustrated fearful weak spread too thin resentful helpless incompetent trapped worthless pressured powerless weighted down anxious inferior bitter drained ashamed embarrassed defective defensive persecuted hopeless forgive and forget past hurts be open to positive and critical feedback from others be aware of body language smile more take risks and reach beyond my potential experiment with new flavors, colors and music, etc. practice gratitude create a climate in which people can be a vital, productive group tolerate imperfections in others allow myself to be open to the joys of emotional excitement surround myself with people who are positive and solution-focused think before I speak or act instead of just reacting let down my guard or walls let go, relax and let the child in me come out understand that the past does not equal the future see the benefits and opportunities in every situation accept disappointment and setbacks as part of life, not its entirety be a rational optimist and take the good with the bad practice positive thinking by replacing negative thoughts with positive ones let go of the assumption that the world is against me allow myself to make mistakes and try again be open to positive and critical feedback from others learn the art of compromise learn how to listen let go of the need to be right develop objectivity practice humility keep an open mind be respectful of different views dont force my beliefs on others staying on top of be given more responsibilities feel ineffectual and incompetent feel overwhelmed have to be independent and responsible have to give up my excuses be made fun of by others be rejected by others lose the respect of others fail and appear foolish feel awkward feel confused feel out of control I dont have enough time I dont have enough resources I dont have enough support I wont be taken seriously by my boss or peers it will take too long its too difficult I cant afford to transfer departments or find a new job I cant take time away from my current job for additional training I dont have time for formal training the school or training program is too far from where I live Im too old seek advice from friends and family research how others have handled this situation seek the advice of experts consult resources like books and software programs explore community resources and social agencies explore job listing websites and employment agencies read self-help books watch self-help DVDs and videos research which industries and companies are hiring determine if self-employment is a good option for me research continuing education and skills training programs lose my self-respect undermine my self-confidence experience physical and emotional effects of unnecessary stress have less job satisfaction lose my job develop problem-solving skills and management skills discipline myself to plan a career enroll in advanced training programs or continuing education explore my talents and take steps to develop them explore new work options and opportunities grab an opportunity when it presents itself make a commitment to my job or career talk to my boss to expand my responsibilities to make use of my talents volunteer for work projects that utilize my talents transfer to a different department where I can make use of my talents ask my boss for support or assistance with my responsibilities find the right work situation or career to fit my ambitions and talents take risks and reach beyond my potential work with a mentor transfer to another department or find another job thats less stressful accept help or support from others join a professional development group readjust my expectations readjust my expectations have regular physical examinations have recommended tests performed have recommended surgery or treatment take medication(s) as prescribed give up smoking maintain a healthy diet maintain a balanced and regular exercise routine become involved in physical activities become involved in a self-help or support group find activities that dont center around drugs, alcohol or rich foods get to know my body take healthy cooking or nutrition classes abstain from recreational drugs and/or alcohol allow myself the freedom to have fun and occasional treats find healthy activity partners with whom to have fun and enjoy life not skip meals get the help or treatment I need take medication(s) as prescribed find healthy activities to distract myself be better able to solve problems be controlled by my fears have crisis and chaos at home and work stay stuck struggle finding solutions to problems struggle with setbacks and disappointment be less productive be passed over for promotions and other opportunities be perceived as a less effective team member sabotage my career and life goals dread going to work have a lack of direction and purpose feel embarrassed for not living up to my potential damage my reputation at work dread the future react disproportionately to minor frustrations be perceived negatively by others have conflict and tension with others be disappointed in myself feel shame for not taking a risk lose my self-respect undermine my self-confidence experience physical and emotional effects of unnecessary stress have less job satisfaction stay stuck be controlled by my fears be controlled by my fears of rejection be perceived negatively by my loved ones damage or lose important intimacy have conflict and tension with others miss out on the comfort of mutually satisfying intimacy sabotage my relationship and life goals be disappointed in myself feel isolated feel shame for not taking a risk experience physical and emotional effects of unnecessary stress stay stuck experience physical and emotional effects of unnecessary stress be more susceptible to mental health issues like anxiety and depression feel guilty feel hopeless be controlled by my fears of rejection be perceived negatively by my loved ones damage or lose important intimacy have conflict and tension with others hurt others needlessly lose my family miss opportunities to enjoy fun activities with loved ones miss out on the comfort of mutually satisfying intimacy sabotage my relationship and life goals be disappointed in myself feel isolated feel shame for not taking a risk angry frustrated fearful unappreciated spread too thin resentful bored incompetent trapped worthless pressured powerless weighted down anxious restless bitter drained overlooked embarrassed defective defensive persecuted maintain a healthy diet let down my guard or walls when I feel angry when I feel anxiety when I feel depressed when I feel disappointed when I feel lonely when I feel rejected when I feel shy or socially awkward during disagreements or conflict with others during intimate moments when trying to express feelings when trying to express needs when I feel overwhelmed when I feel tired when I dont know how to do something well when I feel anxiety when I feel angry when I feel depressed when I feel disappointed when I feel lonely when I feel rejected when I feel shy or socially awkward during disagreements or conflict with others during intimate moments when trying to express feelings when trying to express needs when I feel overwhelmed be open to meeting different kinds of people tolerate any initial feelings of discomfort when someone expresses an interest in me be direct and honest about my needs and feelings come out of my shell and open up to others develop my interests and pursuits in order to be more interesting to myself and others join groups and organizations in order to build a wider social network focus on feeling good about myself and who I am as an independent person accept myself as I am and be accepting of others identify things Id like to change about myself to feel more confident make time to work on meeting new people make myself available to others tell friends and family that Im interested in meeting new kinds of potential partners become aware of and learn to recognize unhealthy relationship partners before I pursue a relationship with them let people who I know will be good for me get close instead of pushing them away make decisions with greater ease be consistent in my thoughts and actions be held in high regard by others be true to myself be viewed as reliable and trustworthy have a greater sense of achievement have clarity of purpose and direction have more integrity make a positive impact in my community set a good example for others achieve freedom from chaos and crisis have peace of mind have more fulfilling relationships be more at ease with myself be proud of myself be relieved from a lot of inner pressure see the benefits and opportunities in every situation practice positive thinking by replacing negative thoughts with positive ones experiment with new flavors, colors and music, etc. allow for changes in other people be open and receptive to the needs of others forgive and forget past hurts let others function independently and let go when the need arises tolerate imperfections in others think before I speak or act instead of just reacting assemble appropriate tools and resources find interesting things to do to entertain myself when Im alone explore my talents and take steps to develop them make a commitment to my job or career take more initiative in making the first move take risks and reach beyond my potential set small achievable goals start my day earlier and stick to my schedule acknowledge small successes work with a mentor get involved in a particular cause join in group activities whenever possible volunteer my time and efforts to a worthy cause find healthy activity partners with whom to have fun and enjoy life eliminate time wasters (e.g., idle work chat, surfing the Internet, telephone calls) frame and structure my day make and use "to-do" lists monitor project process maintain a balanced and regular exercise routine maintain a healthy diet take care of my health achieve freedom from chaos and crisis be more approachable get along better with people at work have a better support network have better relationships have better sex have better relationships have less tension in my relationships have more fulfilling relationships be relieved from a lot of inner pressure be better able to solve problems be more in control of my life be a more effective team member be consistent in my thoughts and actions be held in high regard by others be true to myself be viewed as reliable and trustworthy have more integrity set a good example for others achieve freedom from chaos and crisis have peace of mind get along better with people at work have a better support network have better relationships have better relationships have less tension in my relationships be more in control of my emotions, thoughts and behaviors be proud of myself be relieved from a lot of inner pressure when I feel angry when I feel anxiety when I feel depressed when I feel disappointed when I feel lonely when I feel rejected when I feel shy or socially awkward during disagreements or conflict with others during intimate moments on dates with new people when trying to express feelings when trying to express needs when I feel overwhelmed when I feel tired when I dont know how to do something well when I feel anxiety when I feel angry when I feel depressed when I feel disappointed when I feel lonely when I feel rejected when I feel shy or socially awkward at work in general when working with a team during disagreements or conflict with others during intimate moments during social events on dates with new people when trying to express feelings when trying to express needs seek advice from friends and family find out how others have handled similar situation seek the advice of experts consult resources like books, articles and website explore community resources and social networks and Internet dating read self-help books and watch self-help DVDs take my time, become friends and get to know the other person before becoming romantically involved take time to understand myself and what I want in a relationship identify my values relationship deal-makers and deal-breakers be given more responsibilities feel ineffectual and incompetent feel overwhelmed have to be independent and responsible have to give up my excuses get along better with people at work be more at ease with myself be more flexible in the way I approach problems be relieved from a lot of inner pressure be more productive have a better chance of being promoted be proud of myself have less tension in my relationships be more open to new experiences and opportunities handle disappointments and setbacks with greater ease have clarity of purpose and direction be more true to myself enjoy my work more have a greater sense of achievement and peace of mind have better mental health be consistent in my thoughts and actions set a good example for others achieve my goals more efficiently be more in control lose money through late fees, lost rebates, store credits or late tax returns be reactive at work and home have crisis and chaos at home and work miss deadlines and important meetings have conflict and tension with others experience physical and emotional effects of unnecessary stress be less productive be passed over for promotions and other opportunities be disappointed in myself stay stuck be perceived as a less effective team member lose my job sabotage my career and life goals have a lack of direction and purpose be perceived negatively by my loved one experience physical and emotional effects of unnecessary stress allow myself to make mistakes and try again analyze situations and make informed decisions evaluate criticism or praise as information about myself let down my guard or walls keep an open mind grab an opportunity when it presents itself practice positive thinking by replacing negative thoughts with positive ones take risks and reach beyond my potential set small achievable goals get involved in a particular cause join in group activities whenever possible allow myself to be open to the joys of emotional excitement become involved in a self-help or support group let go of the assumption that the world is against me see the benefits and opportunities in every situation experiment with new flavors, colors and music, etc. surround myself with people who are independent trust others when its appropriate accept help or support from others let go of the security of being taken care of and stand on my own feet analyze situations and make informed decisions evaluate criticism or praise as information about myself learn the art of compromise avoid criticizing or placing blame be honest about my needs and express them to others when appropriate learn to fight fair learn how to listen let go of the need to be right practice humility think before I speak or act instead of just reacting respect the rights of others be more open to new experiences and opportunities be more approachable get along better with people at work have a better support network have better relationships have better sex have better relationships have less tension in my relationships have more fulfilling relationships be proud of myself feel accepted be relieved from a lot of inner pressure cant commit is unavailable isnt able to express and receive love runs hot and cold is unfaithful has a lot of emotional problems has substance abuse problems is emotionally abusive is physically abusive is totally self-centered is too involved with other relationships is too dependent on family gets serious too quickly is jealous or controlling I have to work hard to earn someones love I have to prove that Im good enough for someone to love me I must be perfect to deserve someones love maintain a balanced and regular exercise routine become involved in physical activities become involved in a self-help or support group find activities that dont center around drugs or alcohol get to know my body abstain from recreational drugs and/or alcohol find new healthy ways to soothe myself find healthy activity partners with whom to have fun and enjoy life find new healthy ways to celebrate achievements be vigilant of drinking and drugging triggers establish a sober support network be made fun of by others be rejected by others lose the respect of others fail and appear foolish feel awkward feel confused feel out of control I dont have enough time I dont have enough resources I dont have enough support I wont be taken seriously it will take too long its too difficult I cant afford to transfer departments or find a new job I cant take time away from my current job for additional training Ill jeopardize my job if I ask for help no one else can handle my responsibilities at work lose my job develop problem-solving skills and management skills talk to my boss about decreasing my responsibilities temporarily or permanently enroll in advanced training programs or continuing education explore my talents and take steps to develop them explore new work options and opportunities ask my boss for support or assistance with my responsibilities make a commitment to my job or career delegate some of my responsibilities analyze situations and make informed decisions assemble appropriate tools and resources transfer to another department thats less stressful find the right work situation or career to fit my ambitions and talents find another job that is less stressful practice self-care activities learn and practice stress management and relaxation techniques accept help or support from others join a professional development group work with a vocational counselor or career coach become involved in a self-help or support group when I feel overwhelmed be given more responsibilities feel ineffectual and incompetent passive stubborn unfocused non-committal angry hostile pessimistic closed off defensive rejecting of help needy demanding controlling aggressive be more persistent be more aggressive experience stress from dealing with bill collectors not be able to provide for myself and/or family damage relationships with people from whom I borrow money and cant pay back destroy my credit rating be ineligible for loans have no retirement savings be disappointed in myself stay stuck dread the future feel embarrassed live paycheck to paycheck be perceived negatively by my loved one damage or lose important relationships have conflict and tension with others lose my self-respect experience physical and emotional effects of unnecessary stress waste time on unproductive activities be reactive at work and home miss deadlines and important meetings have crisis and chaos at home and work stay stuck be less productive be passed over for promotions and other opportunities be perceived as a less effective team member lose my job sabotage my career and life goals have conflict and tension with others miss opportunities to enjoy fun activities with loved ones be disappointed in myself experience physical and emotional effects of unnecessary stress feel out of control be aware of body language be honest about my needs and express them to others when appropriate accept myself allow myself to be the center of attention spend quality time with another person trust others when its appropriate accept help or support from others learn to be in the moment stop taking rejection personally let down my guard or walls let go, relax and let the child in me come out take more initiative in making the first move angry frustrated fearful weak spread too thin resentful helpless incompetent trapped worthless pressured powerless weighted down anxious inferior bitter drained ashamed embarrassed defective defensive persecuted hopeless devote more time and attention to this challenge find new healthy ways to soothe myself use humor to release tension let go of the assumption that the world is against me get the help or treatment I need maintain a balanced and regular exercise routine forgive and forget past hurts tolerate imperfections in others leave an unsatisfactory situation when its appropriate to do so analyze situations and make informed decisions evaluate criticism or praise as information about myself learn the art of compromise avoid criticizing or placing blame use humor to release tension be honest about my needs and express them to others when appropriate learn to fight fair learn how to listen let go of the need to be right develop objectivity practice humility keep an open mind think before I speak or act rather than reacting let go of the assumption that the world is against me respect the rights of others maintain a balanced and regular exercise routine be open and receptive to the needs of others forgive and forget past hurts tolerate imperfections in others leave an unsatisfactory situation when its appropriate to do so develop a personal code of conduct volunteer my time promoting the welfare of humanity not force my beliefs on others determine whats fair forgive myself when I dont live up to my values forgive others when they dont live up to my values be open and receptive to my feelings and needs be open and receptive to the needs of others volunteer my time and efforts to a worthy cause do what I know is right even when its inconvenient or costly take care of my health respect the rights of others stand up for my personal rights be open to positive and critical feedback from others allow myself the freedom to have fun and occasional treats make a commitment to myself question my behaviors that are contradictory to my spiritual or religious beliefs set a good example for others set an example for others assemble appropriate tools and resources follow instructions or directions balance work and leisure time prioritize and organize tasks in order to schedule time more efficiently develop problem-solving skills or management skills allow myself to make mistakes and try again be honest about my needs and express them to others when appropriate explore my talents and take steps to develop them grab an opportunity when it presents itself take more initiative in making the first move be more in control of my life have more job opportunities have more earning power be more open to new experiences and opportunities achieve my goals more efficiently be able to rebuild my retirement savings be able to support myself and loved ones have a greater sense of achievement have clarity of purpose and direction set a good example for others have less tension in my relationships be more at ease with myself be proud of myself feel accomplished be relieved from a lot of inner pressure look forward to the future feel more secure and safe be better able to solve problems be controlled by my fears have crisis and chaos at home and work stay stuck fall behind on my bills struggle with setbacks and disappointment be dependent on others not be able to take care of myself and my loved ones be perceived as a burden to others have a lack of direction and purpose feel embarrassed for not living up to my potential dread the future be unable to provide for myself and/or family be perceived negatively by my loved ones have conflict and tension with others be disappointed in myself feel shame for not taking a risk lose my self-respect undermine my self-confidence experience physical and emotional effects of unnecessary stress lose my home monitor my progress regularly be more open to ideas on how to solve this problem be receptive to help from others accept responsibility for my role in creating and perpetuating this situation be more decisive in taking actions to solve this problem be more sensitive to the needs and sensitivity of others be more aware of how others might view and react to my attitudes and behaviors introducing me to people who may be a good match pointing out when Im beginning to engage in my old, self-defeating relationship behaviors providing moral support or encouragement providing a shoulder to lean on when Im feeling stressed providing guidance or information connecting me with people they know who may be able to help sponsoring me in a self-help group or organization referring me to a professional or expert be more susceptible to illness and injury be more susceptible to mental health issues like depression and anxiety require more time to recover from injury and illness have greater health care costs be unable to provide for myself and/or family not have enough energy to enjoy life be perceived negatively by my loved ones damage or lose important relationships hurt others needlessly miss out on the comfort of mutually satisfying relationships be disappointed in myself lose my self-respect be more susceptible to illness and injury be more susceptible to mental health issues like depression and anxiety require more time to recover from injury and illness damage or lose important relationships lose my family lose my home lose my job lose my possessions lose my self-respect have greater health care costs have crisis and chaos at home and work stay stuck struggle finding solutions to problems sabotage my career and life goals dread the future feel embarrassed feel guilty feel hopeless be unable to provide for myself and/or family have conflict and tension with others hurt others needlessly be given more responsibilities feel ineffectual and incompetent feel overwhelmed have to be independent and responsible have to give up my excuses be made fun of by others be rejected by others lose the respect of others fail and appear foolish feel awkward be more in control of my life have more job opportunities have more earning power be more open to new experiences and opportunities achieve my goals more efficiently be able to stand on my own two feet be more independent be able to support myself have a greater sense of achievement have clarity of purpose and direction set a good example for others have less tension in my relationships be more at ease with myself be proud of myself feel accomplished be relieved from a lot of inner pressure feel like a productive member of society look forward to the future feel more secure and safe passive stubborn unfocused non-committal angry hostile pessimistic closed off defensive rejecting of help be more persistent be more aggressive devote more time and attention to solving this problem monitor my progress regularly in performing these actions be more open to ideas on how to solve this problem be receptive to help from others accept responsibility for my role in creating and perpetuating this problem be more decisive in taking actions to solve this problem be more sensitive to the needs and feelings of others be more aware of how others might view and react to my attitudes and behaviors hurt someones feelings caused a loss for someone else made the situation worse didnt tell the whole truth was overly harsh think I was overreacting was dishonest acted against my values acted cowardly was lazy was selfish be patient with myself while learning the ropes try my best and not let myself become discouraged let go of unrealistic expectation of being perfect or doing everything right angry frustrated fearful weak spread too thin resentful helpless incompetent trapped worthless pressured powerless weighted down anxious inferior bitter drained ashamed embarrassed defective defensive persecuted hopeless being away from my job other people thinking that I'm a bad attendant figure out our financial picture create a budget based on our new circumstances explore the possibilities of generating additional income consider enrolling for training or school to increase my skill set and marketability determine the government benefits for which we're eligible failing meeting and interacting with new people speak slowly and clearly get to my point as quickly and clearly as possible count to "10" when I am upset before I respond communicate with others the way I would like them to communicate with me develop good listening skills practice rephrasing and repeating what others have told me wait for become as knowledgeable as possible about know know our rights regarding the Family Medical Leave Act and exercise them know our rights regarding the Americans with Disabilities Act and exercise them obtain the supplies I need to become stay on top of things such as a notebook, journal, appointment book or calendar, wristwatch, alarm, three-ring binder, accordion folder, smartphone, etc. become better at being organized become better at time management become better at listening not procrastinate or put things off obtain hard copies of communicate with the Care Team regularly to make sure my information is current communicate with the Care Team regularly to make sure I am helping in the best way possible communicate with the Care Team to make sure I am doing things correctly or if there are other things I should be attending to create a draft of my own treatment plan and go over it with a member of the Care Team to make sure I understand everything communicate with the Care Team to get a list of communicate with Care Team about the purpose of the medications and possible side effects to watch out for communicate with the Care Team to find out who I should notify if I think research administer the medication as prescribed and not make any changes unless I speak to and get clearance from the appropriate Care Team member be better able to solve problems be more creative and flexible be more open to new experiences and opportunities handle disappointments and setbacks with greater ease achieve my goals more efficiently be a more effective team member enjoy my work more have a better chance of being promoted be consistent in my thoughts and actions have clarity of purpose and direction achieve freedom from chaos and crisis look forward to the future have more fulfilling relationships be proud of myself feel accomplished be relieved from a lot of inner pressure be controlled by my fears have crisis and chaos at home and work stay stuck struggle finding solutions to problems struggle with setbacks and disappointment be less productive be passed over for promotions and other opportunities be perceived as a less effective team member allow myself to make mistakes and try again assemble appropriate tools and resources evaluate criticism or praise as information about myself follow instructions or directions let down my guard or walls let go, relax and let the child in me come out experiment with new flavors, colors and music, etc. experiment with new types of music, dance, art and media, etc. feel, hear, smell and touch the world around me perform in front of others schedule time to do what makes me happy and acknowledge my right to do so schedule time to regularly pursue and practice a creative activity take classes to learn a creative pursuit use my talents to compose music use my talents to deal creatively with space or shapes use my talents to deal creatively with symbols or images use my talents to design use my talents to play a musical instrument use my talents to sing use my talent to convey my thoughts and feelings through drawing, painting or sculpting use my talents to write creatively use my talents to develop theory work with a mentor take risks and reach beyond my potential accept that we have differences of opinion and let the situation blow over continue to explain myself and refine the conversation as needed, until I get my point of view across seek professional mediation exercise patience if be more in control of my life have more job opportunities have more earning power be more open to new experiences and opportunities achieve my goals more efficiently be a more effective team member be more productive have a better chance of being promoted have a greater sense of achievement have clarity of purpose and direction set a good example for others have less tension in my relationships be more at ease with myself be proud of myself feel accomplished be relieved from a lot of inner pressure enjoy my work more look forward to the future feel more secure and safe be better able to solve problems be controlled by my fears have crisis and chaos at home and work feel overwhelmed have to be independent and responsible have to give up my excuses be made fun of by others be rejected by others lose the respect of others fail and appear foolish feel awkward feel confused feel out of control I dont have enough time I dont have enough resources I dont have enough support I wont be taken seriously its too difficult transfer departments or find a new job I cant take time away from my current job for additional training Ill jeopardize my job if I ask for help no one else can handle my responsibilities at work sad torn apart fearful weak spread too thin angry helpless frustrated trapped worthless guilty powerless weighted down anxious inferior numb mean bitter drained ashamed embarrassed defective resentful uptight victimized damaged persecuted hopeless unsure monitor the situation talk directly to ask someone to speak with change my own behavior or response set boundaries and enforce consequences distance myself physically and psychologically from monitor the situation a serious disturbance weighted down resentful not let practice being more observant monitor monitor learn about PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder) so I can have a better idea of what to expect during learn about any special needs be better able to solve problems feel confused develop problem-solving skills and management skills discipline myself to plan another career enroll in advanced training programs or continuing education reconnect with my old business network and contacts explore new work options and opportunities grab an opportunity when it presents itself make a commitment to my job or career revamp my résumé analyze situations and make informed decisions assemble appropriate tools and resources take a more junior position and work my way back up find the right work situation or career to fit my ambitions and talents take risks and reach beyond my potential work with a mentor work with a headhunter accept help or support from others join a professional development group work with a vocational counselor or career coach be controlled by my fears have crisis and chaos at home and work stay stuck struggle finding solutions to problems struggle with setbacks and disappointment be dependent on the system be passed over for promotions and other opportunities be perceived as a burden to others sabotage my life goals feel like a hypocrite have a lack of direction and purpose feel embarrassed for not living up to my potential feel hopeless dread the future be unable to provide for myself and/or family be perceived negatively by my loved ones have conflict and tension with others be disappointed in myself feel shame for not taking a risk lose my self-respect undermine my self-confidence experience physical and emotional effects of unnecessary stress have less job satisfaction lose my relationship sabotage my career and life goals be more in control of my time be better able to solve problems be more in control of my life be more open to new experiences and opportunities make decisions with greater ease achieve my goals more efficiently be a more effective team member be more productive have a better chance of being promoted be consistent in my thoughts and actions be true to myself have a greater sense of achievement have clarity of purpose and direction set a good example for others have a better support network have better intimacy have less tension in my relationships have more fulfilling relationships be more at ease with myself be proud of myself feel accomplished be relieved from a lot of inner pressure feel like a hypocrite have a lack of direction and purpose be more susceptible to mental health issues like anxiety and depression feel hopeless dread the future be unable to provide for myself and/or family be perceived negatively by my loved ones damage or lose important relationships have conflict and tension with others be disappointed in myself feel shame for not taking a risk lose my self-respect undermine my self-confidence experience physical and emotional effects of unnecessary stress be controlled by my fears have crisis and chaos at home and work stay stuck struggle finding solutions to problems struggle with setbacks and disappointment be less productive be passed over for promotions and other opportunities be perceived as a less effective team member have less job satisfaction lose my job sabotage my career and life goals have a lack of direction and purpose be more susceptible to mental health issues like anxiety and depression feel hopeless be perceived negatively by my loved ones be disappointed in myself feel shame for not taking a risk lose my self-respect undermine my self-confidence be reactive at work and home experience physical and emotional effects of unnecessary stress analyze situations and make informed decisions assemble appropriate tools and resources be open to positive and critical feedback from others think through a problem, idea or issue clearly and thoroughly be assertive delegate tasks to others when appropriate develop problem-solving skills and management skills exercise authority without being dictatorial grab an opportunity when it presents itself make a commitment to my job or career make things happen by organizing people and events take charge of situations take risks and reach beyond my potential acknowledge the rights of others be aware of the needs and potential of others create a climate in which people can be a vital, productive group allow myself to be the center of attention accept help or support from others keep work and personal life separate and dont let one interfere with the other when possible expand my thinking abilities by deeply theorizing or philosophizing think through a problem, idea or issue clearly and thoroughly be respectful of different views forgive myself when I dont live up to my values forgive others when they dont live up to my values question my behaviors that are contradictory to my spiritual or religious beliefs practice gratitude relieve someones pain and suffering spend time alone in contemplation, meditation or prayer treat my body with respect treat my environment and the planet with respect treat others with respect become more involved in my religious life or practices expand my awareness of different religions providing financial assistance interceding on my behalf with the other party or parties involved providing moral support or encouragement providing a shoulder to lean on when Im feeling stressed providing guidance or information connecting me with people they know who may be able to help sponsoring me in a professional or trade networking group or organization referring me to a professional or expert temporarily taking over some of my tasks or responsibilities taking a load off my shoulders in some way providing a job reference or recommendation providing me with temporary work providing me with a new job negotiating directly with others on my own behalf following up with potential employers by calling everyday or writing letters or emails, etc. disciplining myself to plan another career convincing others to help by being persuasive convincing others to help by appealing to their sympathy striking bargains with people to help me resolve my problem working with a vocational counselor or career coach enrolling in advanced training programs or continuing education classes using money or other resources to get something changed revamping my résumé taking risks and reach beyond my potential insisting that others be fair to me taking a more junior position and working my way up focus on each day as it comes focus on what needs to be done in the short-term and plan accordingly try to catch myself catastrophizing and think of a positive outcome for every worst-case scenario I imagine bring myself back to the present when I project too far ahead by focusing on what I need to do today I'm trying to get closer to someone with whom I'd like more contact. exercising patience with exercising patience regarding managing my frustration because managing my frustration when certain treatments and therapies dont work and the Care Team has to try another approach not pressuring not pressuring not pressuring allowing exercising more patience with myself and my new roles exercising more patience with my own feelings and reactions exercising more patience with myself in terms of learning about exercising more patience with myself in terms of navigating the WRAMC and military systems understanding that WRAMC staff and resources may not be always be immediately available try not to become defensive if what I'm hearing makes me uncomfortable or upset a few days a few weeks a few months a year several years I've tried everything I could think of and worked really hard to resolve this issue Ive made some attempts to resolve the issue, but didnt really try as hard as I could have I havent really done much to resolve this issue challenge my worries and self-limiting beliefs to see if theyre true I'm trying to get someone to do something I want. I'm trying to grow and develop to the best of my ability. I'm trying to appear better than others because I need the attention to cover-up my fears. I'm trying to protect myself against others. I'm trying to hide a weakness because I'm too afraid to change. I'm trying to be fair and make amends. I'm apologizing because it is easier than standing up for myself. developing a daily routine that includes time everyday to work on this issue purchase a notebook or something comparable to record important information keep myself aware of current issues sad torn apart fearful weak spread too thin angry helpless frustrated trapped worthless guilty powerless weighted down anxious inferior numb mean and cruel bitter drained ashamed embarrassed defective resentful uptight victimized damaged persecuted hopeless make me feel embarrassed about my problem think Im a failure think Im a bad spouse think Im a bad parent know about my problems think Im stupid think Im irresponsible think Im a horrible person think Im weak think Im a fool think there is something wrong with me be critical of the way I am handling my life providing guidance or information connecting me with people they know who may be able to help sponsoring me in a self-help group or organization referring me to a professional or expert temporarily taking over some of my tasks or responsibilities taking a load off my shoulders in some ways a few days a few weeks a few months a year several years I've tried everything I could think of and worked really hard to resolve this issue Ive made some attempts to resolve the issue, but didnt really try as hard as I could have I havent really done much to resolve this issue work around limitations rather than give up reset my expectations reset my timetable increase the amount of time and energy I devote to this problem think of solutions that are "outside the box" passive stubborn unfocused non-committal angry hostile pessimistic closed off defensive rejecting of help be more persistent be more aggressive devote more time and attention to solving this problem monitor my progress regularly in resolving this issue be more open to ideas on how to solve this problem be receptive to help from others accept responsibility for my role in creating and perpetuating this problem be more decisive in taking actions to solve this problem be more sensitive to the needs and sensitivity of others be more aware of how others might view and react to my attitudes and behaviors being, cold, angry, or belittling toward me excluding me being competitive with me not providing enough guidance causing too many arguments acting in a way that I do not respect or that does not build trust nagging me to change my work habits misrepresenting me to other people undermining my efforts to advance myself invading my privacy violating my rights bullying me being punitive toward me holding me to different standard than my co-workers putting me in "no-win" situations setting me up for failure gossiping about me turning my co-workers against me only a minor irritant something that could become more serious a serious disturbance talk directly to ask someone to speak with my co-worker on my behalf change my own behavior or response distance myself physically and psychologically from my co-worker try transferring to another position or part of the organization monitor the situation using a computer public speaking calculating formulas and manipulating numbers manual dexterity gathering and interpreting information performing technical requirements anticipating problems in this role solving complex problems completing artistic projects speaking with customers or clients documenting my work managing multiple accounts basic problem-solving bookkeeping or accounting planning a budget writing a business proposal establish a network of contacts gain control over subordinates handle disturbances and conflicts dole out rewards and punishments effectively take risks and implement innovations communicate a vision develop trusting relationships forecast and adapt to changes delegate and share work load anticipate personal style differences and special needs manage problem employees create a positive work culture deal with a workplace bully retain talented employees recruit talented employees increase productivity improve morale transition from peer to manager only a minor irritant something that could become more serious a serious disturbance at work renegotiate my job description enroll in a training program to gain the skills I need try to find another job inside the company or industry that matches my skills better redouble my efforts to learn these skills on my own without help keep an open mind and be flexible so that I can more easily modify my response if need be not try to force communication if familiarizing myself with knowing what sort of changes I should watch for in be controlled by my fears stay stuck struggle finding solutions to problems struggle with setbacks and disappointment be less productive be passed over for promotions and other opportunities be perceived as a less effective team member be disappointed in myself feel shame for not taking a risk lose my self-respect undermine my self-confidence experience physical and emotional effects of unnecessary stress be controlled by my fears have crisis and chaos at home and work stay stuck be less productive be passed over for promotions and other opportunities be perceived as a less effective team member have less job satisfaction sabotage my career and life goals be disappointed in myself feel shame for not taking a risk lose my self-respect undermine my self-confidence be reactive at work and home experience physical and emotional effects of unnecessary stress analyze situations and make informed decisions think through a problem, idea or issue clearly and thoroughly make things happen by organizing people and events be respectful of different views be concerned about politics donate money or belongings to a worthy cause expand my understanding of the environment, myself, people or topics that interest me get involved in a particular cause join in group activities whenever possible keep myself aware of current issues make a commitment to my community make a positive impact in my community spend time with other politically aware people volunteer my time and efforts to a worthy cause volunteer my time promoting the welfare of humanity getting professional medical or legal or financial help using money or other resources to get something changed insisting on my rights revamping my résumé taking risks and reach beyond my potential disciplining myself to plan a career taking a more junior position and working my way up developing a daily routine and schedule that includes time everyday to work on this issue there are limits to the amount of time and resources I can devote to this problem there are limits to the amount of interest and attention others can give to this problem other peoples attitudes can be hard to change there are institutional or legal rules or regulations that have to be followed there are limited job opportunities in my area for my current skill set other people have their own agendas there is some "group think" that prevents full and open discussion there are family or social pressures to conform to there are strong penalties for not conforming or obeying there are limitations imposed by place and circumstances there are timetables that cant be changed there is a lack of support or cooperation there are strong differences of opinion I may need to make significant changes to resolve this issue I may need to do things I dont want to do to resolve this issue there are people who are unavailable or unreceptive to my input set more realistic expectations for myself set a realistic timetable for resolving this problem acknowledge the specific limitations and find a way to work around them try to turn the limitation into some kind of advantage take on more responsibility and initiative get more help to compensate for this limitation be more flexible and creative in approaching this problem stick it out when things become difficult have more patience if I don?t see immediate results forgo unnecessary expenses and use that money to acquire the resources I need work through the problem instead of trying to get around it or avoid it make the most of the resources I have to work with ignore possibly unhelpful and critical attitudes of others I am being asked to change too much I am being denied important resources I am facing too much disappointment I cant be accepted by others as much as I want to be I may have to give up familiar roles or patterns I have to make difficult choices I am facing too much pressure I am experiencing too much loss I cant advance myself the way I want to I am losing my privacy my rights are being violated I dont have enough time to do what I want be more in control of my life have peace of mind look forward to the future enjoy my life more have better relationships be relieved from a lot of inner pressure be able to support myself and my loved ones be more open to new experiences and opportunities achieve my goals more efficiently be able to stand on my own two feet feel more productive be held in high regard by others have a greater sense of achievement achieve freedom from chaos and crisis have a sense of purpose and direction be more at ease with myself be proud of myself feel accomplished feel more secure and safe a few days a few weeks a few months a year several years Ive tried everything I could think of to resolve this issue and worked really hard Ive made some attempts to resolve the issue, but didnt really try as hard as I could have I havent really done much to resolve this issue challenge my worries and self-limiting beliefs to see if theyre true not let what other people think have so much power over me remind myself that facing my problems is a sign of a strong, responsible person realize its my actions that define me, not what other people think or say realize that many of my concerns are actually fears and doubts I have about myself realize that Im being harder on myself than my friends and family are realize that I cant control what other people think, so I may as well do what I need to do talk to my friends and family about what Im going through there are limits to the amount of time and resources I can devote to this problem there are limits to the amount of interest and attention others can give to this problem other peoples attitudes can be hard to change there are institutional or legal rules or regulations that have to be followed there is limited information about this problem other people have their own agendas there is some "group think" that prevents full and open discussion there are family or social pressures to conform to there are strong penalties for not conforming or obeying there are limitations imposed by place and circumstances there are timetables that cant be changed there is a lack of support or cooperation there are strong differences of opinion there are conflicting needs and points of view there are incompatible personalities there are people who are unavailable or unreceptive to my input set more realistic expectations for myself set a realistic timetable for resolving this problem acknowledge the specific limitations and find a way to work around them explore specific limitations to determine how difficult they actually are try to turn the limitation into some kind of advantage take on more responsibility and initiative get more help to compensate for this limitation be more creative and flexible in approaching this problem stick it out when things become difficult have more patience if I don't see immediate results forgo unnecessary expenses and use that money to acquire the resources I need work through the problem instead of trying to get around it or avoid it make the most of the resources I have to work with ignore possibly unhelpful and critical attitudes of others I am being asked to change too much I am being denied important resources I am facing too much disappointment I cant be accepted by others as much as I want to be I may have to give up familiar roles or patterns I have to make difficult choices I am facing too much pressure I am experiencing too much loss I cant advance myself the way I want to I am losing my privacy my rights are being violated I dont have enough time to do what I want be more in control of my life have peace of mind look forward to the future enjoy my life more have better relationships be relieved from a lot of inner pressure stay stuck struggle finding solutions to problems struggle with setbacks and disappointment feel like a hypocrite have a lack of direction and purpose feel hopeless be more susceptible to mental health issues like anxiety and depression damage or lose important relationships have conflict and tension with others be disappointed in myself feel isolated lose my self-respect experience physical and emotional effects of unnecessary stress providing financial assistance interceding on my behalf with the other party or parties involved hostile pessimistic closed off defensive rejecting of help be more persistent be more aggressive devote more time and attention to solving this problem monitor my progress regularly in resolving this issue be more open to ideas on how to solve this problem be receptive to help from others accept responsibility for my role in creating and perpetuating this problem be more decisive in taking actions to solve this problem be more sensitive to the needs and sensitivity of others be more aware of how others might view and react to my attitudes and behaviors providing financial assistance interceding on my behalf with the other party or parties involved providing moral support or encouragement providing a shoulder to lean on when Im feeling stressed providing guidance or information there are limits to the amount of time and resources I can devote to this problem there are limits to the amount of interest and attention others can give to this problem other peoples attitudes can be hard to change there are institutional or legal rules or regulations that have to be followed there are limited job opportunities in my area for my current skill set other people have their own agendas there is some "group think" that prevents full and open discussion there are family or social pressures to conform to there are limitations imposed by place and circumstances there are timetables that cant be changed there is a lack of support or cooperation there are strong differences of opinion there are conflicting needs and points of view there are incompatible personalities there are people who are unavailable or unreceptive to my input set more realistic expectations for myself set a realistic timetable for resolving this problem acknowledge the specific limitations and find a way to work around them explore specific limitations to determine how difficult they actually are try to turn the limitation into some kind of advantage take on more responsibility and initiative get more help to compensate for this limitation be more flexible and creative in approaching this problem stick it out when things become difficult have more patience if I don't see immediate results forgo unnecessary expenses and use that money to acquire the resources I need work through the problem instead of trying to get around it or avoid it make the most of the resources I have to work with ignore possibly unhelpful and critical attitudes of others not have this problem hanging over my head anymore seek advice from friends and family research how others have handled this situation seek the advice of experts consult resources like books and software programs explore community resources and social agencies seek information from consumer advocacy websites and/or organizations read self-help books watch self-help DVDs and videos visit consumer review websites to learn about resources and products focus on how good it will feel to not have this problem hanging over my head providing moral support or encouragement applying respectful pressure on organizations to secure the resources I need by calling everyday or writing letters or emails, etc. convincing others to help by being persuasive convincing others to help by appealing to their sympathy striking bargains with people to help me resolve my problem striking bargains with organizations to help me resolve my problem getting professional medical or legal or financial help using money or other resources to get something changed insisting on my rights insisting that others carry out their responsibilities insisting that others be fair to me setting limits so I am not taken advantage of money and finances regarding lifelong care for be aware of body language be honest about my needs and express them to others when appropriate learn how to listen show interest in other people's interests when having a conversation grab an opportunity when it presents itself make things happen by organizing people and events take more initiative in making the first move allow myself the freedom not to be serious or responsible all the time allow myself to be open to the joys of emotional excitement convey feelings through by body, face or tone of voice let down my guard or walls let go, relax and let the child in me come out be open and receptive to the needs of others allow myself the freedom and space to fantasize choose a sexual partner who is accepting of me enjoy sexuality in myself and in my partner explore how to please myself and my partner physically balance the give and take of my intimacy learn to be in the moment stay stuck experience physical and emotional effects of unnecessary stress be more susceptible to mental health issues like anxiety and depression feel guilty feel hopeless be controlled by my fears of rejection be perceived negatively by my loved ones damage or lose important intimacy have conflict and tension with others hurt others needlessly lose my family miss opportunities to enjoy fun activities with loved ones miss out on the comfort of mutually satisfying intimacy sabotage my relationship and life goals be disappointed in myself feel isolated feel shame for not taking a risk performance pressures pressure to learn new skills limited resources insufficient guidance unhealthy environmental conditions policies that are too difficult to follow obstacles that interfere with important deadlines work that is too difficult unclear responsibilities illegal or unethical practices going on boredom or a lack of change in routine unfair promotional practices a lack of organization a culture of fear a lack of vision and direction an uncollaborative environment focusing on problems instead of solutions a practice of not sharing information workplace bullying infighting between individual employees and/or departments only a minor irritant something that could become more serious a serious disturbance at work establishing a friendly relationship with allow myself to make mistakes and try again assemble appropriate tools and resources be open to positive and critical feedback from others think through a problem, idea or issue clearly and thoroughly develop problem-solving skills and management skills enroll in advanced training programs or continuing education explore my talents and take steps to develop them grab an opportunity when it presents itself take risks and reach beyond my potential work with a mentor develop a personal code of conduct do what I know is right even when its inconvenient or costly expand my understanding of the environment, myself, people or topics that interest me join in group activities whenever possible keep myself aware of current issues schedule time to do what makes me happy and acknowledge my right to do so accept help or support from others balance work and leisure time be more open to new experiences and opportunities achieve my goals more efficiently enjoy my work more be consistent in my thoughts and actions be held in high regard by others have a greater sense of achievement achieve freedom from chaos and crisis have more energy have more time for myself and others be more at ease with myself be proud of myself feel accomplished feel more secure and safe have more time to relax will probably understand my position, stop pressuring me and the conflict will be resolved will probably react negatively, still not understand my position and continue to pressure me will not make me do what Im being pressured to do might make me give in and do what Im being pressured to do accept that we have differences of opinion and let the situation blow over continue to explain myself and refine the conversation as needed, until I get my point of view across seek professional mediation lessen its impact on other people get more information or resources in order to begin make a smaller change first overcome a specific obstacle thats standing in my way be very careful about the timing balance other competing interests put together a plan finish an important project first enlist the help of other people who have an interest in my doing this rearrange financial matters simply doesn't like the way I'm being pressured just doesn't want to give into the pressure feels like Im being controlled feels like Im being bullied or steamrolled into it doesn't agree with the way Im being pressured to make the change feels that the proposed timetable is unrealistic feels that if I dont make this change perfectly, I will be pressured even more, so Id rather not do it at all I want to have a conversation about the way Im being pressured I want to just go ahead and make this change not let my frustration or resentment distract me from doing what I need to do take back my power by taking action accept the reality of the situation and deal with it prioritize whats most important grieve the loss of my old ways, but not let it derail me from moving forward If I don't achieve all the results I want, I'll feel like a failure, even though it won't make a critical difference, since my solution can be improved, undone, or fixed if I try again. If I don't get the outcome I want with this one try, it will make a critical difference because the outcome cannot be repaired, improved, or undone with another try. I think that my fear of failure is valid I dont think that my fear of failure is valid being, cold, angry, or belittling toward me excluding me being competitive with me not providing enough guidance causing too many arguments acting in a way that I do not respect or that does not build trust nagging me to change my work habits misrepresenting me to other people undermining my efforts to advance myself invading my privacy violating my rights bullying me being punitive toward me holding me to different standard than my co-workers putting me in "no-win" situations setting me up for failure gossiping about me turning my co-workers against me only a minor irritant something that could become more serious a serious disturbance talk directly to ask someone to speak with my boss on my behalf change my own behavior or response distance myself physically and psychologically from my boss try transferring to another position or part of the organization monitor the situation paraphrase what I think make bridging gestures and statements be aware of body language learn how to listen take more initiative in making the first move relieve someones pain and suffering respect the boundaries of others allow for changes in other people do things which please others forgive and forget past hurts let others function independently and let go when the need arises make a commitment to another person make a commitment to my family reassess my relationship when I feel trapped, restless or that the grass is greener and choose the more responsible choice when appropriate shift the focus from myself to other people spend quality time with another person evaluate criticism or praise as information about myself be honest about my needs and express them to others when appropriate accept myself allow myself to be open to the joys of emotional excitement become involved in a self-help or support group find healthy activity partners with whom to have fun and enjoy life allow myself to be the center of attention forgive and forget past hurts let others do things for me spend quality time with another person trust others when its appropriate accept help or support from others learn to be in the moment let down my guard or walls stay stuck waste time on unproductive activities feel like a hypocrite have a lack of direction and purpose feel embarrassed feel guilty be perceived negatively by my loved ones have conflict and tension with others be disappointed in myself feel shame for not taking a risk lose my self-respect experience physical and emotional effects of unnecessary stress be controlled by my fears stay stuck be less productive be passed over for promotions and other opportunities be perceived as a less effective team member have a lack of direction and purpose be perceived negatively by my loved ones be disappointed in myself feel shame for not taking a risk lose my self-respect undermine my self-confidence experience physical and emotional effects of unnecessary stress be given more responsibilities feel ineffectual and incompetent be controlled by my fears stay stuck have a lack of direction and purpose be more susceptible to mental health issues like anxiety and depression be controlled by my fears of rejection damage or lose important intimacy have conflict and tension with others hurt others needlessly miss out on the comfort of mutually satisfying intimacy sabotage my relationship and life goals be disappointed in myself feel isolated lose my self-respect feel shame for not taking a risk experience physical and emotional effects of unnecessary stress be controlled by my fears stay stuck seek professional mediation do something else that is in my best interest as a compromise be respectful of be more open to new experiences and opportunities have better intimacy have better sex have less tension in my intimacy have more fulfilling intimacy be relieved from a lot of inner pressure be more creative and flexible be more open to new experiences and opportunities be consistent in my thoughts and actions be true to myself be more approachable have better intimacy be controlled by my fears of rejection damage or lose important intimacy have conflict and tension with others miss out on the comfort of mutually satisfying intimacy sabotage my relationship and life goals be disappointed in myself feel isolated lose my self-respect feel shame for not taking a risk experience physical and emotional effects of unnecessary stress have crisis and chaos at home and work stay stuck struggle finding solutions to problems be less productive be more susceptible to mental health issues like anxiety and depression be more susceptible to illness and injury not have enough energy to enjoy life damage or lose important intimacy have conflict and tension with others hurt others needlessly miss opportunities to enjoy fun activities with loved ones miss out on the comfort of mutually satisfying intimacy sabotage my relationship and life goals feel isolated be disappointed in myself experience physical and emotional effects of unnecessary stress learn the art of compromise be honest about my needs and express them to others when appropriate be tolerant of others live up to my standards make a commitment to my lifestyle make a commitment to myself allow myself to be open to the joys of emotional excitement become involved in a self-help or support group let down my guard or walls be more faithful be open and receptive to the needs of others make a commitment to another person make a commitment to my family reassess my relationship when I feel trapped, restless or that the grass is greener and choose the more responsible choice when appropriate shift the focus from myself to other people spend quality time with another person tolerate imperfections in others balance work and leisure time be aware of body language be an adult trouble sleeping or sleeping too much headaches and sweating when thinking about war experiences rapid heartbeat or breathing existing health problems become worse upset stomach or trouble eating trouble concentrating jumpiness or be easily startled guardedness, hypervigilance and extreme concern about safety and security a desire to avoid people or places related to the trauma a desire to drink, smoke, or use drugs inappropriately or in excess disinterest in exercise, maintaining proper diet, or being involved in own health care bad dreams or nightmares flashbacks or frequent unwanted memories anger feelings of nervousness, helplessness, or fearfulness feelings of guilt, self-blame, or shame feeling of sadness or abandonment agitation or irritability hopeless about the future shock, numbness, inability to feel happy unwanted memories or flashbacks be independent and responsible give up my excuses be made fun of by others be rejected by others lose the respect of others fail and appear foolish feel awkward feel confused feel out of control feel overwhelmed when I dont know how to do something well when I feel anxiety when I feel depressed when I feel disappointed when I feel lonely when I feel rejected when I feel shy or socially awkward at work in general when dealing with money matters when I feel overwhelmed when I feel tired have more energy there are limits to the amount of time and resources I can devote to this problem there are limits to the amount of interest and attention others can give to this problem other peoples attitudes can be hard to change there are institutional or legal rules or regulations that have to be followed there are limited job opportunities in my area for my current skill set other people have their own agendas there is some "group think" that prevents full and open discussion there are family or social pressures to conform to there are limitations imposed by place and circumstances there are timetables that cant be changed there is a lack of support or cooperation there are strong differences of opinion there are conflicting needs and points of view there are incompatible personalities there are people who are unavailable or unreceptive to my input set more realistic expectations for myself set a realistic timetable for resolving this problem acknowledge the specific limitations and find a way to work around them try to turn the limitation into some kind of advantage take on more responsibility and initiative get more help to compensate for this limitation be more flexible and creative in approaching this problem stick it out when things become difficult have more patience if I don't see immediate results forgo unnecessary expenses and use that money to acquire the resources I need work through the problem instead of trying to get around it or avoid it make the most of the resources I have to work with ignore possibly unhelpful and critical attitudes of others be honest about my needs and express them to others when appropriate I am being asked to change too much I am being denied important resources I am facing too much disappointment I cant be accepted by others as much as I want to be I may have to give up familiar roles or patterns I have to make difficult choices I am facing too much pressure I am experiencing too much loss I cant advance myself the way I want to I am losing my privacy my rights are being violated I dont have enough time to do what I want be more in control of my life have peace of mind look forward to the future enjoy my life more have better relationships have a conversation with change my behavior since I now see that I've been adding to the tension. depending too much on him being mean or cruel being cold or rejecting being selfish or self-centered being envious or jealous being too competitive not expressing my positive feelings taking my stress out on others being possessive and not letting go being narrow-minded or short-sighted withdrawing or shutting down being intolerant of others' differences being moody or irritable blaming the wrong person being too direct and honest not expressing my anger or hurt emotions purposely provoking a negative response being too controlling or judgmental expressing my negative feelings inappropriately depending on him too much being mean or cruel being cold or rejecting being selfish or self-centered being envious or jealous being too competitive not expressing my positive feelings taking my stress out on others being possessive and not letting go being narrow-minded or short-sighted withdrawing or shutting down being intolerant of others' differences being moody or irritable blaming the wrong person being too direct and honest not expressing my angry or hurt emotions purposely provoking a negative response being too controlling or judgmental expressing my negative feelings inappropriately depending too much on her being mean or cruel being cold or rejecting being selfish or self-centered being envious or jealous being too competitive not expressing my positive feelings taking my stress out on others being possessive and not letting go being narrow-minded or short-sighted withdrawing or shutting down being intolerant of others' differences being moody or irritable blaming the wrong person being too direct and honest he is temporarily under a lot of stress he behaves this way with everyone; it's just part of his personality he isn't aware of how he is behaving he is going through a difficult time he is experiencing pain from health problems or injuries learn to accept or adapt to these other factors and try not to take it too personally have a conversation with change the way I respond to learn to accept or adapt to the aspects of this situation that have occurred in response to my overreacting have a conversation with change my own behavior since I now see that I've been overreacting try to find a compromise and create a give-a-little-get-a-little solution give up my position regarding this topic because it's no longer important for me to pursue my point of view maintain my position regarding this topic because it's important to me and I think I'm right might be backing down because I feel bullied. am making a free choice and dont feel pushed into it. will feel better and less stressed lessen its impact on other people get more information or resources in order to begin make a smaller change first overcome a specific obstacle thats standing in my way be very careful about the timing balance other competing interests put together a plan finish an important project first enlist the help of other people who have an interest in my doing this rearrange financial matters learn to accept or adapt to these other factors and try not to take it too personally have a conversation with change the way I respond to be controlled by my fears struggle finding solutions to problems stay stuck be less productive be more susceptible to mental health issues like anxiety and depression feel guilty not have enough energy to enjoy life be controlled by my fears of rejection be perceived negatively by my loved ones damage or lose important intimacy have conflict and tension with others hurt others needlessly miss opportunities to enjoy fun activities with loved ones miss out on the comfort of mutually satisfying intimacy sabotage my relationship and life goals be disappointed in myself feel isolated feel shame for not taking a risk experience physical and emotional effects of unnecessary stress feel ineffectual and incompetent give up my excuses be independent and responsible be an adult be accountable for my actions be rejected by others lose the respect of others fail and appear foolish feel awkward feel confused feel out of control feel overwhelmed feel unsafe and insecure feel weak learn how to listen make direct eye contact when speaking with someone show interest in other peoples interests when having a conversation respect the boundaries of others treat my body with respect treat others with respect let down my guard or walls free myself from shame about body accept myself allow myself to be open to the joys of emotional excitement allow myself to feel free from guilt and blame be more playful and spontaneous experiment with new flavors, colors and music, etc. experiment with new types of music, dance, art and media, etc. feel, hear, smell and touch the world around me get to know my own body be open and receptive to the needs of others do things which please others let others do things for me allow myself the freedom and space to fantasize choose a sexual partner who is accepting of me enjoy sexuality in myself and in my partner explore different ways of achieving sexual satisfaction explore how to please myself and my partner emotionally explore how to please myself and my partner physically get to know my partners body learn to be in the moment evaluate criticism or praise as information about myself find interesting things to do to entertain myself when Im alone learn the art of compromise let go of the security of being taken care of and stand on my own feet be honest about my needs and express them to others when appropriate learn to fight fair learn how to listen set limits with others if theyre taking too much of my time show interest in other peoples interests when having a conversation respect the boundaries of others allow for changes in other people end abusive intimacy find healthy activity partners with whom to have fun and enjoy life forgive and forget past hurts let others function independently and let go when the need arises surround myself with people who are independent when I dont know how to do something well when I find tasks boring when I have more enjoyable pastimes that serve as distractions when I feel anxiety when I feel angry when I feel depressed when I feel shy or socially awkward at work in general when working with a team when I feel overwhelmed when I feel tired I have the weight of the world on my shoulders I have butterflies in my stomach I have knots in my stomach I am going to throw up I am going to pass out I can't breathe I have electric currents running through my body my head is going to explode I'm going to embarrass myself I'm in trouble I have no energy I'm crazy be relieved from a lot of inner pressure be able to support myself and my loved ones be more open to new experiences and opportunities achieve my goals more efficiently be able to stand on my own two feet feel more productive be held in high regard by others have a greater sense of achievement achieve freedom from chaos and crisis have sense of purpose and direction be more at ease with myself be proud of myself feel accomplished feel more secure and safe learn to accept or adapt to certain aspects of this situation in order to stop adding to the tension. becoming a clear communicator to improve my effectiveness with the Care Team, hospital administrators and representatives of other resources my family back home feel guilty or confused about my motives Even though it's risky, I need to pursue this action. The risk is too great, so I probably shouldn't pursue this action. Even though it's risky, I need to pursue this action. The risk is too great, so I probably shouldn't pursue this action. prove something to herself and others more than she wants to resolve the issue keep the focus on this issue rather than deal with a more difficult, underlying issue bolster or defend her ego not make any changes control things always be right prove something to myself and others more than I want to resolve the issue keep the focus on this issue rather than deal with a more difficult, underlying issue bolster or defend my ego not make any changes control things always be right try to find a compromise and create a give-a-little-get-a-little solution give up my position regarding this topic because it's no longer important for me to pursue my point of view maintain my position regarding this topic because it's important to me and I think I'm right might be backing down because I feel bullied. am making a free choice and dont feel pushed into it. download and review a copy of the Patient's Bill of Rights and familiarize myself with it if I believe download and review a copy of the Family Medical Leave Act and familiarize myself with it download and review a copy of the American's with Disabilities Act and familiarize myself with it find someone to help me if I think speak to our Case Manager if I have any concerns about figure out our financial picture create a budget based on our new circumstances explore the possibilities of generating additional income enroll for training or school to increase my skill set and marketability determine the government benefits for which we're eligible expecting something that may be unreasonable avoiding something I dont want to hear feeling uncomfortable with his intentions not in agreement with his assumptions or point of view overly sensitive to the issues that are being brought up blaming him for other people's contributions to the problem overwhelmed with too many things right now impatient or too easily disappointed avoiding facing my contribution to the problem expecting something that may be unreasonable avoiding something I dont want to hear feeling uncomfortable with her intentions not in agreement with her assumptions or point of view overly sensitive to the issues that are being brought up blaming her for other peoples contributions to a problem overwhelmed with too many things right now impatient or too easily disappointed avoiding facing my contribution to a problem trust others when its appropriate try to imagine how I would feel if I were in being disrespectful towards me not completing work in a satisfactory manner not working well with co-workers not responding to my feedback being competitive with me causing too many arguments acting in a way that I do not respect or that does not build trust nagging me about change misrepresenting me to other people undermining authority invading my privacy violating my rights expanding responsibilities without permission gossiping about me gossiping about others spreading rumors about the stability and/or management of the company bullying me bullying co-workers only a minor irritant something that could become more serious a serious disturbance have an initial conversation with my employee have a second meeting with my employee and inform take action on the disciplinary measure I warned my employee of crushed sad lazy torn apart fearful weak or shy silenced angry helpless violated frustrated worthless boxed in guilty powerless weighted down anxious inferior disconnected numb mean and cruel drained ashamed defective trapped jealous selfish uptight betrayed prove something to himself and others more than he wants to resolve the issue keep the focus on this issue rather than deal with a more difficult, underlying issue bolster or defend his ego not make any changes control things always be right prove something to herself and others more than she wants to resolve the issue keep the focus on this issue rather than deal with a more difficult, underlying issue bolster or defend her ego not make any changes control things always be right prove something to myself and others more than I want to resolve the issue keep the focus on this issue rather than deal with a more difficult, underlying issue bolster or defend my ego not make any changes control things always be right I have good and legitimate reasons for my point of view perhaps if I let go of my agenda, it will be easier to resolve this dispute resolving this tension is more important to me than winning if I acknowledge the external factors influencing this situation, it might decrease the tension between us leaving this issue unsolved makes me concerned for my well-being agreeing on this issue isn't that important and if it's left unresolved it won't damage our relationship that much try to find a compromise and create a give-a-little-get-a-little solution give up my position regarding this topic because it's no longer important for me to pursue my point of view maintain my position regarding this topic because it's important to me and I think I'm right might be backing down because I feel bullied. am making a free choice and dont feel pushed into it. will feel better and less stressed might feel resentful and/or put myself in an even worse situation I still think I should give up my position I think I should try for a compromise instead of giving up my position I think that I have good reasons for wanting to maintain my position. I think I might just be acting stubborn because I dont want to back down or compromise. I think the tension between us might get worse I dont think the tension between us will get any worse I've decided to continue asserting my position. I don't want to compromise on this issue. I've decided to be flexible with my position and try to reach a compromise. accept that we have a difference or differences of opinion about this issue choose to respond differently to minimize the tension by establishing reasonable boundaries in how we discuss the issue prepare for the possible negative consequences of what I plan to do knowing how to handle situations in which I don't feel that knowing how to handle situations in which I don't feel that be more in control of my life be more on top of things at work and home be more open to new experiences and opportunities handle disappointments and setbacks with greater ease be a more effective team member be more productive achieve freedom from chaos and crisis have better mental health have peace of mind look forward to the future have a better support network have better relationships have less tension in my relationships have more fulfilling relationships feel more secure and safe be relieved from a lot of inner pressure be more in control of my life be more open to new experiences and opportunities be a more effective team member be more productive enjoy my work more have a better chance of being promoted be held in high regard by others be true to myself achieve freedom from chaos and crisis have peace of mind be more approachable get along better with people at work have a better support network have better relationships have better relationships have less tension in my relationships have more fulfilling relationships be more in control of my emotions, thoughts and behaviors ask questions that require more than a one-word response be aware of body language learn how to listen listen to others without interrupting listen to other peoples points of view make direct eye contact when speaking with someone show interest in other peoples interests when having a conversation smile more join in group activities whenever possible allow myself the freedom not to be serious or responsible all the time let down my guard or walls let go, relax and let the child in me come out shift the focus from myself to other people spend quality time with another person tolerate imperfections in others take more initiative in making the first move allow myself to make mistakes and try again be open to positive and critical feedback from others evaluate criticism or praise as information about myself ask questions that require more than a one-word response be aware of body language learn how to listen make direct eye contact when speaking with someone show interest in other peoples interests when having a conversation be respectful of different views respect the boundaries of others keep myself aware of current issues let down my guard or walls let go, relax and let the child in me come out be open and receptive to the needs of others shift the focus from myself to other people when I dont know how to do something well when I feel angry when I feel anxiety when I feel depressed when I feel disappointed when I feel rejected when I feel lonely when I feel shy or socially awkward on dates when trying to express feelings when trying to express needs when I feel overwhelmed when I feel tired balance the give and take of my intimacy leave an unsatisfactory situation when its appropriate to do so learn the art of compromise be open to positive and critical feedback from others be aware of body language be honest about my needs and express them to others when appropriate learn to fight fair learn how to listen take more initiative in making the first move accept myself allow myself the freedom not to be serious or responsible all the time allow myself to be open to the joys of emotional excitement let down my guard or walls end abusive intimacy find healthy activity partners with whom to have fun and enjoy life forgive and forget past hurts let others do things for me do things which please others spend quality time with another person spend time doing things on my own trust others when its appropriate allow myself the freedom and space to fantasize accept help or support from others balance the give and take of my intimacy leave an unsatisfactory situation when its appropriate to do so learn to be in the moment be more in control of my life be more open to new experiences and opportunities achieve my goals more efficiently be a more effective team member be more productive enjoy my work more have a better chance of being promoted be held in high regard by others be true to myself have a greater sense of achievement have clarity of purpose and direction set a good example for others achieve freedom from chaos and crisis look forward to the future get along better with people at work have a better support network be proud of myself feel accomplished feel more secure and safe be relieved from a lot of inner pressure be better able to solve problems be more creative and flexible be more open to new experiences and opportunities achieve my goals more efficiently be a more effective team member when I dont know how to do something well when I find tasks boring when I feel anxiety when I feel depressed at work in general when I feel overwhelmed when I feel tired when I dont know how to do something well when I have more enjoyable pastimes that serve as distractions when I feel angry when I feel anxiety when I feel depressed when I feel shy or socially awkward at work in general when working with a team during disagreements or conflict with others with new people when I feel overwhelmed when I feel tired simply doesn't like the way I'm being pressured just doesn't want to give into the pressure feels like Im being controlled feels like Im being bullied or steamrolled into it doesn't agree with the way Im being pressured to make the change feels that the proposed timetable is unrealistic feels that if I dont make this change perfectly, I will be pressured even more, so Id rather not do it at all try to resolve disagreements directly with the other person before moving up the chain of command speak with a support person to reality test my thoughts and feelings about the situation and how to best proceed when I find tasks boring when I have more enjoyable pastimes that serve as distractions when I feel angry when I feel anxiety when I feel depressed when I feel disappointed when I feel rejected when I feel overwhelmed when I feel tired when I feel overwhelmed when I dont know how to do something well when I find tasks boring when I have more enjoyable pastimes that serve as distractions when I feel bored when its more difficult to do the "right" thing than the "easy" thing when I think theres an easy way out when I feel tired be more open to new experiences and opportunities achieve my goals more efficiently be a more effective team member have a better chance of being promoted be held in high regard by others be viewed as reliable and trustworthy make a positive impact in my community be more approachable get along better with people at work have a better support network have better relationships have better relationships have less tension in my relationships have more fulfilling relationships feel accepted be relieved from a lot of inner pressure accepting reality prioritizing, simplifying and delegating responsibilities slowing down and not rushing myself or others expecting the unexpected giving others and myself a break become more aware of feelings, situations and/or people who trigger my impatience, acknowledge it and deal with it identify the uncomfortable feelings that are being triggered and then talk about it with my Case Manager, Social Worker or other appropriate support person stop fighting reality and identify what I can do to be supportive and improve the situation stop thinking about the past and the way things used to be and focus on what I can do today stop projecting far into the future and focus on what I can do today be fact-based about how effective treatments and therapies are likely to be not make I want to have a conversation about the way Im being pressured I want to just go ahead and make this change be disappointed in myself experience physical and emotional effects of unnecessary stress be disappointed in myself stay stuck have a lack of direction and purpose undermine my self-confidence hurt others needlessly feel like a hypocrite feel guilty be perceived negatively by my loved ones damage or lose important relationships have conflict and tension with others lose my self-respect will feel better and less stressed might feel resentful and/or put myself in an even worse situation I still think I should give up my position I think I should try for a compromise instead of giving up my position pay attention to body language and facial expressions to gain more understanding pay attention to what is not said for additional clues about what restate what invite clarification by asking questions or requesting that ask have conflict and tension with co-workers experience physical and emotional effects of unnecessary stress struggle finding solutions to problems be less productive be passed over for promotions and other opportunities be disappointed in myself stay stuck have a lack of direction and purpose be more susceptible to illness and injury be perceived as a less effective team member sabotage my career and life goals hurt others needlessly be more susceptible to mental health issues like anxiety and depression feel like a hypocrite miss opportunities to enjoy fun activities with loved ones feel awkward be rejected by others fail and appear foolish lose part of my identity feel confused feel overwhelmed lose the respect of others see aspects of myself Ive tried to ignore feel ineffectual and incompetent feel unsafe and insecure discover things I'd rather not know be given more responsibilities have to be independent and responsible have to give up my excuses have to give up things I enjoy be proud of myself feel accepted be relieved from a lot of inner pressure be controlled by my fears stay stuck be off-putting to co-workers be passed over for promotions and other opportunities be controlled by my fears of rejection be perceived negatively by my loved ones damage or lose important relationships have conflict and tension with others miss out on the comfort of mutually satisfying relationships be disappointed in myself feel isolated feel shame for not taking a risk experience physical and emotional effects of unnecessary stress be controlled by my fears stay stuck struggle finding solutions to problems be off-putting to co-workers be perceived as a less effective team member have conflict and tension with others miss out on the comfort of mutually satisfying relationships be disappointed in myself feel isolated feel shame for not taking a risk analyze situations thoroughly and make informed decisions evaluate criticism or praise as information about myself rather than immediately reacting to it learn the art of compromise avoid criticizing or placing blame on others use humor to release tension in these situations be honest about my needs and express them to others when appropriate learn how to fight fair learn how to listen let go of the need to be right develop objectivity practice humility keep an open mind think before I speak or act instead of just reacting let go of the assumption that the world is against me respect the rights of others allow for changes in other people be open and receptive to the needs of others forgive and forget past hurts tolerate imperfections in others leave an unsatisfactory situation when its appropriate to do so accept that we have a difference or differences of opinion about this issue choose to respond differently to minimize the tension by establishing reasonable boundaries in how we discuss the issue prepare for the possible negative consequences of what I plan to do have better sex be more productive determine what ask how I can help or what have a conversation about how we communicate to see what frame my response as a question if I'm unsure how to respond (e.g., "I think you would like me to do x) try not to become frustrated if I don't know what keep an open mind and be flexible so that I can more easily modify my response if need be try not to take potential criticism of my response personally and instead use it as feedback to improve my communication skills analyze situations and make informed decisions be honest about my needs and express them to others when appropriate listen to other peoples points of view be assertive acknowledge the rights of others respect the boundaries of others respect the rights of others stand up for my personal rights treat others with respect leave an unsatisfactory situation when its appropriate to do so analyze situations and make informed decisions evaluate criticism or praise as information about myself be honest about my needs and express them to others when appropriate accept myself allow myself to be open to the joys of emotional excitement allow myself to feel free from guilt and blame let down my guard or walls let go, relax and let the child in me come out allow myself to be the center of attention forgive and forget past hurts let others do things for me spend quality time with another person have less tension in my intimacy have more fulfilling intimacy be more at ease with myself be more in control of my emotions, thoughts and behaviors be proud of myself be relieved from a lot of inner pressure be more open to new experiences and opportunities be consistent in my thoughts and actions be true to myself have peace of mind have a better support network have better intimacy have better sex have better intimacy have less tension in my intimacy have more fulfilling intimacy be more at ease with myself feel accepted feel more secure and safe be relieved from a lot of inner pressure when I feel anxiety when I feel depressed when I feel rejected when I feel shy or socially awkward when I feel overwhelmed when I feel tired when trying to express feelings when trying to express needs when I feel anxiety when I feel depressed when I feel rejected when I feel shy or socially awkward when I feel overwhelmed when I feel tired when trying to express feelings when trying to express needs experience physical and emotional effects of unnecessary stress have crisis and chaos at home and work stay stuck struggle finding solutions to problems struggle with setbacks and disappointment be less productive be off-putting to co-workers be passed over for promotions and other opportunities be perceived as a less effective team member sabotage my career and life goals be perceived negatively by my loved ones damage or lose important relationships have conflict and tension with others hurt others needlessly miss out on the comfort of mutually satisfying relationships feel isolated experience physical and emotional effects of unnecessary stress be controlled by my fears sabotage my career and life goals feel like a hypocrite feel embarrassed feel guilty be more susceptible to illness and injury enjoy my work more have a better chance of being promoted be true to myself have a greater sense of achievement have more fulfilling relationships be proud of myself feel accomplished be relieved from a lot of inner pressure be more in control of my time be more in control of my life achieve my goals more efficiently be a more effective team member have a better chance of being promoted be held in high regard by others be true to myself be viewed as reliable and trustworthy have a greater sense of achievement have clarity of purpose and direction make a positive impact in my community set a good example for others be more at ease with myself be proud of myself feel accomplished be relieved from a lot of inner pressure when I dont know how to do something well when I find tasks boring when I have more enjoyable pastimes that serve as distractions when I feel anxiety when I feel bored when I feel depressed when I feel shy or socially awkward at work in general when its more difficult to do the "right" thing than the "easy" thing with new people when I feel overwhelmed when I feel tired get angry shut down have no reaction give me a blank stare quit talking to me about it get depressed get defensive get sarcastic turn to someone else for support bring up times I didn't handle discussions well in the past become resentful blame me for everything be okay with it respond well share more when dealing with money matters when I find tasks boring at work in general figure out what adjustments we need to make to our home figure out what equipment we'll need to procure determine if we'll need to find local specialists once we return home determine how much assistance the VA will provide and what we'll need to cover accept that accept that remember that I wont always be able to get what I want, when I want it the way that I want it and handle this fact like a grown-up learn how to prioritize and do whats most important or most urgent first reconsider my To-Do List to see if Im taking on more than I need to do before I attempt to change my natural reaction to an overwhelming situation spread out my tasks so that Im doing only one thing at a time delegate responsibilities to others if and when appropriate learn to share the load whenever possible make my peace with not being able to do everything ask for help when I need it become better at being organized become better at managing my time be controlled by my fears of rejection trust others when its appropriate damage or lose important relationships have conflict and tension with others sabotage my relationship and life goals be disappointed in myself feel shame for not taking a risk lose my self-respect undermine my self-confidence experience physical and emotional effects of unnecessary stress be controlled by my fears stay stuck be controlled by my fears of rejection damage or lose important relationships have conflict and tension with others miss out on the comfort of mutually satisfying relationships sabotage my relationship and life goals be disappointed in myself feel isolated lose my self-respect feel shame for not taking a risk experience physical and emotional effects of unnecessary stress have crisis and chaos at home and work stay stuck struggle finding solutions to problems accept help or support from others leave an unsatisfactory situation when its appropriate to do so stop taking rejection personally take more initiative in making the first move allow myself to make mistakes and try again analyze situations and make informed decisions let go of the security of being taken care of and stand on my own feet be honest about my needs and express them to others when appropriate set limits with others if theyre taking too much of my time keep work and personal life separate and dont let one interfere with the other when possible respect the boundaries of others stand up for my personal rights balance the give and take of my relationships accept myself accept help or support from others allow myself to feel free from guilt and blame become involved in a self-help or support group find new healthy ways to soothe myself find healthy activity partners with whom to have fun and enjoy life end abusive relationships let others do things for me let others function independently and let go when the need arises reassess my relationship when I feel trapped, restless or that the grass is greener and choose the more responsible choice when appropriate spend time doing things on my own trust others when its appropriate be more in control of my life be more open to new experiences and opportunities be held in high regard by others be viewed as reliable and trustworthy have a greater sense of achievement have clarity of purpose and direction look forward to the future increase my life expectancy have a better support network have better intimacy have better sex have better intimacy have more fulfilling intimacy be proud of myself feel more secure and safe be relieved from a lot of inner pressure be more creative and flexible be more open to new experiences and opportunities be consistent in my thoughts and actions have better mental health have improved overall health when I have more enjoyable pastimes that serve as distractions when I feel anxiety when I feel bored when I feel depressed when I feel disappointed when I feel rejected during disagreements or conflict with others when I feel overwhelmed when I dont know how to do something well when I feel angry when I feel anxiety when I feel depressed when I feel disappointed when I feel rejected when I feel shy or socially awkward during disagreements or conflict with others during intimate moments when I feel overwhelmed when I feel tired be more creative and flexible be more in control of my life be more open to new experiences and opportunities handle disappointments and setbacks with greater ease enjoy my work more be consistent in my thoughts and actions be held in high regard by others be true to myself have clarity of purpose and direction have more integrity make a positive impact in my community set a good example for others achieve freedom from chaos and crisis have peace of mind look forward to the future have less tension in my relationships have more fulfilling relationships be more at ease with myself be more in control of my emotions, thoughts and behaviors feel more secure and safe be relieved from a lot of inner pressure allow myself to make mistakes and try again analyze situations and make informed decisions assemble appropriate tools and resources evaluate criticism or praise as information about myself find interesting things to do to entertain myself when Im alone find the right work situation or career to fit my ambitions and talents let go of the security of being taken care of and stand on my own feet make decisions be honest about my needs and express them to others when appropriate be assertive take more initiative in making the first move take risks and reach beyond my potential make a commitment to my lifestyle make a commitment to myself let others function independently and let go when the need arises spend time doing things on my own surround myself with people who are independent analyze situations and make informed decisions assemble appropriate tools and resources be open to positive and critical feedback from others find the right work situation or career to fit my ambitions and talents be assertive develop problem-solving skills and management skills discipline myself to plan a career enroll in advanced training programs or continuing education explore my talents and take steps to develop them explore new work options and opportunities grab an opportunity when it presents itself make a commitment to my job or career take charge of situations take more initiative in making the first move take risks and reach beyond my potential work with a mentor expand my understanding of the environment, myself, people or topics that interest me be more creative and flexible be more in control of my life be more open to new experiences and opportunities handle disappointments and setbacks with greater ease achieve my goals more efficiently be a more effective team member be more productive have a better chance of being promoted be consistent in my thoughts and actions be held in high regard by others be true to myself have a greater sense of achievement have clarity of purpose and direction have peace of mind be more approachable get along better with people at work have a better support network have better relationships have less tension in my relationships be more at ease with myself be more in control of my emotions, thoughts and behaviors be proud of myself be relieved from a lot of inner pressure feel guilty about what I want to do or say fear my goal will have harmful effects on others fear that Ill be successful and how it will change my life fear that it isnt worth the effort fear that Ill experience negative consequences fear that I will fail I think I have passed a certain deadline I think Im too old I dont think I have enough time to do what I want to do the other people or person involved is no longer interested or willing to help be less productive be more susceptible to mental health issues like anxiety and depression feel embarrassed feel hopeless not have enough energy to enjoy life be more susceptible to illness and injury have conflict and tension with others miss out on the comfort of mutually satisfying relationships be disappointed in myself feel isolated lose my self-respect undermine my self-confidence experience physical and emotional effects of unnecessary stress be controlled by my fears stay stuck be less productive be off-putting to co-workers be passed over for promotions and other opportunities be perceived as a less effective team member feel hopeless be controlled by my fears of rejection be perceived negatively by my loved ones damage or lose important relationships hurt others needlessly have conflict and tension with others miss out on the comfort of mutually satisfying relationships sabotage my relationship and life goals be disappointed in myself feel isolated feel shame for not taking a risk experience physical and emotional effects of unnecessary stress analyze situations and make informed decisions be aware of body language be honest about my needs and express them to others when appropriate learn how to listen show interest in other peoples interests when having a conversation take more initiative in making the first move respect the boundaries of others join in group activities whenever possible accept myself allow myself to be open to the joys of emotional excitement let down my guard or walls let go, relax and let the child in me come out end abusive relationships find healthy activity partners with whom to have fun and enjoy life reassess my relationship when I feel trapped, restless or that the grass is greener and choose the more responsible choice when appropriate spend quality time with another person am uncertain the outcome will be worth the effort dont think Im smart enough or capable enough to succeed fear that others will be opposed to or be unsupportive to my goal fear that others wont care or will be indifferent to what I want to do fear that others will be overly approving or controlling about what I want to do fear that others wont respond the way I hope theyll respond to what I want to do fear that Ill become angry with others who are involved with what I want to do feel guilty or confused about my motives feel guilty about what I want to do or say fear my goal will have harmful effects on others fear that Ill be successful and how it will change my life fear that it isnt worth the effort fear that Ill experience negative consequences fear that I will fail I am overwhelmed, waiting for the right time, or I am unsure why I am procrastinating. I think I can deal with the discomfort, even though I wish it would be easier. I don't think I could deal with this scenario because the immediate discomfort would probably be too great. I think I can bear the separation, rejection or distancing that may occur. I think the possible separation, rejection or distancing that may occur would be unbearable. I can accept a loss of money or privileges. A loss of money or privileges would be unacceptable. will actually occur directly following this one action will occur only if I take a series of steps after this one action I think I can deal with the discomfort, even though I wish it would be easier. I don't think I could deal with this scenario because the immediate discomfort would probably be too great. No, I am not procrastinating for this reason of the amount of time, energy and effort it will take to reach my goal I dont know where to start or how to begin I am trying to do too much at once I dont think I can achieve this goal on my own I dont have enough resources to do what I want to do Ive never tried to do anything like this before I dont have the necessary skills or information to be successful crushed sad lazy torn apart fearful weak or shy silenced angry helpless violated frustrated worthless boxed in guilty powerless weighted down anxious inferior disconnected numb mean and cruel drained ashamed defective trapped might feel resentful and/or put myself in an even worse situation I still think I should give up my position I think I should try for a compromise instead of giving up my position I think that I have good reasons for wanting to maintain my position. I think I might just be acting stubborn because I dont want to back down or compromise. I think the tension between us might get worse I dont think the tension between us will get any worse accept that we have a difference or differences of opinion about this issue choose to respond differently to minimize the tension by establishing reasonable boundaries in how we discuss the issue prepare for the possible negative consequences of what I plan to do humiliated go dancing I can gather support or approach my action in a controlled ans sensitive way to soften the impact so it's bearable. There's nothing I can do to get support or to soften the impact to make it bearable. I hope that one success will bring me relief and make me feel good about myself once and for all. If I succeed with this step, others will expect more of me and I won't be able to satisfy them. capable complete comparable torture at ease happy relief loved numb like a failure like I'm sabotaging myself weak undeserving hopeless powerless crushed worthless drained angry helpless torn apart disappointed insecure about my own self-worth afraid of all the powerful feelings inside me ugly gross dirty like a degenerate miserable had an explicit (verbal or written) agreement that he would act differently had an implicit (not verbal or written) understanding that she would act differently did NOT have an agreement read my mind make amends for things she isnt aware of because I havent told her give up her point of view in favor of mine stop what she is doing and respond to me immediately know what I want and need without having to be told give me exactly what I want give more to me than I gave to her put my needs first above all others do more than her fair share of the work not get angry with me even if I deserve it treat me with respect even though I don't treat her with respect bend the rules and give me special treatment trust me even when I don't deserve to be trusted accept me for who I am, even when I dont show the best part of myself treat me as if I've already made the changes I have in mind or plan to make nurture me and make me feel happy when I am unable to do it for myself tell me what I want or think I need to hear let me keep my feelings to myself let me get away with things